Does Your Man Like Your Natural Hair And Do You Care?

Does your man like your natural hair

Well, does he? And yes, do you ACTUALLY CARE? I find this topic or problem perplexing on so many levels. I mean…why are we even having this discussion in the first place?

OK, I get it. Your man, husband, boyfriend, significant other is important to you so what they think about you matters. So this two part question is a real-life dilemma for some women who are considering going natural, already going natural or who have been natural for a while.

Does your man like your natural hair?

I know this is kind of a loaded question since there could be a deeper meaning behind it like, who’s asking and what’s their ulterior motive? Are they hating on your hair or do they know your man and knows what he likes?

Well, scratch all that. It’s me asking and I’m just inquiring because apparently this can become an obstacle for some women when deciding to go natural. Let me start with a story I want to share.

A co-worker of mine wanted needed to go natural because her hair was breaking off badly. Her real problem was heat along with relaxing. She used a curling iron or a flat iron regularly but her hair was paying the price.


She decided to stop straightening her hair and allow it to curl naturally. It was beautiful, or at least I thought it was. She wore a curly fro like she did back in the day (she was older than me and actually had a fro back in the 70’s). Yet, she was self-conscious on how she looked despite what me and others in the office were saying. We all loved her hair.

Her hair was thriving, the breakage and thinning hair problem was disappearing. Happy ending, right? WRONG. After about a couple of months she was back to flat-ironing and using the curling iron. Her husband didn’t like her curly fro and preferred straight styles.

She had tried to appease him by wearing straight wigs but changed her mind and went back to what she knew he loved. I was shocked. Shocked at him and shocked at her but I kept my mouth shut. It wasn’t my place nor my relationship.

My opinion

I’m sorry but I’m not going bald for ANYBODY. My thinning hair was one of the reasons I went natural and the thought of going bald outside of an illness is sheer madness to me. I’m sure she told him her hair was breaking off or at least I hope she did. When does preference become abusive? I think it does when your preference harms me in some way.

Originally posted 2014-02-26 15:00:15.

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About Sabrina Perkins


Hello all, I'm Sabrina. I'm a freelance writer and a full-time blogger at my site, http://www.seriouslynatural.org/ where the focus is on Natural hair, beauty and style. I became natural 8 years ago at the tender age of 35 and love sharing my ups and downs as I master this thing called natural hair. Married, with two kids (one being a natural herself) gives me a different perspective on our hair and why I love being natural. I want healthy hair, long hair and sexy hair! I'm an older natural---that's right---I'm grown and sexy, and I have much to share. I love fashion too and recently opened a clothing shop for beautiful black women at www.seriouslynatural.spreadshirt.com

About Sabrina Perkins


Hello all, I'm Sabrina. I'm a freelance writer and a full-time blogger at my site, http://www.seriouslynatural.org/ where the focus is on Natural hair, beauty and style. I became natural 8 years ago at the tender age of 35 and love sharing my ups and downs as I master this thing called natural hair. Married, with two kids (one being a natural herself) gives me a different perspective on our hair and why I love being natural. I want healthy hair, long hair and sexy hair! I'm an older natural---that's right---I'm grown and sexy, and I have much to share. I love fashion too and recently opened a clothing shop for beautiful black women at www.seriouslynatural.spreadshirt.com

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Monique Wilson

My man loves my hair relaxed when I used those natural now or with a weave…. He loves my kinky hair….

Shalonda Lee Hood

My husband loves my natural hair. Especially when it’s in a fro. He absolutely hates weave.

Tiffany Calhoune

My partner hates my fro. Lol!

Tammie Faulkner Taylor

My man loves healthy hair. He loves natural healthy hair thats well maintained, and he doesn’t mind weave as long as it’s realistic and well maintained.
He’s a smart man. ☺

Shaughnessy King

My boyfriend is white, and he’s in love with my fro. When I do braid extentions he gets sad cause of the lack of soft texture to my hair in tight braids. He’s seen my fro long and he’s seen my fro long, he loves it either way. I do consult him to see what he likes most, but he’s happy with any style I choose!

Tonia Clifton

If he doesn’t get a wig and a weave, it solves multiple problems.

Tonia Clifton

Appreciation for the natural takes time.

Krystal White

Mine doesnt care as long as my hair is done.

Theresa Marie Bryant

Doesn’t mind it natural just doesn’t like the twa phase

Leah James
Leah James

Well I’m natural and I’m in the awkward stage phase I wear it up in two buns and I’m single but the guy I like who I am friends with loves my natural hair .He is black too and is pro black very awakened and conscious . Anyway he has the same curl pattern as me and he had long natural curly afro hair as a teen so that may be the reason why he loves my hair it’s like his hair . He cut it years ago though but because of me he is growing it out again . He also dates a bald girl before so hair is no big deal to him. I hope we date soon . Anyway I would not change my hair to please a man . It’s my hair I grew it not his . He can’t control me . Don’t like my hair and want a girl with straight hair leave and date outside . That’s my thoughts . Thank God I decided to go natural young . I’m in college .

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