We cannot even sit here with straight faces and pretend like we have not noticed the controversial topic of discussion this week. To get you up to speed, basically Sarah of Curls & Blossoms shared her curly hair story with Curly Nikki. Sarah is a white woman. Since then both she and Curly Nikki have received a ton of backlash for sharing that particular natural hair journey and the opinions are rolling in like an uncontrolled wildfire.
The team here on BHI have been talking about it as well, we have all seen the comments and we have tried to rationalized why black women feel so strongly as to why we cannot see the “curly hair struggle” as a united struggle beyond race and beyond texture.
I will share the same two comments Sarah shared on her blog here:
“Why do we need to make spaces for people who already have representation? Always so willing to accommodate and yet always being less accommodated. Making spaces for white women in the limited spaces made for women of colour isn’t going to change anything.”
“Still shaking my head at the black women on here defending this mess. Y’all are absolutely pathetic. I don’t want to hear any of you complaining when white women take over Essence and they change “Black Girls Rock” to “All Girls Rock”. We basically have nothing for ourselves, so we carve out a little space of our own in the beauty world and sellouts are ready and willing to hand this precious space over to white women. It’s amazing. And sad.”
Then there is this comment:
“You are free to call your hair whatever you want, but seeking inclusion in a space that was created to allow black women the opportunity to buck conventional ideals of western beauty standards, learn to accept and embrace themselves despite the images that we see in the media, and gain an understanding for our hair despite having few external examples to learn from, is the real issue. You cannot ignore the politics that exist surrounding black hair. Black children are being sent home from school for wearing their hair in afros.
Black men have to wear their hair shaved low otherwise it’s deemed unprofessional, and black women are told that the way that our hair grows out of our scalps is inappropriate for professional settings. These are real challenges that we uniquely face and the natural hair movement was created in part to begin to dismantle them. So please, call your hair whatever you wish, but quit seeking inclusion in a space that was created to challenge the very privilege that you apparently don’t even realize that you enjoy.”
Sarah’s responded on her blog…