2. If you do not have anything nice to say then do not say or type anything at all
“Hey, what do you use? Your hair is very beautiful!” Let’s take it back to those days where we could compliment our sisters just because they looked good or their hair was the bomb.
We are a sisterhood looking to grow healthy hair. Whether you are looking for length or styling options, we should be uplifting each other in the hair community. The point is, try to avoid being negative at all costs, even when behind a computer screen. It is just as easy to type something uplifting, as it is to tear someone apart.
3. Give help to anyone who needs it
I have family members asking me all the time about what they should do for their their relaxed hair, and of course I help them. My first reaction is not, “You should go natural first, then we can get started,” but I literally help them.
I give tips on shampoos, deep conditioning*, moisturizers, styling options, etc. And I feel good helping them. I have friends who weave it up, and are proud of it. I don’t growl and roar at them for hiding their hair under a weave. Heck, they look fabulous, and spent a pretty penny on that hair – all I can say is something positive.
Just by being about 2 years in my own hair journey, I have done so much and gained so much knowledge. I feel I have to share it with others who need it, even if they are not natural.
We need to get back to loving each other as individuals, and just uplift one another when we are in need. There is so much enriching knowledge in our community that we are missing out on because we have useless arguments and competitions.
The next time you see another sister with a gorgeous style, compliment her. When another sister asks you a question about your hair and her hair journey is different to yours, help her succeed with her goals. We are a sisterhood of growing and keeping our hair healthy. In other words, deep down we are all the same.
Net Taylor says
This is great,we need this
Serena Chrissette says
Awesome article! I wish all of my sisters read & live this in the words they type/speak.
Leah says
Women are our own worst enemy. If it’s not hair, it’ll be something else that women will use as an excuse to tear each other down.
Stacie Hart says
For real!!!