I’m not denying my privilege. And I’m not trying to upstage other women’s struggles, or erase the connotations of the natural hair movement with African American women.
It ‘s horrible that little girls are suspended from school because of their hairstyle; it’s awful to think that women are told their natural hair is not professional.
The military shouldn’t have a place in telling women that styles like braids and locs are not permitted. These things all happened, but it doesn’t mean other women of other races don’t struggle because of their hair as well.
Now that you have read all of that, you kind of get the picture right? Just the other night I watched the BET awards and they had a section on the Civil Rights Movement and how special it was for us to have our own television station coming from a time when the TV would go black when black people were featured. Ironic right?
We have defined spaces for ourselves in music, art, pop culture and education because we were denied those spaces and still are being denied those privileges today.
It is all well and good for a black woman to lend their support to a white woman because we get that there is a struggle generally when you are curly but it is equally well and good when a black woman can stand up and say thank goodness for Curly Nikki, BHI, K is for Kinky*, Blackgirllonghair, Essence, Black Girls Rock, YouTube and the millions of other bloggers who speak on this subject daily; because now I can show my daughter that her hair isn’t as ugly as her school is making it out to be and your struggle isn’t the same as mine!
Respect for the spaces is a touchy thing, because while curly hair unites races, Hispanic, White and Black, the politics that surround hair divides us. We cannot deny that this isn’t just about hair, for Sarah it might be, because aesthetically she just did not like her hair which was clearly HER struggle. For black women and men, it is deeper than just hair to think otherwise is very silly and unrealistic.
Now does this mean that Sarah cannot share her story on a natural hair website?
Of course not, because she has the right to do that and Curly Nikki and all other blogs that are dedicated to natural hair, also have the right to share her story as well. But on the other side of the coin women of color also have the right to feel offended by it because of their own experiences.
At the end of the day, the blog still gets a check because traffic does not have a race, or a texture, so sharing your story on a popular website comes with its own reward.