Is Long Hair of Your Own Even Necessary When Wigs and Weaves Are So Readily Available?

 

Yes I know. I can just see some of you screaming or rolling your eyes at the screen like “Just get off the wig thing already!” Don’t wig out now (gotcha!).

I was about to let it rest but after the “spirited” discussion generated on that anti-wigs PSA post, quite a few comments sparked a thought.

I’ve had this topic at the back of my mind recently: Is long hair of your own pointless when you can rock a weave or wig any time you want?

Some of you may not agree with me but I think that even with the best most natural looking wigs/weaves, long hair of your own will always be more desirable.

Just ask anyone who has dentures if they wish they still had their natural teeth. Nuff said!


Hair has always held a certain prestige for us. Irrespective of cultural or racial differences, the quality of hair has always been viewed as an indicator of health, fertility and beauty.

It is for this very reason that wigs came into existence. The big wigs of the day back then or the movers and shakers of the day were as vain as we are today or even more so.

They were the ones who set up an hierarchical system that determined your social and economic status depending on the type of wig you could afford to wear (Yep! that’s how the term “big wig” came into being).

Fast forward hundreds of years later and the wig and it’s more sophisticated cousin, the weave, are still staples of the fashion scene, so much so that it causes us to wonder if long hair is even necessary when wigs and weaves are so readily available and have been for so long.

Here are the reasons I believe long hair of your own is necessary in spite of the accessibility of wigs and weaves.

► Being able to grow long hair of your own gives you a psychological rush! Honestly, your strut is a little sassier when you know you don’t have to be totally dependent on some false hair. Your confidence in your appearance is multiplied since you can whip the hair you grow just as if it  were a weave.

► You have a choice! Without your own long hair you are limited to simply buying a weave or wig to compensate.

► Growing your own long hair affirms your femininity. Sure we would like to believe that we have changed a lot since the Elizabethan era but the truth is that many of the ideals have seeped into our modernized little era. We – and our men in particular- tend to associate a woman’s ability to grow long hair with the picture of delicate femininity. Sure, he may take you with the weave but if you have some long hair of your own he will be even more thrilled.

Originally posted 2013-12-08 15:00:38.

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About Marsha Buchanan


As a Jamaican girl raised in a devout church family headed by my mother, I have always had my natural hair, no chemical processing. After years of mistreating it , often ignorant of that fact, I began my healthy hair journey in January 2013 in fact, I have seen to it that my entire household falls in line where this is concerned. When I am not poring over some hair blog or forum I spend my time teaching English to rowdy high school students (ok maybe I have some little sweethearts in the mix), mothering the most adorable two year old on this globe, or rushing to meet the deadline for a writing project on Elance. In my spare time I enjoy a stroll along the beach with my doting husband.

About Marsha Buchanan


As a Jamaican girl raised in a devout church family headed by my mother, I have always had my natural hair, no chemical processing. After years of mistreating it , often ignorant of that fact, I began my healthy hair journey in January 2013 in fact, I have seen to it that my entire household falls in line where this is concerned. When I am not poring over some hair blog or forum I spend my time teaching English to rowdy high school students (ok maybe I have some little sweethearts in the mix), mothering the most adorable two year old on this globe, or rushing to meet the deadline for a writing project on Elance. In my spare time I enjoy a stroll along the beach with my doting husband.

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Comments

  1. Melanie

    Bravo – I enjoyed this article.

  2. Tangelia

    I don’t mind wigs & weaves in my opinion it doesn’t make anyone less natural. They are great protective styles & give me a chance to play with color without physically dying my hair. I do prefer my own length but even before I let my natural hair grow out & I had length I still wore wigs & weave on occasion for the same reasons. I’ve been on my journey of natural fit 2 years & since I’ve done the BC my length is in process & I rely on protective styling. Even fir sine of the braided Styles i sport I need hair added to achieve the look because my hair isn’t long enough for them.

  3. Michelle

    Wigs make my head sweat more and my head feels as if it is in an oven but then again I live in Barbados so that’s probably the reason. I went through the braids-stage already and yes the hairdresser made me look fabulous/awesome/incredible et cetera but I prefer my own hair right now not someone else’s. For some reason 100% human hair doesn’t fill me with a desire to put on the hair growing out of my own human head.

    1. Marsha Buchanan Post author

      I know what you mean Michelle. I’ve tried braids twice but though I had washed my hair in preparation and went ahead and got my braid spray, the itch was driving me crazy. None of them lasted a full week LOL. Then again it wasn’t human hair so I am not sure if that was the reason.

  4. Antoinette

    The point should be HEALTHY hair, whether it is long or short.
    Length is a preference not a necessity. I feel it is better to
    grow your own long hair but everyone cannot do that. Nothing
    wrong with using wigs/weaves to supplement…fake it till you make it!
    Lol

    1. Marsha Buchanan Post author

      I see your point Antoinette and most of than not, with health comes length but i am not so sure if I would shoot down length as a necessity. It’s sort of relative in my opinion. Besides I do believe that some of us have become a little complacent because the alternatives are present. Perhaps this is due in part to the myth that black girls can’t grow long hair.

  5. Vanessa Shanét

    I think long hair naturally is pretty! But I love wearing extensions as a protective style. I have a couple friends with waist length hair who achieved the length by wearing protective styles like weaves and wigs. In the summer I think medium length bobs are adorable and usually cut my hair in warmer months depending on how I’m feeling. Length is a preferance. My man does not love me for my Hair! lol How ridiculous.

  6. Naomi Brown
    Naomi Brown

    I think it depends on how comfortable you are with your own hair. If you are then obviously you won’t add any extensions but if extensions make you feel better/more confident, then why not?

  7. Priscilla La
    Priscilla La'Bendicion

    As long as it’s healthy, I think too much emphasis is put on length…although I personally would love my natural hair to be long, weave/wigs do allow versatility

  8. Koko Williams
    Koko Williams

    I’m into my own hair and don’t need the extra. Happy with what God has blessed me with 🙂

  9. Savon Love
    Savon Love

    Gr8 question because underneath my weaves I have been natural almost 10yrs. I wear my hair out maybe 2 wks out of a yr. I just lost the desire to do hair after my twins. I have no desire to keep my hair up when I can use something else & do what I want when I want NO DAMAGE TO MY TRESSES!!!

  10. Joy Doyle
    Joy Doyle

    Yes natural long hair is necessary! Maybe the ad should read, “are you contributing as much to your 401K as you are to your weave?”

  11. Lasilia Imnottheonenottoday Thornton
    Lasilia Imnottheonenottoday Thornton

    yes, because i like changing my hair color and experimenting with different styles without making a commitment. i also like using heat on my weaves/lace units. if i were to use excessive heat on my own hair, it would be fried. God blessed me with the ability to buy hair, so why not wear it? its an accessory to me. different moods, different me. my hair is natural underneath and is very healthy.

  12. Davetta Wilson
    Davetta Wilson

    I do wigs as my protective style & lazy days if im in a rush slap a wig on & go & for different styles im natural but really there are only so many ways to do your natural hair unless it is a nice length I steer away from weaves don’t like glue & don’t have patience for sewn’s!!! If u can rock it wear it!!!

  13. Weave Found Nation
    Weave Found Nation

    Black women look so great with their own hair. They have become the laughing stock of beauty by other females from other ethnicities by them in putting other races hair.

    Yet to see a good looking black woman in weave. #fact

  14. Nesha Declares Victory
    Nesha Declares Victory

    Did I just read that correctly? Wow! Umm…very necessary. I’d rather have my own than someone else’s any day. Wow…what a way to encourage black women to embrace themselves. SMH

  15. Laurie El
    Laurie El

    Is that a serious question? Perhaps everyone’s goal isn’t have 32 inch hair but I’d take my own hair any day over this weave. Real healthy hair at any length is better than a weave. IMO

  16. Jay Love
    Jay Love

    Wigs and weaves are nice accessories! But there is nothing like your own true crown and glory!!!

  17. Miz Chin
    Miz Chin

    Had long healthy hair all my life.. Once chopped it off to ears length.. Got many negative comments why would you cut uour hair off.. lol.. Dont see the big deal with having long hair.. once your hair is health thats all that matters..

  18. Bernita E Gray-johns
    Bernita E Gray-johns

    That ad caption is soooo stupid. Y would a person prefer wear a wig, or weave than too wear their own natural healthy hair? And I don’t care how many kids u have, a woman should never get so comfortable and lazy as to where she does not want to take care and nourish her hair.

  19. Iam Katnonymous
    Iam Katnonymous

    what kind of question is that? wigs have always been available but shouldn’t determine whether or not one grows her own hair-nothing like having your own hair or anything

  20. Karen Ruffin
    Karen Ruffin

    This is why so many women are walking around bald spots…lost edges and whatever else! No thanks I’ll pass on the Weaves!!!!

  21. Iris Brock
    Iris Brock

    To each their own but I’d much rather grow and wear my own hair. It’s much easier and cheaper on my funds. LOL.

  22. Tekoa Rudolph
    Tekoa Rudolph

    I am natural and have shoulder length hair and I don’t see anything wrong with wearing some weave for fullness. My pet pieve about weave or wigs is when it doesn’t look real. If I am going to wear weave I want it to look like mine. I think people put too much emphasis on hair.

  23. LaVeta Hatten
    LaVeta Hatten

    I think long healthy hair is a sign of health and beauty cause its takes great care to obtain it. Weaves are nice cause of the benefits they offer but they will never replace the glory of having the real thing.

  24. Kerimah Rogers
    Kerimah Rogers

    It seems like since this whole natural hair movement has begun, people who wear relaxers, weave, etc. are getting called “sellouts” and “wanting to be white”, or lazy…..news flash: NATURAL HAIR IS NOT FOR EVERYBODY. Not all of us are going natural. I am one who does not think she looks good with an Afro. Also, MY natural hair is a LOT of work and I’m not willing to take the time or energy to do what it takes to maintain it.

    1. Aliyah

      God gave you your natural hair . obviously it’s for everyone !

  25. Kahlelah Goodine
    Kahlelah Goodine

    This is long. If you don’t like reading, scroll passed. You’ve been warned:

    Wigs and weaves are worn also for protective styles. For those of us who change our hairs weekly, for mood or for work if you’re in the entertainment industry. Every outfit or events really does require a different style. Products that hair stylists use can harm your hair, so why not achieve the look with added hair, while protecting your own hair? In the entertainment industry, I travel a lot for work. Different climates affect my hair, especially different water qualities when I need to wash my hair in my hotel room. Why go through all that when I can put all that stress on added hair?

    Some of our hairs do not grow as fast, as thick, as strong, or as long. I know mine doesn’t. But why should I be confined to the few looks that my natural hair can achieve? Besides, what’s the difference between weaves, and braids? No matter the “ethnic” style ability that having braids provides, it’s still ADDED hair.

    I find it to be so sad that a Black woman’s hair has become everyone else’s problem, the world’s favorite topic of discussion. Black women have the MOST versatile hair, with updo’s, down-do’s, ponytails, Afro’s, presses, braids, locs . . . why can’t we enjoy our versatility freely? Not every Black woman is seeking to emulate another race if she uses weave or wigs, and braids do not make you any more pro-Black or pro-natural hair than the next woman. I find it sad as well that there are so many comments here with noses up in the air. Your natural hair doesn’t make you any more Black & proud than the next woman’s hair. Just my two cents. Carry on pointing the finger at each other and pointing your noses in the air. I pray one day Sistahood makes a comeback.

    — Lelah G – Model & Mogul

    1. Marsha Buchanan Post author

      Your two cents are welcome here any time Kahlelah. I think I have a slow growth rate too so I can understand ladies employing the use of weaves to limit manipulation . As you’ve pointed out, braided extensions are akin to weaves and I totally agree with that. I usually just say, ” to each his own but “

    2. Erica Lonesome

      “I find it to be so sad that a Black woman’s hair has become everyone else’s problem, the world’s favorite topic of discussion. Black women have the MOST versatile hair, with updo’s, down-do’s, ponytails, Afro’s, presses, braids, locs . . . why can’t we enjoy our versatility freely?”

      I agree with you wholeheartedly, Lelah G. It’s a sad day that black women can’t even look to each other for support about our hair choices. We gotta get it from the white folks, we gotta get it from the men, and now we have to deal with this &%$# from each other? Sad, sad, sad. Relaxed or natural, weaves or wigs, long or short, sisters do your thing and rock it with pride! We are ALL beautiful.

  26. Mizz Bee

    I agree with the “come hither” effect, having your own LONG hair has on men… 🙂

  27. HannaZero Araya
    HannaZero Araya

    I mean people what to claim their own and quit this stereotype that black don’t have long good hair then why not?

  28. Twilisha Lynn McClelland
    Twilisha Lynn McClelland

    Why is it more acceptable to spend copious amounts of money on weave than to take excellent cafe of the hair you grow so that you don’t need weave?

  29. Crimson Beretta
    Crimson Beretta

    Of course it’s necessary IF it’s what you want. I have nothing against weaves because they allow me to change my look whenever I feel like but MY hair is also long any more importantly, HEALTHY, and I owe a lot of that to weaves. I’ve rested my hair and taken a break from letting free radicals damage it quite often. While I do think every woman should be proud to where her own hair, you do what you feel is best for you. But if you want long hair, I think you should make the effort to grow your own and use weaves as an assist. I think you feel a sense of accomplishment and pride.

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