“You talking bout the braided pull up joint? If we talking about the same thing then I’m not a fan. A grown woman should only have micro braids when going on vacation to a third world country where they don’t have hairdressers or when playing Janet Jackson in Poetic Justice.” – Devon, 28 when asked if he likes braids on women.
Yeah OK!… who asked you? Oh, that’s right, we ask them, we ask them all the time! What is the first thing we say to our man when we finally leave the salon and make it home?
Honey*, do you like my hair? And then we get either positive affirmation or something similar to that Devon character quoted above.
There are vastly contrasting views on the topic of men and their opinions on our hair, arguments ranging from men hating weaves* and braids, some guys preferring natural hair to a relaxer, others preferring a relaxer to natural hair.
And in addition to all of that, there are the arguments specifically surrounding the topic of checking with your man before changing your hair. It is my opinion that if you are married or in a long term relationship then it is more likely that you will, in fact, check with your man before changing your hair.
I think it is ten times easier to do something drastic with our hair without soliciting the opinion of a guy we have only been on a few dates with. Chances are he will probably say he likes everything anyway to ensure he doesn’t mess things up.
There is no way to deny the fact that what grows out of your scalp is yours and you have every right to do with it as you please in a perfect world. Yet it’s not a perfect world, we value the opinions of others, especially those closest to us and we look for validation; especially if it is positive.
When things are going well and you have your red freakun’ dress on, you want your man to keep his eyes on you all night long. You don’t go out with the defeatist attitude of if he doesn’t like it everyone else will anyway. You want him to like it!
Originally posted 2013-08-18 15:00:25.