It is the same with our hair; we want our guys to really appreciate the choices we make when it comes to our hair especially if it’s healthy and aesthetically sound.
So what do you do if you choose a hairstyle that he absolutely hates? Are there any compromise to be made or is it a take it or leave it situation? This is not an easy problem to resolve, because if you are of the opinion that what he says does not matter then be prepared to accept the fact that it can go both ways.
Guys go through phases just like we do, there are bound to be stories of husbands or boyfriends turning a certain age who have decided to all of a sudden to pierce their ears and wear small hoop earrings, rock a high top fade in 2013 or decide to dally with facial hair when they have never shown an interest in the past.
The point is, we cannot escape opinion, likes or dislikes from our spouses, and dealing with the issue whether large or small takes time and might involve some compromise and a bit of discussion.
If you want to rock box braids and your man doesn’t like them, maybe sharing the benefits of what protective styling will do for your hair is the answer. If protective styling is really the goal and he hates box braids, then would you consider another protective styling option that maybe you both will like? A wig* that closely resembles your real hair perhaps?
Now don’t get the wrong idea as a modern woman it is extremely hard to write about compromise and ‘checking in’ without feeling like a sellout. It’s natural for you to feel absolutely in charge of your own being and every strand that comes with it. The truth is you are but if you feel really strongly about your hair choices then he will fall in line especially if you are consistent about how you feel and you are also able to do the same for him and his choices when the time comes.
Yes but it’s not going to change my mind. I’m just getting an opinion from the person that looks at me the most.
YUP….. always have and always will…… hubby and I are a TEAM… we make decisions as a UNIT…. 20 years and going strong!
Yes, it’s a consideration thing. I’m pretty good with my style decisions and he’s never complained.
No…its my hair I wear it the way I want
Ummmm no
Yup. I always ask his opinion. After all, his opinion is the only one that counts for me!
YES!!! 🙂
Nope. No. Unt uh. We are a team but some decisions don’t require teamwork. My hair is one of them. An opinion is awesome but “checking,” no mam.
Always
Yes his opinion is important and want me to look my best his opinion is really the only one that count
Noooooo
Damn like really whose hair is it?
Alwaysss
No, smh teammates yes but I express myself in many ways and my hair is one of those ways. Plus my man loves everything I do lol no complaint’s.
Of course! That’s who I look good for so if he doesn’t like it… mission failed
Check with my man? Lmaooo, gurl please!!
I do like my husband’s opinion because his is the ONLY ONE that counts! It just works because he knows how to treat a lady and tells me he loves everything
I ask his opinion but the final decision is mine with things like that he says whatever you like boo
Hell no, point, blank, PERIOD!
No and he don’t consult me before getting an hair cut.
Sometimes!!!
Yep, and he’s always supportive of my decisions.
most of the time. when i big chopped i was worried that he wouldnt like it and then i noticed his hands always in my hair. Lol! it made me feel good about it.
Hell no! Both r my s*** hair and money!
Only if I’m unsure how it will look. Otherwise I just tell him what I’m going to do.
He’ll no?
Not unless I’m changing to a different color then I ask him if he thinks I would look good in it…. but i never do anything crazy anyway so….
Never! Lol.
Yep.. I sure do!
If you are in a real woman you should not have check which a man how to fix your hair and he should not say a word grown women grown hair
No he loves EVERYTHING I do:) he’s indian and still loves my kinky curls/braids/short hair
You should if he is your husband…. Your in this together 🙂
Depends what I’m thinking about getting if it’s something drastic like a cut, color change, or something he’s never seen me in then yep
Yes! He is partly the reason I am Natural …His exact words were ..”Why don’t you stop putting all that s*** in your hair and let it grow out” Gotta lovem lol 🙂
Yes-and its hard cuz he doesn’t like any fake hair, so I have to do a lot of convincing
Yea and he said keep doing what makes you happy. I just got my hair cut and he was in the barber shop with me
Yes sometimes I do depending on what the style is that I’m getting,,, it’s more so for he’s opinion tho
I give him a heads up.
It’s not my rule but if it’s something drastic. Cut and maybe if I’m going to color it a dramatic color or bleach it. If I’m married or in a serious relationship respect and consideration is due. Just like if I met him wit a caesar if he wants dreads we would have to discuss it.
scoff .. pff that is my hair
Never!!!
Absolutely Not!!!!!!!!!!!
I ask my man for his input just because I care about his opinion.
Yes of course that’s just respect but only of its a serious relationship otherwise love it or leave it
Check with? No, but I ask his opinion and vice versa.
I love your Hair!!!
I make the final decision I do specially when it’s going to be a drastic change, or if I want to straighten or wear weave I’m natural and vowed not to I go to him to snap me back.
Yes…even though he trust my decisions. I still make sure he agree.
Yes :-0
Heuuuuu no!!!
His opinion counts. But hell no. Its my hair. Its my descision so I dont check with him. I TELL him.
No it’s my hair.
Sometime
No. It’s my hair on my head.
Yea
No, it is my hair:) I make the decisions of my hair:)
not style to style, but we discussed it when I decided to transition back to natural! his viewpoint: long as I keep it “done” (has style, basically), he’s happy!!!
Good lord NO!
If I make a big change like the Big Chop, yes I checked with him. Although he trust my decisions with my hair. I had to make sure he was cool with that change….after showing him videos on youtube; he was very supportive. I big chopped on 2/9/13. My daughters and I been natural for 1yr 3 1/2 months now. 🙂
Phahaha nope, I’m not taking any advice from a bloke with less hair then me!!
I like to surprise him so nope
I wouldn’t for a boyfriend, but if he was my husband, I would take his opinion into consideration
Hell no!!!…sike I do be like bae what you think of this hair style..lol
No!!!
Hell naw!!!!
Of course I would expect the same from him
no. and wont this my head. may tell him what iam thinking about or going to get.
Umm no! Its my head. Wtf kinda question is that
Check? What do you mean by check?
No, I do not check with my man before changing my hair. I had my hair before I met him so I go by that logic. Wth?
just to get his opinion.
I will discuss what I want to do he can give his opinions then I’ll do what I want I’ll probably think about what he says though
Husband? Yes!
No!!!!!! No!!!!!!!!
Hell no why would you? Are you a slave?
Nope!!!
I change my hair and then ask if he likes it and e knows to say yes. Unless its fully sack in which case I want an actual opinion
I agree with Jamie Carter-Bailey