There are crazy stories of marriages coming to an end because of hair choices, but we never actually know if there are other issues, personality or otherwise that the couple has been dealing with that have also contributed to the breakdown.
There are also other stories of men who ‘came around’, who grew to love the choices their lady decided to make for herself and have become very supportive given time.
The point is there is no hard and fast rule to the variety of opinions men and women share about each other especially when in meaningful relationships.
Whether you check with your man before changing your hair or not is entirely up to you and your man because it is a completely unique situation just like Devon’s opinion.
If you have an unsupportive man, it is important to deal with him as best you can in your own relationship using open communication and honesty.
Be careful of the advice that you might receive because it might be coming from a place that does not fit your current situation. For example, everyone has that best single girlfriend, no kids or immediate family obligation and she might tell you, DO you boo!
We also have that girlfriend we don’t see that often unless we have a play date or at a birthday party for her fourth child and she might tell you, girl listen to your husband!
If you check with your man before changing your hair, do not be ashamed, that’s a good thing. If you don’t and he loves whatever you do, that’s great too. But we cannot deny the fact that we always at some point seek some form of validation.
With that said do not act surprised when your single BFF miss ‘do you boo all day long’ is caught smiling from ear to ear when that guy she has been looking at all night at the club tells her ‘ Hey baby, I like your hair!’ – Just to break the ice.
Originally posted 2013-08-18 15:00:25.
Yes but it’s not going to change my mind. I’m just getting an opinion from the person that looks at me the most.
YUP….. always have and always will…… hubby and I are a TEAM… we make decisions as a UNIT…. 20 years and going strong!
Yes, it’s a consideration thing. I’m pretty good with my style decisions and he’s never complained.
No…its my hair I wear it the way I want
Ummmm no
Yup. I always ask his opinion. After all, his opinion is the only one that counts for me!
YES!!! 🙂
Nope. No. Unt uh. We are a team but some decisions don’t require teamwork. My hair is one of them. An opinion is awesome but “checking,” no mam.
Always
Yes his opinion is important and want me to look my best his opinion is really the only one that count
Noooooo
Damn like really whose hair is it?
Alwaysss
No, smh teammates yes but I express myself in many ways and my hair is one of those ways. Plus my man loves everything I do lol no complaint’s.
Of course! That’s who I look good for so if he doesn’t like it… mission failed
Check with my man? Lmaooo, gurl please!!
I do like my husband’s opinion because his is the ONLY ONE that counts! It just works because he knows how to treat a lady and tells me he loves everything
I ask his opinion but the final decision is mine with things like that he says whatever you like boo
Hell no, point, blank, PERIOD!
No and he don’t consult me before getting an hair cut.
Sometimes!!!
Yep, and he’s always supportive of my decisions.
most of the time. when i big chopped i was worried that he wouldnt like it and then i noticed his hands always in my hair. Lol! it made me feel good about it.
Hell no! Both r my s*** hair and money!
Only if I’m unsure how it will look. Otherwise I just tell him what I’m going to do.
He’ll no?
Not unless I’m changing to a different color then I ask him if he thinks I would look good in it…. but i never do anything crazy anyway so….
Never! Lol.
Yep.. I sure do!
If you are in a real woman you should not have check which a man how to fix your hair and he should not say a word grown women grown hair
No he loves EVERYTHING I do:) he’s indian and still loves my kinky curls/braids/short hair
You should if he is your husband…. Your in this together 🙂
Depends what I’m thinking about getting if it’s something drastic like a cut, color change, or something he’s never seen me in then yep
Yes! He is partly the reason I am Natural …His exact words were ..”Why don’t you stop putting all that s*** in your hair and let it grow out” Gotta lovem lol 🙂
Yes-and its hard cuz he doesn’t like any fake hair, so I have to do a lot of convincing
Yea and he said keep doing what makes you happy. I just got my hair cut and he was in the barber shop with me
Yes sometimes I do depending on what the style is that I’m getting,,, it’s more so for he’s opinion tho
I give him a heads up.
It’s not my rule but if it’s something drastic. Cut and maybe if I’m going to color it a dramatic color or bleach it. If I’m married or in a serious relationship respect and consideration is due. Just like if I met him wit a caesar if he wants dreads we would have to discuss it.
scoff .. pff that is my hair
Never!!!
Absolutely Not!!!!!!!!!!!
I ask my man for his input just because I care about his opinion.
Yes of course that’s just respect but only of its a serious relationship otherwise love it or leave it
Check with? No, but I ask his opinion and vice versa.
I love your Hair!!!
I make the final decision I do specially when it’s going to be a drastic change, or if I want to straighten or wear weave I’m natural and vowed not to I go to him to snap me back.
Yes…even though he trust my decisions. I still make sure he agree.
Yes :-0
Heuuuuu no!!!
His opinion counts. But hell no. Its my hair. Its my descision so I dont check with him. I TELL him.
No it’s my hair.
Sometime
No. It’s my hair on my head.
Yea
No, it is my hair:) I make the decisions of my hair:)
not style to style, but we discussed it when I decided to transition back to natural! his viewpoint: long as I keep it “done” (has style, basically), he’s happy!!!
Good lord NO!
If I make a big change like the Big Chop, yes I checked with him. Although he trust my decisions with my hair. I had to make sure he was cool with that change….after showing him videos on youtube; he was very supportive. I big chopped on 2/9/13. My daughters and I been natural for 1yr 3 1/2 months now. 🙂
Phahaha nope, I’m not taking any advice from a bloke with less hair then me!!
I like to surprise him so nope
I wouldn’t for a boyfriend, but if he was my husband, I would take his opinion into consideration
Hell no!!!…sike I do be like bae what you think of this hair style..lol
No!!!
Hell naw!!!!
Of course I would expect the same from him
no. and wont this my head. may tell him what iam thinking about or going to get.
Umm no! Its my head. Wtf kinda question is that
Check? What do you mean by check?
No, I do not check with my man before changing my hair. I had my hair before I met him so I go by that logic. Wth?
just to get his opinion.
I will discuss what I want to do he can give his opinions then I’ll do what I want I’ll probably think about what he says though
Husband? Yes!
No!!!!!! No!!!!!!!!
Hell no why would you? Are you a slave?
Nope!!!
I change my hair and then ask if he likes it and e knows to say yes. Unless its fully sack in which case I want an actual opinion
I agree with Jamie Carter-Bailey