Don’t forget the icing on the cake, let them know that you intend to do a four month stretch of your relaxer and you would rather not flat iron your kinky roots. If they look at you with anything less than crazy in their eyes, then they have successfully passed the challenge.
Sadly too many of them will say is that wetting your hair so often is not a great idea as too much water will weaken the hair and cause damage. Some of them may not even know what a co-wash is and after explaining it, they will tell you that conditioners are not meant to be used in that manner.
You will probably also be told that the four month stretch that you are about to embark on is a definite ticket towards breakage. Yet we in the online hair community all know that these practices are the very things that women with relaxed hair ought to consider adding to their regimens, in order to achieve healthy long hair.
Another thing to look at is your stylist’s own hair. Even though this might be hit or miss depending on the circumstances, it is a tell tale sign of what to expect when your own hair is being cared for by her/him.
This again is not set in stone, some stylist prefer short hair or some are male with short crops. But if your stylist prefers to wear a weave constantly to the point where you cannot make a fair assessment, it should be enough to make you wonder why she never shows her real hair and if it is actually being cared for.
Finally, hair care does not stop at the salon doors, this is probably the biggest lesson we have learned from our online communities, it is not enough to get your hair done for two hours on a Saturday and do nothing until your next appointment.
Like our skin, and our bodies, your hair needs regular attention and care even if it means only adding a touch of moisture at night or covering your hair with a satin bonnet before bed.
Do not be afraid to mix something in your kitchen and have your own private salon session at the house based on everything your have learned on your own. Perhaps a combination of your stylist’s care and your own diligence at home is exactly what you need in order to start retaining some serious length.
Tell your stylist exactly what you want when you are in her chair. You are the best judge of your own hair and when your stylist tells you something, you need to be ready to accept or reject it based on your own knowledge about your hair.
Originally posted 2013-07-08 15:00:53.