Some feel it is an attempt to segregate your hair from yourself, in an effort to disassociate yourself from the image of an eighteenth century black slave; wild, unkempt, nappy-headed. Some question the message that the act of relaxing your hair sends to the daughters of mothers who get a perm.
For the most part, psychologists believe that much of what black people do in terms of how we live our lives and view ourselves, are shaped by the culture of slavery that dictated what beauty is. The truth is that while many of us celebrate freedom of expression, we seem to be captives of these ideals which say that straight hair is beautiful and black hair in all its natural glory is not.
Since the boom of the natural hair movement in 2009, many women have been embracing the concept that our hair is beautiful and versatile. While it is the case that many cannot seem to divorce their relaxers, they have hair crushes and are willing to grow their children without subjecting them to a life of relaxers.
As it is with many other things, it may be possible for mothers to teach their kids how to love natural hair even though they themselves are relaxed; the operative word here is possible, but how probable is it?
While some mothers have indicated their desire to protect their young daughters from the harsh chemicals in the products they themselves opt to continue relaxing their hair. It may be argued that these mothers are sending mixed signals to the little ones, for they may wonder “How is it that mommy tells me my hair is beautiful when mommy doesn’t even wear her hair like mine?”
While the child may not voice these musings, it may very well represent a contradiction to her. Some little girls cannot wait for the day when they will be old enough to get their hair just like mommy’s. This, of course, is assuming that the mothers have actually grown to love natural textures and want to dedicate time to ensuring that their daughters know that their hair is not inferior to their Caucasian or Asian counterparts.
Originally posted 2013-08-30 15:00:30.