Well, does he? And yes, do you ACTUALLY CARE? I find this topic or problem perplexing on so many levels. I mean…why are we even having this discussion in the first place?
OK, I get it. Your man, husband, boyfriend, significant other is important to you so what they think about you matters. So this two part question is a real-life dilemma for some women who are considering going natural, already going natural or who have been natural for a while.
Does your man like your natural hair?
I know this is kind of a loaded question since there could be a deeper meaning behind it like, who’s asking and what’s their ulterior motive? Are they hating on your hair or do they know your man and knows what he likes?
Well, scratch all that. It’s me asking and I’m just inquiring because apparently this can become an obstacle for some women when deciding to go natural. Let me start with a story I want to share.
A co-worker of mine wanted needed to go natural because her hair was breaking off badly. Her real problem was heat along with relaxing. She used a curling iron* or a flat iron* regularly but her hair was paying the price.
She decided to stop straightening her hair and allow it to curl naturally. It was beautiful, or at least I thought it was. She wore a curly fro like she did back in the day (she was older than me and actually had a fro back in the 70’s). Yet, she was self-conscious on how she looked despite what me and others in the office were saying. We all loved her hair.
Her hair was thriving, the breakage and thinning hair problem was disappearing. Happy ending, right? WRONG. After about a couple of months she was back to flat-ironing and using the curling iron*. Her husband didn’t like her curly fro and preferred straight styles.
She had tried to appease him by wearing straight wigs* but changed her mind and went back to what she knew he loved. I was shocked. Shocked at him and shocked at her but I kept my mouth shut. It wasn’t my place nor my relationship.
My opinion
I’m sorry but I’m not going bald for ANYBODY. My thinning hair was one of the reasons I went natural and the thought of going bald outside of an illness is sheer madness to me. I’m sure she told him her hair was breaking off or at least I hope she did. When does preference become abusive? I think it does when your preference harms me in some way.
Yes he does. And I hate it lol because I don’t like wearing fros but he wants my fro out all of the time
LOL. He love that fro, huh? Good for you.
To be honest with you Sabrina, I agree with you to a point. But to say all women should feel like you do, I disagree. For one thing, I am sure if a woman has a real reason to have a fro like her hair is coming out, her husband would understand. In reading your letter, you need to understand there are a lot of women who are, not just wanting a mate, but are desperate for a mate. All of us have different needs. Be careful, because that women with the mortgage and children may not be working, and if her husband leaves her because of her hair, then I don’t think her hair is going to be the top priority. Now if it is not just an I want thing and a need thing, she could make a deal like I did some years ago, I liked my hair short which is how my hair was when I met my husband, but when I got pregnant I let it grow out, which my hair is a nice length, close to half down my back. My husband loved it, but I like short so we cut a deal I wore it 5 years for me and 5 years for him. As he grew older it stopped being a concern for him. So prethink such statements like everybody should think let me, everybody doesn’t have your circumstance, I am just saying you are young, be careful. Have your feelings, state them, but don’t have women thinking they are stupid because they don’t think like you do.
Well said Marjorie, Sounds like a comment I made a few years ago when I got bored of hearing Beyonces back to back releases of man hating albums e.g All the Single Ladies, Irreplacable e.t.c while she is canoodling with her JayZ
I could care less what he likes!
LMAO! I get it. Ain’t nothing wrong with that.
Yes he does!!!
2nd that. I could care less too
AMEN/!!!!!
lmbo, I agree!!! Going natural for me started out as health reason, but that changed as I realized how empowering it was for me. Now after transitioning for 11 months and 2year(4/16) all natural I’m so glad I did it. I did it for me and only me. Natural for life!
Mine wanted me to return natural before I did….he loves it!! 🙂
loves it. but my hair is my choice. if he didn’t like it, too bad. lol
Understood.
Take all of me or have none of me. Those are his options.
Yes ma’am!
My sentiments exactly!
He likes the natural state & when I wear weaves/wigs. He’s not a picky man at all…he just wants me to look good to him…lol.
He sure does …. SOOOOO SOFT !!!!!
Why be with a man that acting like that. Thats some controlling shit there. My in natural hair, I LOVE YOU BOO. My baby in a weave, I LOVE YOU BOO, I just cant touch it, pull on it from behind (y’all know what I mean). Or get it wet.
He said he doesn’t but once I style it outside of the normal style he’s hand mysteriously find themselves in my head.
Actions speak louder than words.
My husband doesn’t mind me being natural but he doesn’t want me walking around with a fro on my head.
Yea, I get it. My husband doesn’t like cornrows so I never wear them and that’s fine with me.
My hubby prefers my hair relaxed. But he realized that I was serious about going natural. Now that it has been almost 2 years he had started playing with my natural locks and I think he gets more anxious than I do when I try out a new style. So even though he doesn’t prefer it, he had learned to accept it and supports me with it
Yes, because he loves you and that’s what’s important.
yea he does Damion Campbell 🙂
My honey loves it
My choice don’t Care
yes i am glad
My hubby encourage me to go Natural!!! Aint that something…
Ain’t nothing wrong with that!
He loves it. He just doesn’t like when I do some of the twist out processes.. he says I look like I came fresh out the field lol
I love that wild look. Love it to death. LOL
Yes but I don’t because my hair is soooo thick and I hate doing it…but I’m glad he likes it
It will get better.
Mine says he likes it but I am about 98% sure he is lying to not hurt my feelings. I care what he feels though. I always want my man to be attracted to me, while I won’t change who I am. I am willing to compromise.
Understood but he loves you more than your hair and taht’s a good thing.
yep…. He’ll say “whatever makes you happy babe”… im like okaaay.. But i “try” to keep it styled and nice sassy/sexy look… Thats what matters…. how its maintained/ managed
Yes and No but I’m still sexy and healthy so He still Loves me 🙂
Amen Princess Farris. IM SINGLE BUT ANY MAN WHO DOES NOT WILL NOT BE MINE!!!
That’s right. start a relationship off correctly.
Mine loves it and the more I wear it natural I’m falling in love with my hair.
Good for you!
My girlfriend is getting used to it she says she likes it ……I jus went natural a few days ago …..
Welcome to the journey!
I dont care what he like or dont like!..its my hair on my head & i will wear it accordingly to how I like it!
I feel ya.
He did not at first….now he is into it. I did it for me….Not him!!!
It would baffle me if he didn’t like my natural hair, because I would simply ask him, what type of hair do you think you have?!?! #TheSameAsIDo…..
Ain’t that the truth. Good way to deal with it.
Lol
the ultimative “i couldn´t care less” topic!!!
I wouldn’t care….
I have to do what’s best for me, and what makes me happy. He’s in a relationship with me, not my hair.
Exactly! I want to say that to the women who have issues with their men over their hair but some women really worry about that.
Idc! If a man or anybody likes my hair I pay for it to get done whatever way I want so no one has the right to comment!! My hair my money! That it!
He loves it but won’t let me use weaves and braids as a protective style…
LOL. they do have thier issues.
I have locs, my guy not really into them, but he dont say much about them, it doesnt matter tho, its my hair and my choice!!
Yes he does!!! He luv the styles and scalp massages omg he is da bestest!!!
My hubby loves my kinks! I was actually quite surprised 🙂
My hair my rules
My husband doesn’t mind me being natural but he doesn’t like TWA’s, so I’m transitioning 🙁
Hey, he’s working with you and that’s perfectly OK.
Mine does actually 🙂
Its not him modeling it frm it look good its what u like
My husband loves it. When it’s natural he can’t keep his hands out of it.
Yes, he loves it
He loves it! Discourages any talk of straightening it.
Mine does that now too.
My husband doesn’t care as long as I don’t cut it
It doesn’t matter to me either way but my husband looooooves my natural hair!
He loves it. He met me with it flat ironed but loved it more natural. He’s started to grow his hair out because of me.
Mines don’t but I love he will be ok
He didn’t at first…now thats its growing get makes a comment every now and then..I get more compliments from strangers
He’ll come around. Give it time.
Not at all and reminded me every chance he got I’ve been natural 11yrs he got used to me flatironing my hair one day i just stopped lol
He’s still with you so that means something.
He loves it! If your man doesn’t love your hair he needs a change in perspective. If he can’t see your beauty no matter what he should not be your man. He is not seeing the real you.
So true.
He loves it!!! He encourages me to keep it natural says he loves it this way.
I’m finding more and more men are being very vocal aobut our nautral hair and many love it.
Yes!! Robert Pittman Jr. Loves it!!!
I tell ’em you wear weave and a wig and then I’ll wear mine too! other than that if he’s rockin’ all natural so am I
My Hubs loves my natural hair!! He tells me my face is still the same, my hair is just different!! He also said it’s a part of me and as long as I like it I should be happy!! Anytime it’s in an afro, it’s pull time though, he loves pulling my afro!! lol
He likes it and he also likes my weaves. He says as long as I can pull it u can do whatever!!
In my opinion for the guys that dont, they are caught up in the AMERICAN fantasy world.. i.e. I was somewhere the other day, and a guy came up to a lady (they knew each other) she look nice and sexy, persay, and she had a natural-hair style (nice &neat) the guy immediately makes small talk w/ her and then says ” whats going on with your hair, she replied what u mean. he said “i mean… what are u doing with your hair…” she said “what you dont like it??” He didnt reply. then she said well imma straighten my hair in April… he said “Yea you do that …” i just looked at her liiike ” B… u gonna let him insult u like that …” IN other words ladies LOVE YOURSELF and the GUY WHO WANTS U, WILL TOOO!!! #iamnotmyhair… NOT #IamMyHairNaturalBeautiful
Exactly and he’s an A-hole for even saying that to her.
My man loved my locks (dreadlocks) most men I meet, love my hair this way. Black men love natural hair, its all about the style that you were your natural hair in
My husband has mentioned several times about how I should do my hair. He hints at getting it straightened and things like that but I honestly pay him no mind. Part could be my choice of styling. Even though I’ve been natural for a little over two years, I’m very much a beginner and is still learning my hair. So sometimes, yes, my hair may look below par. Everyday I’m learning and finding new styles. Once I get to where I love my hair and if he still have an issue then it will just be his problem. My hair is a part of me. In vows, it says for better or worse. If my hair falls into that category and if he feels that me bring natural is a deal breaker then that’s an issue for him not me.
Yes! He act like he was about to have a heart attack when I mentioned a perm lol
Lmao
i like the picture haha
He hates weaves…. i hate perms …. so natural was our compromise 🙂 Nothing but great times since the change!! 18months post and very PROUD 😉
My husband encouraged me to go natural. He is supporting me through the transition and makes me feel pretty on those days I want to go back!
You are lucky!
He loves it!!!!
I have heard the stupidest thinsg in regards to this and seen too, girls who have had locks their entire lives or had natural hair and they relax it just because the guy does not like it, same for relaxed hair girls too, who go natural because their guys do not like their hair processed. I know girls who go back and forth with being natural and relaxed, weaves, wigs, faux locks and dreads, bald etc depending on the taste of each persons they date, I am like wow, I find it insulting to, your hair is a personal intimate thing, its not just physical, its an emotional thing that can be pretty spiritual too, it makes me question women who are really fickle about their hair and change it not for themselves but for other people around them especially the man they date, he can state he does not like it, fine, but its yours to do with it what YOU feel comfortable and happy with.
You said a mouthful right here! I’ve known women who change their whole personality according to the likes of each man they date. Sad
I know. Its heart breaking. Saddening.
They have no sense of self love. People pleasers are never happy
I don’t want to knOW§
don’t think so.. but it is MY hair….
Yes, more than me! Even if he didn’t, it’s my hair and I wear it the way that I want to for the most part. A wise woman builds her house!
My man doesn’t care!
Yes mine man does like my natural hair. I really didn’t care if he didn’t.
Mine loves it he encourages me to do it
I like my coils. I went natural for health reasons. I think people in my surruonding believe what their mother told them, “If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all.” The people that like my hair gives me compliments and the ones that don’t, don’t say anything but I can tell they don’t like it. Oh well!!!!. I’ve had plenty of women that says “Oh I like your hair, I wish I could do mines like that”, and the only reason they don’t I and again I think is because of their spouse or boyfriend.
Probably so.
Nope and Nope!!
Who cares? Thats my damn hair. If he wants to be with me he will get use to it.
Yes he does he is not a fan of fake hair.
Don’t Have One! But Jesus Loves it Whether It Nature Or A Wig Or Weave!!!
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!! Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My husband a crazy thing for curly hair. He said their is just something sexy about a women being comfortable with who she is.
wow! that’s what my bf says, confidence is key for sure..
Not at all
He loves the natural and the weave
Well, he likes to pull my twa when intimate so I guess that’s a yes. Lol
buhahahaha! exactly! how can you not love that?!
I AM NOT MY HAIR!!!
He loves whatever way it may look
Mine loves my natural hair he hates it when I put in extentions … weave always brings arguments in my household .. He encourage me to go back to natural hair now am loving it . !!! Wish I’ve done it earlier. .
My italiano loves it….
My man loves it!
MY MAN HATES WEAVES.!!!.. all natural is a turn on to him 😉
Natural hair YES ! The styples SOMETIMES!
Who Cares if HE DOESN’T, If U Like It THAT’S ALL THAT MATTERS.
I think most men prefer natural hair verses weaves
Or…Does your man like your skin color?lol
Mine does he said he likes it better … When I straiting it he gets pissed!
My boyfriend loves my natural maybe even more than I do lol. I love it
YES! He ♥’s it
Ladies Please..Men Prefer It All..Weave, Natural, Long, Or Bald..Lol
I gave my honey (we aren’t married…yet) a heads up about what I was doing with my hair but I was going to do what I wanted to do. After he researched what I was doing, he was very understanding and supported me (even when I was experimenting and it turned out horrible). After a year, he loves it and the versatility of it!
I really cant believe this is a problem for some men really
My man tells me to put a ralexer in my hair.
My husband is not a fan. he doesn’t hate it but he doesn’t love it. he does however love me so it’s not an issue.
Don’t care but yup loves it
He loves & prefers my curls. Says he loves my “Caribbean” look.
Yep he likes it! He just think I have 2 much of it lol because he washes it for me
Yes it’s a Part of Me!
My man loves my natural hair because it’s part of me.
Yes he does lol
It only matters if you like it–not him!!!
No, he does not! : ( He will have to develop a love affair with my new style that is here to stay.
No he doesn’t however I do!!!
My guy loves my natural hair if anything I told him I was thinking of getting a weave and he hated the idea, he said it hides what he loves about me and that’s the feel of my curly hair 🙂
I do care what he thinks. My boyfriend say my natural hair once before also 4 years ago, he always said he loved it (it was flat ironed then got wet). I didn’t really believe him then last year I went natural, needless to say he was happy and admitted that he loved the smell my Natural hair gave off instead of my added hair.
He loves it, and he’s white, I have to keep telling him to keep his hands off my curls, he’s going to make them frizzy
Yes he Love it!!
Mine loves it. He is forever playing with my curls and I could care less if there is frizz
Mine loves it ! I was natural when we met it was just under wigs and sew ins. He said I should never go back to weave an got really upset when I did braids as a protective style lol
Yup he loves it
I get so tired of these hair discussions. You do what you want with your hair. The worst part is being judged or scrutinized for something like hair. “Natural” hair “permed” whatever, we will all still end up in a box beneath the earth eventually. It’s good to take care of your body and soul and look nice.
Why are you on a website that encourages hair discussions??
All you hafta do is X out and move on. OR just reD the article and don’t scroll any further
My hubby loves it, but im going back to relaxing it.
My husband didn’t to much care for it at first because I did the big chop but he warmed up to it because it was natural. Since it has grown, he likes it more. Glad to have a husband and not a boyfriend.
Mine loves my hair, likes to touch it, play with it by picking it up and letting it fall, flicking it and complimenting it. Calls me a cutie routinely! He may not say something with every new style I try, and that’s fine. I’m the one trying to smooth down my baby hair and he’s like “why? It’s natural let it do what it does!” I’m so very blessed and fortunate to be married to a man who focuses on larger issues in life and makes me feel good about myself–we are our own worst critic sometimes. He loves me for me not what is growing out of my head.
Yes my husband absolutely loves my natural hair, he loves that I am happy with my hair. He actually said that he wishes that I would have returned natural a long time ago.
God forbid if the women whose men don’t like their hair gets cancer and they can no longer relax it, or have hair at all. I wonder since hair is so important to them, will they stick around when she is throwing up, lethargic, in pain and bald.
Does he like it??? He LOVES it!!!!!!
He wouldn’t have it any other way. Personally, I think a black man who cannot support, or is against his BLACK woman wearing her natural hair has a psychological problem.
I went and got my hair locked and a week later my husband did the same thing. That was almost 4 years ago and we have been married almost 34 years.
My bf likes my natural hair, but let’s say a twist out doesn’t turn out how I was expecting it or I just forgot to do something to my hair the night before, he would hate if I grabbed my wig. I have a natural wig that looks just like my hair…and he hates it. He watches Tommy Sotomayor on YT and agrees with him (by saying women wearing weave or wigs look like hair hatted hooligans). It’s offensive not only to me, but to other women as well that like to switch things up every now and then. He even went with me to get a shorter wig when my hair was shorter and he picked it out (this was during my pregnancy last year) but months later, he told me he hated it and I looked a mess. That made me feel bad about myself because who doesn’t want their man to be attracted to them esp during pregnancy? It brought my self confidence down honestly and I changed the way I dressed, stopped wearing makeup (he hates that too) due to what he doesn’t like (and I just graduated with a Fashion Marketing and Design degree so appearance matters to me). I do agree with Nnenna Carr. I care about what he thinks, but I don’t like the feeling that I’m controlled and can’t wear what I want when I want. I’m 23 and it makes me mad and upset that he looks at other women (and likes all of their pictures on FB and they look EXACTLY like what he claims that he hates on me…weave and makeup) but tells me he doesn’t like me wearing any of that stuff. I’ve been natural for 6 years and I like changing things up every once in a while.
He loves when I rock my natural & he loves when I wear weave, wigs, etc so it’s not an issue with him.
I had been relaxed for 32 yrs and decided to go natural. I big chopped in Dec 2013 at a hair festival in Houston. I’m from New Mexico so I got off the plane natural. My man told me it’s my hair do what ever makes me happy. I’ve gotten nothing but compliments. I feel if your man loves you he wouldn’t care if you were bald. I’m a 3 x cancer survivor. Being blessed and living life is a blessing! God is good and I’m loving life and my TWA!
He likes it.
yes my man love it
Nooo
Yes my man loves whatever I choose to do with my hair! India Said it best, “I am not my hair”!
My huband witnessed me go through years of suffering from damage to my hair caused by relaxing as well as “client abuse” from several stylists. He has not only welcomed but embraced my decision to be natural. On another note, I have found that many women use their mates as excuses not to make the switch. Somehow it is easier for them to say “He doesn’t want me to go natural” than be honest and say “I don’t want to be natural. Go figure!
If your husband loves weaves, relaxers, straight hair,why doesn’t he do that to his own hair?! When a man cannot accept the real you sorry but he is questionable. It reminds me of Angela Bassett in “Waiting to Exhale” when her character said she is tired of being his white girl, hmmm. It’s time the standard of beauty changed!
My man loves my natural hair. He so supportive with whatever I have to do to keep my hair healthy. He actually goes to the hairdresser’s with me and stays with me till I’m done. And even when I’m floundering in my decision to go natural,he he’s always there to give me a boost.
He does,but quite frankly I wouldn’t care if he didn’t
He loves my natural hair. When we met I was just starting to transition. I had a closely shaved Mohawk. He dealt with me weaving it up and never complained. Now I have a full head and nice length he loves my curls or my straight. I no longer weave so that’s good for him also. He also rocks his little natural curls lol
My husband prefers me to go natural and I approve. I love it
My husband loves my natural hair he actually encouraged me to be natural and yes I do care, I value his opinion very much
I don’t care what anyone thinks about my hair. Especially a man. If they want long straight hair there are plenty other ethnicities they can choose. Just how i feel. (could be why i stay single)! Lol
Yes hunni!
Mine loves it, he even recently helped me dye it.
My boyfriend looooves my natural. He encouraged me to grow it out longer and healthy. I’m so happy he’s supportive!!!!
I don’t care whether he loves it or not. It’s my hair and I believe that this is healthier for my hair. So thats what I’ll do. And I think that it’s strange that when I woman walks around with her coily hair, it’s all of a sudden not need or well presented or whatever you call it. You should do what you want
He loves it <3
When I did the big chop, my husband probably had a mini heart attack. He tells me I like your hair certain ways that you wear it natural. I, at this point don’t care because my hair is thick and beautiful (never had thick hair before) and I have a daughter with beautiful hair that surprisingly, my husband does not like for me to put in anything but natural styles because he says it fits her (yeah he’s weird). He made the grave error of asking me did I want him to buy me a perm about a year in and has never made that mistake again. I think its about what we as woman are willing to accept. Men are always trying to make us fit the bill for them but never want to fit the bill for us. I told him when he loses the beer and beer belly, then maybe he can buy me a perm. Needless to say, I am still rocking my fro.
WHO CARES
I am transitioning to natural hair (6 months now) and honestly I could careless if anyone does not like my natural hair. Its been a redefining time for me, and I am loving getting to know what my natural hair looks like and feels. My hair and scalp is much healthier now then before. I no longer have the itchy scalp, dandruff and breakage, which is more the reason why I stand firm on my natural hair transition…Now my friend on the other hand is stuck on the European look, whatever that is (I guess straight and over kill relaxed hair). My comment back to him was maybe you need a European, because relaxing is no longer an option for me. lol
It’s my hair, not his!
This was a great article! My guy loves everything about my natural hair. Sometimes I think he love it more than I do, lol. Ever since I went natural almost 3 years ago, I haven’t had a problem with men not liking my hair. My male family members, friends, even coworkers all supported my decision to go natural and love it when I have my hair out.
My husband likes it. Actually he suggested that I give my natural hair a try!
My man didn’t like the big chop, but after it grew he started liking it
Yes, he really does love my hair natural. Yes, I do care about how he feels.
I’ve been natural for 8 years but never wore the curls. About 2 years ago I decided to start wearing it curly bc I live in Florida and straight just doesn’t always work in this humidity. He didn’t agree with it at first but he recognized that I liked it. Now he likes it. Even looks up new products for me to try.
I could care less!!!
My beloved husband prefers my “Natural” hair, and he absolutely adores it!! <3
Wouldn’t care if he didn’t.
I don’t care if he does or doesn’t
He loves it!! Its me either way and he knows I’m beautiful!! Plus he like the fact he can touch my natural hair..
WHO CARES IF HE LIKES IT OR NOT. BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT WEARING IT FOR HIM, IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOU ARE WEARING IT FOR YOUR SELF. NOW WHAT ABOUT THAT.
Yes my man loves me for who I am…even if I was bold he would love me..My hair doesn’t define me
he loves it.. when my afro is fully combed out, he thinks is sexy and wants me to wear the fro but its just too hard to manage at my length
Yes he better
My man loves my hair either way. I was natural when I met him. He loves my “fluffy-ness”…lol. I do switch it up and wear wigs when I want to give my hair a brief rest. His opinion, as long as I look good, it doesn’t matter what I have on.
Yes he does more than I do!
I have always been very strong and opinionated, especially concerning my
hair and my girl;s hair. My husband and other men in my past life, have never
interfered. I have always had the male support on our hair. Whether it was to wear
wigs, weaves, relaxers or to go natural. But my husband sure embraces the
natural. He loves our natural hair!!.
I really don’t care whether or not if he likes it or doesn’t like it, I’m doing it for me
i dont give give a damn if he loves me he should love me for me not because of the hair thats on my head
Mine does
I love black women with real hair… This black Root, not industry ROOT
YESSSSS?
I really couldn’t care less what any of these men think.
U mean does he like my negro hair without chemicals yes
Honestly I wasn’t sure how my husband would feel about me going natural so I would ease it into conversations here and there just to get his opinions on it. To my surprise he was all for natural hair and he also wants our future kids to be natural! He loves messing around in my hair and he just wants it to be out and free all the time but I don’t feel comfortable like that just yet. Ugh what a relief!!!!
No, but its not his decision
No and I don’t care
my hair is mine and its all about me! love me or leave me. im not a puppet!
I was in the store one day and I noticed this couple the woman was clearly natural with a small fro and it was clear that the guy didn’t want to be around her he would walk several steps behind her making it seem like he wasn’t with her I could see him looking at her low fro and my head full of curls like he was comparing is two. It was very disrespectful and I felt bad for the lady that her man was not supportive!! I’m happy to say that my girlfriend has supported me from the big chop until now and even of she didn’t i wouldn’t change a thing because in the end it’s my life, my journey, and my natural story no one else’s!!
My hair has been natural for about 4 yrs now.I now wear it pinned back with a bang,scarf etc… my son HATES my hair like this and says you have to put braids back in.Natural hair is a lot of maintenance which Im getting more use to.Its funny how others view your natural hair versus braids
He loves it, He’s my biggest supporter…
IT’S MY CHOICE, IF I HAD A MAN HE WOULD HAVE TO BE OPEN MINDED WITH THE CHOICE’S I MAKE.
Question should be…Why do Black Men frown upon Black women who wear their hair natural?
YES, he loves it…
no he don’t… I am stayin natural..
I like it which is all that matters but luckily so does my girlfriend!
He would prefer I have a relaxer. But, as my hair began to grow out longer, he just appreciated me having hair on my hair. I opted for the big chop.
I DONT care…..MANNA
A lot of black men have conformed to society also and just want to see either long straight hair or long straight weave. I wear my natural hair and whoever doesnt like it…needs to stop hating. 🙂
Yes,he loves my hair but doesn’t like it when it’s dyed and/or styled in braids,hype hairstyles,etc. I can’t help but laugh because he dosen’t have a head full of hair like when i meet him,so..i don’t care to much if he don’t!!!My HairMyWay
Yes Yes Yes ADW I love your hair short or long!!!
Been with mind 17 year and he didn’t like my hair when I was young but he like it now that we older. He said he was to young to understand the natural … But now he older he love it .
He ain’t got no d#*n choice!
he doesn’t like it and i don’t care
I am thinking that she was the one that did not like it and blamed it on her man, because personally, I don’t believe men care that much about hair!
Mine didn’t at first but now he loves it..
I had my ex tell me that he don’t like natural he like the weave
Yes.
I have never asked him and he has never said…sometimes are better left unsaid…but he loves me and wants me to be happy!
Yes, he loves it!
No but he will be ok it’s my hair I do what I want with it
Yep! Loves It!
Yes he loves it..
As a high school student in a relationship for 2 years with a Caucasian male, I’ve found that a lot of non-black people are actually interested in black hair! When I told my boyfriend I was going natural, he was fully supportive once I educated him on what it entailed, and actually asks me when I’m going to do the “Big Snip” (chop was too harsh of a word for him, haha) An Asian boy in one of my classes is actually quite curious about my hair, noting when I didn’t relax my hair and asking what the relaxer did. A lot of people just have no idea about black hair, and may have this interest that they are afraid of voicing because they don’t want to sound “weird” or “racist”. In my experience, at least where I live, it is the African American community itself that sometimes isn’t as accepting of natural hair. Maybe a lot of black men don’t appreciate natural hair as much because they grew up around it, or maybe saw their mothers relaxing it or had natural mothers. I know a boy who doesn’t like girls with black(color) hair because that’s the same color his mother’s hair is and it makes him feel weird. Who knows? Just love you for you; it’s YOUR hair. The right guy will see how confident you are and end up loving YOU too 🙂
Guess i have to find someone who accepts me. “please be gone”
Nope but I luv it
He loooves it! It’s because of him I went natural! He’s so the best! #blessed
hubby doesn’t care whether its natural or relaxed or weave BUT it has to be done- and i feel the same about him(clean shave and haircut)
I don’t have a man, but a lot of older men like women with natural hair.
Yes. And if he didn’t, he would not be my man.
He claims to like natural but he like anything I buy my hair most time so its whatever everyone like my style but him he ignore
No & I don’t care.
He absolutely loves me and the natural hair!!!!!
He liked the perm better, but the choice is mine! I have the faith of never ever again! I B’s a natural girl!
Most of the men I like are white/non-black and they don’t care what I do with my hair.
He doesn’t like and I told him he has to do with it or leave
I don’t care if he does or doesn’t . I’m rock me
we need to do what we like and what looks good unless your man fixes your hair himself or pays for you go get it done.
My hubby ask me why?? I guess now he’s ok with it!! If he don’t other MEN admire my natural hair with color!!! SO it is what it is!! I would love for him to like/love it!!! But if not I can’t make him!!! Sooooo!!!
Yes!
he actually suggested me going natural because he noticed I did not chemically straighten my hair regularly (over 5 years ago).
Well my ex did…speakin of natural hair think imma hit up them dominicans
Yes but won’t care if he didn’t
Don’t nobody like when their(men) hair bails out but we find away to tolerate their style. So women stop beating yourself up. We allow the man to beat us up. They don’t have allot of options so we are giving them too much Power!!
CHEA….!!!!dreds @ my waste
He tells me he does but whats important is that we like our own hair!!
If a man cannot accept me because of the natural hair I was born with…tootles.
Yea when i style it nice. Or get it straightened. But He prefer no weave just my hair
who cares wether he likes it or not its what us ladies are happy with
I asked my boyfriend how he would feel about me going natural and at first he wasn’t very supportive saying that he didn’t think natural look was for me. I checked him on that real quick, how is the hair that grows out of my head that was made just for me not right for me? He said all protective styles are ugly and he was very against big chopping but he is a visual creature so so far he has liked my hair styles, yes I have been protective styling, and I agreed to transition for a year without cutting it, he’s growing more supportive. I don’t give him too much say anyways
No. And no
He says he liked my relaxed hair better but explaining why I chose to cut my hair he appreciates it. He uses shea moisture products on his fro now, lets me deep condition, acv rinses, co wash lol. And if he didn’t like my natural hair I’d get some weave to make him happy but never a relaxer.
Oh no my husband don’t like my natural hair @ all
Did he express why? I had an ex who didn’t like my hair because he was use to seeing weaves, wigs, etc. he wasn’t use to the idea at all lol.
I have been getting compliments from men if all races. They tell me they think it is good to see a black woman with her natural hair.
his is natural also
White men love our natural hair the most. Natural hair
My bf is black and loves my hair, and though there are some black men who love natural hair, I do find that the majority of men from different races embrace natural hair more…a bit ironic if you asked me…
He loves mine just as much as I do!
Yes he does! thank goodness lol. I did date someone, however, who didn’t like it but I didn’t care it is my hair and I will wear it how I want. The same guy also didn’t like how I began my fitness journey he said he liked me to be thicker. I found it funny because at that time I didn’t care for myself as much and had a low self-esteem. Some men don’t like it when a woman is sure of herself, to me that is a sign of his own insecurity. Hair is hair, and it should not matter. As long as you’re rocking what you want and you’re confident about yourself shouldn’t matter because it’s your preference, and if the person you’re with has a problem then they can kick rocks with open toe shoes. That was one of the reasons why I split with my ex, I couldn’t be me smh…
Initially. . He was asking why my hair was looking “like that” (was wearing braidouts and transitioning). He said he thought it look better straight. I said I’m doing what’s best for me and my health explaining that this was a process and takes time. Be mindful that they don’t keep their hair tight at all on a regular basis. I went on to state.. have you looked in the mirror lately!? Who was he to judge and I was tired of the comments. I haven’t heard anything else since I made my points…
don’t care but yup he loves it
If i had one.. hehe why would he not? You love me for me right and not my hair. If i walked around looking crazy id get that. But if my hair is laid whipped dipped whatever. Why would it bother him? Like really, if he does not love the natural me, you can go
U know I like natural bubble
Mine is sooo happy with it and he gets soo exited he doesn’t want me to wear any protective styles lmao. And every time I have to explain that styling my hair helps me to retain length but he never understand.
He does,but hates extensions relaxer etc but i do whatever
Mmmmmmmmmmm had no complaints…been with eye hair fifty years…perm twist didn’t like it…stepped back into eye baby fro and a few other natural styles ..eye think if one can find a natural look that makes her look nice stick with it…stop copy cating any style….just because other women are wearing it….always happy to see another nappy (smiles)
No !!!!!!!!!!!!!! But to bad !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been at mid back length for a year and a half now 🙁 don’t think it will go to ass length
oh yes……he said even if its a centimetre long….but no weave….
He loves me naturally or with braids more than with a weave because he likes to be able to put his hands through my hair. and he also likes the texture alot and finds it pretty 🙂
He’s very supportive, has helped me alot to be confident enough to go publicly with my natural hair because when i first cut it (2 years ago) I was very shy to show people
Mine loves it!! Says I’m so beautiful
Hell yea^o^
yes you do…I really don’t care because that is me
Idc what he think, it’s my natural hair! I don’t complain about his sooo vice versa.
I don’t have natural hair but my man wouldn’t mind me having one (if I decide). His mom and sisters hair are natural.
my man likes my natural hair for sure .
i thought he wudnt but he loved it either way it didnt matter to me i luv me just d way i am
yes he does it turns him all the way on
I wouldn’t care if he didn’t!
He loves it!
I wouldn’t care either.
My man like it and if he didnt he wouldnt b my man, change me to make me better, not worse!!! Im natural and proud of it!! He want me to have dread locks which i would love as well, just waitin fi di gud sistren…
Do we get to tell men how to wear their hair? We could try but they’re still going to wear it they way they want to regardless of how we feel. I’ve found that there are a LOT of superficial, shallow people on this continent. I’ve worn my hair permed, in locs, shaved, natural (free flowing), -it doesn’t matter HOW I wore it somebody somewhere had a problem with it. I got to the point where I didn’t care WHO didn’t like how I wore my hair, my man included. It’s MY HAIR, it’s on MY HEAD, I CARE FOR IT, and I will wear it however I damn well please. The last man that told me what I could and couldn not do was my daddy (that was over 25 years ago). I’m sure there are many women out there facing this problem -I work with a bunch of them. Tell your man, “I got this!” and leave it at that. Be yourself, Love yourself.
This is a good question, because men tend to complain about women wearing fake hair, fake eyelashes etc, but in reality, their heads are turned more to the women with a head full of weave, and a face full of makeup.
HELLLLLLLLLLLLL NO
Any man who didn’t like my hair (when I used to have it cut down low like a man’s or when it was growing out into the TWA stage) or doesn’t like my hair now … well, they can jump off the nearest cliff because it’s my hair that the Lord gave me.
I really, really LOVE our Black Ladies Natural Hair WOW!
I’m the old guy with the locks, these are my Kids! I really don’t understand (smile) the question, what is there not to like???
my ex is the one that influenced me to go natural. I got almost a year and a half under my belt
Yes he does and no i don’t care lol
Wow! This is a really good question.
I’m 54 and have been married for 32 years to a wonderful man who happens to be white and who happens to love my hair.
First and for most, he wants me happy. But he also wants my hair to be natural, free of harmful chemicals.
This was a process for us both. He was not always happy with the way it looked, nor I, but he NEVER wanted me to “relax” again.
Back in 1982 when I went natural, there was not the products we have now that help us to respect our individual texture. So my hair
suffered some. But I was determined NEVER to go back to relaxing, and never did.
Fast forward and I how still have a head full of hair!
I can change the texture when I want with braid outs, twist outs, etc. Or I can just do a wash n go, it’s all good.
I’m happy with my ” bunga ” hair! That, by the way, is the nickname my hubby gave to my hair some 30 plus years ago.
Keep growing and your hair will grow with you!
jj
Hi Sabrina –
I haven’t had a relaxer in years. wore braids a lot. so my husband knew i didn’t have a relaxer but since i wore it flat ironed or braided it didn’t really ‘register’, lol. One day i attempted to wear a twist out on a date night. my husand said ‘wow you look so cute but what are you gonna do with your head??” girl!! he didn’t like weaves, wigs or kinky hair – all these opinions about MY head. I got over what he didn’t like, worked to perfect ‘my’ look (i have to admit (in hindsight) that first twist out was kinda rough, lol)and started rocking all of it with confidence. NOW he loves when i wear it kinky, has helped me cut out my weaves and even compliments my wigs. He’s my biggest fan. when i got okay with my natural pure me, he did too. Plus he couldn’t argue all the compliments I got from strangers, friends, etc whenever they saw me. Now he says, “i like that big hair…it suits you”. i just love my guy.
Don’t we just love our hubbies……lol? I’m a newbie, and can’t wait until my relaxer grows out, who’s a thunk it…lol. Good for you for rocking you!!!!!
*who’d a thunk it 🙂
not always.
I dated I guy that didn’t so I show him the door.
Yes he does!!
I do not care. Lmfao
My husband is the one who encouraged me to go natural. At first, I thought he was out of his natural mind. I’m like me!!!! The Queen of always having every hair in place, going every two weeks to hair salon for as long as I can remember – no way!!!! To top it off, each time I would leave for my appointment, he would say “are you going natural”, my response “uh, NO!!!!!”. I don’t know what clicked, just last week I decided I wanted to go natural, I’ve been doing a lot of research, oh I know what clicked “my thinning edges and balding patch on top of my head”, but I hid it well, with hair powder. Anyway, I don’t know whose the happiest, him or me, okay both. Thanks babe for the encouragement and support!!!!!!
My loves mine. Can’t keep his hands out of it and hates when I wear a wig
i’d tell him 2 leave me for a white girl
He hates it but I could careless it’s my hair and I feel it’s healthy this way. I love the way it feels and looks and he won’t even run his fingers through it. I get more compliments from white men and women then anybody else. My beautician who used to do my relaxers explained to me that street men identify their success in life according to the looks of their women and if I had an educated man he wouldn’t care at all. Sounds harsh but I think she’s right.
My husband cares but to a certain point. I am transitioning and it was our mutual decision for me to go natural (actually he urged me to go natural). However, I wanted the big chop but he didn’t like it. I sometimes get worried about his comments about my friends who have done the big chop. Anyhow, I am okay with transitioning but if push comes to shove I will just do the big chop… partly because I would like to rock a TWA and partly to see how deep his love could go.
My husband loves my natural hair. 🙂
Prefers my natural hair
Yes my boyfriend likes my natural hair. Sometimes he has little funny jokes about it, but who doesn’t. Well even I do sometimes. Like today I looked like the lion from the Wiz. If he didn’t like it I would consider different styles to please him, but hell to the no I won’t perm it.
bf loves my relaxed hair ^^; idk what the fascination is with non black men and black hair but my ex felt the same way 😛 He likes to spike it up and give me Mohawks.
He likes some styles, but not others and I really don’t care. If he can’t love all of me then he can move on
He does. But he likes for the style to change every now and then. Keep it fresh
My honey LOVES my hair. He wouldn’t have it any other way. ♡♥♡
My honey wont have it any other way, he doesnt like weaves
Not sure, but I love it because it makes me feel more like me.
He said it was part of his attraction to me.
Lol I don’t listen to what he does and doesn’t like, you crazy.
My husband loves my natural hair. He encourages all women to go natural.
Let us just say my ex loved it do much he hated it when I put braids in my hair. I swear if I had braids my the first week he used to be asking when I am going to take them out, that it makes me look like a stranger. Lol
I like it and that’s what really matters
What does he have to do with my hair? As long as it is neat and combed. It none of his concern.
He maintains his appearence because he is supposed to. Same applies to me.
My husband said he loves my natural hair! He also said he really don’t care how I wear my hair as long as it’s not something crazy like blue spikes. I’ve worn a pink wig that he liked, so I guess he was either always agreeing with me or really just likes me for who I am.
They said they do but really don’t But I don’t care its my hair all mine all the time when I wore it from ear to waistline
It’s my head, I am fully grown. I wear my hair that I want to.
No. He’s never liked it on any woman. I just so happen to relax my hair so that worked out in his favor.
My husband encouraged me to go natural… He loves it ….I’m still getting used to it. I miss my relaxer ssssooo much.
I’m teaching my husband about natural hair.. we read article together. . I believe my husband as well as I, we were brain wash about our hair. ( african American) not having “good hair. I have two boys (11yrs, 6yrs) who I also teach about my type of hair. And we watch video about different type of hair.. and so far so good.
He didn’t like the idea @ first, but loved it after i did it anyway.
My husband loves my natural hair. I would tease him and say that I’m getting a weave, he would frown and say nope! He encourages all women to return to natural..I love it
Mines love it!
yes and its not a lot and im use to long weaves and hes like leave this short hair and im like ugh
Unfortunately yes, for the past 2 yrs I’ve been braiding my hair as my protective style for the Winter months. He doesn’t seem to understand why I must do protective style. I’ve tried explaining,but all he cares about is my curly fro. The fighting will start again next month,lol.
My man likes it. He’s not into weaves, I am so we compromise. I wear my weaves but one week out of a month I wear my fro. He likes to try to run his fingers through it! Lol!
My man loves my hair relaxed when I used those natural now or with a weave…. He loves my kinky hair….
My husband loves my natural hair. Especially when it’s in a fro. He absolutely hates weave.
My partner hates my fro. Lol!
My man loves healthy hair. He loves natural healthy hair thats well maintained, and he doesn’t mind weave as long as it’s realistic and well maintained.
He’s a smart man. ☺
My boyfriend is white, and he’s in love with my fro. When I do braid extentions he gets sad cause of the lack of soft texture to my hair in tight braids. He’s seen my fro long and he’s seen my fro long, he loves it either way. I do consult him to see what he likes most, but he’s happy with any style I choose!
If he doesn’t get a wig and a weave, it solves multiple problems.
Appreciation for the natural takes time.
Mine doesnt care as long as my hair is done.
Doesn’t mind it natural just doesn’t like the twa phase
Well I’m natural and I’m in the awkward stage phase I wear it up in two buns and I’m single but the guy I like who I am friends with loves my natural hair .He is black too and is pro black very awakened and conscious . Anyway he has the same curl pattern as me and he had long natural curly afro hair as a teen so that may be the reason why he loves my hair it’s like his hair . He cut it years ago though but because of me he is growing it out again . He also dates a bald girl before so hair is no big deal to him. I hope we date soon . Anyway I would not change my hair to please a man . It’s my hair I grew it not his . He can’t control me . Don’t like my hair and want a girl with straight hair leave and date outside . That’s my thoughts . Thank God I decided to go natural young . I’m in college .