You Thought You Left These Behind When You Went Natural…

Angry woman holding her curly hair in handsThe grass is always greener on the other side right? You went natural thinking that finally everything would click into place and you would live nappily ever after.

If you are one of those ladies who gave up relaxers for reasons unrelated to loving natural hair, you were probably surprised that some of the things you thought you had given up with your relaxed hair, are still firmly there.

You are still running away from the rain

Unless your hair is in a braided style or permanent bun, rain is still your number one enemy because of shrinkage. Someone recently said something about a beautifully defined twist out turning into a ‘crinkly puffball’ just being in high humidity.

Imagine how much worse things would be if you got drenched in a winter shower. Nope, running away from rain is not a relaxed thing, it’s a female thing. White, black, Asian, we all do it because we don’t want to mess up our new hairdo’s and going natural isn’t going to change that!

You thought you would spend much less time on your hair

Yeah right! After your last braid out, you spent 3 hours detangling your hair because that woman from that blog said you should detangle a one inch section at a time.


Now that you not longer have to spend an hour roller setting your relaxxed hair, you will spend 2 hours detangling and styling your natural hair. Natural hair just takes more time, sure you get used to it after some time but don’t imagine for one minute that being natural means that you will be released from the bondage of hair care.

You thought you would finally stop being a product junkie

Erm, all that happened is that you now have two stashes. You don’t have the heart to get rid of those lotions and potions that worked so great on your relaxed hair and you have now amassed even more products in search of the perfect curl defining product. Admit it, you probably buy more hair products than you did when you were relaxed!

You thought your hair would grow long

Your hair is barely longer now than it was when you were relaxed. In fact many are transitioning right now for the promise of longer hair but unfortunately ‘natural’ and ‘long’ are not terms that are mutually exclusive.

Allowing your hair to grow natural will certainly make it healthier but long black hair requires work and a solid regimen that you are willing to follow through and tweak until you get to your goal. There are still plenty of naturals out there bleating the ‘long hair must be genetic’ line!

You thought you could roll out of bed in the morning and be ready to go

No you still have to spend time styling your hair in the morning. Genuine wash and go hair is the exception in the black community rather than the rule. Usually it goes, wash>>leave in>>apply curl defining product>>rake and smooth>>diffuse>>go.

It’s a process that takes the average naturalista well over an hour, if you are lucky and that’s before you take into account your usual morning shower and dash for the door routine.

You thought your life would change dramatically

It didn’t, only your hair did.

Is there anything you thought would change when you went natural but hasn’t?

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About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

About Alma Ruddock


I’m Alma Ruddock, the founder and editor-in-chief of Blackhairinformation.com. I stumbled on a hair care forum back in 2008 frustrated with my breaking relaxed hair and the information that I found there changed the fate of my hair, and quite possibly my life, forever! I immediately started to transition to natural hair and started BlackHairInformation.com as a way to help both myself and other women of color achieve their dreams of long healthy hair. I have now achieved my goal length and I continue to help others achieve their dreams too. My three passions are hair, art and entrepreneurship and I love to be able to bring my unique view on hair growth and successful hair journeys to our readers. I am an eternal optimist and workaholic. In addition to BHI I have founded quite a few other websites and businesses including Elongtress Hair Vitamins and Urban Gyal which all fall under the umbrella of my company Coils Media Ltd.

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87 Comments on "You Thought You Left These Behind When You Went Natural…"

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Tina Tatum

Yeah, bad hair days

Courtney Burks

My perm bone is itching bad.

Doretha Alterneice

Time spent on doing my hair is ridiculous. .. plus my face has started to breakout due to the “organic” products I’ve used… still trying to find the right products

Wanda G Rush

Honestly, I didn’t really care about all that…just wanted my natural hair. No regrets…and actually, I don’t run from the rain, other than not getting my clothes wet cause I don’t care about my hair getting wet. 🙂

Karmelita Kalila Kami

best feeling

Motivated Mariama Jalloh

Natural hair is work, but it is so Beautiful when it’s done. Once you find the right products for your hair texture it can makes it less difficult to care for your hair. I have learned to love my natural hair for 5years this spring!

Ramanathan Jayaraman

TOo Much.
RJ.

Ifunanya Udegbunam

goin natural aint easy. d urge to go bk to relaxd hair is strong but ilov my natural hair and you guys kips me goin

Nan Dabney

I love my Natural Hair, I have so many options.

Tanya Betterknownaskhadijah Bint JamesDaniels

I have healthy strong hair and I’m content with it

Miya Johnson

The amount of breakage.

Ashlee Aimee Mckeiver

That’s something that can be changed. So there’s hope! 🙂

Ashlee Aimee Mckeiver

Since I wanted this change I honestly couldn’t tell you! I loved it from the time I saw the little curls (new growth) popping from my head…to these 5yrs later!! Its the BOMB BABY!!!!

Bernadeen Mitchell-Ghans

I’ve been natural for two years and I ❤️ it! I’m still getting used to it, but it’s my new baby I love it, massage it, clothe it with oils and moisturizer and shower it with lots water, steam and TLC!

Imani Malika

Only downside is the amount of time spent on my hair every week. Wash day is wash DAY. But other than that, its cool.

Libra ThaDoll

Are there any statistics on how many people go back to relaxed? Simply watching the YouTube videos show how big of a commitment just saying no o the creamy crack is.

BlackHairInformation.com

I’m not aware of any stats on people but in regards to sales, relaxers are still nosediving so clearly the trend is still with natural at the moment. https://blackhairinformation.com/general-articles/relaxer-sales-down-30-as-natural-hair-products-flood-the-market/

Yoshoa Fabrice

ok

Pamela Walker Cooper

Time spent doing my natural hair

Tonya Brooks DeBrow

Time spent is the big one. But I have to say I actually take better care of my hair in its natural state than I ever did when it was relaxed. I love braiding and twisting it. When I was relaxed I kept cornrows and braids or it was either real short.

Michelle Simons

no got nothing but better. I would dred that process now I love wash day

Jessica Peterson Rogers

I’m hating the transition stage, relaxer free for 7 months.

Deneen Whitaker

My hair is pressed. The maintenance on natural hair is not for me.

Cee Em

show pics

Tiffany Wells

Yes, I thought I would have out of this world growth. But I still wouldn’t change that I went natural cause it works much better for me…. Its growing at its own paste. I am never going back to the creamy crack

Cheryl Curtis

I still perm my hair because that’s what I like, not given to following what everyone says to do ,I don’t run from the rain just use an umbrella!

TMarie Hall

My hair still deals with breakage, and my hair still grows slow… Been natural for 3 in half years and would never go back to perms my hair is thicker that’s the best part to me.

LaTonya Jordan

Hair maintenance is time consuming , hair products are expensive trying to find the best products for your hair, lots of shedding and I clogged up my tub drain washing hair in shower!

Teonna Tull

The high price of products or the prices of getting ur hair done at a natural hair salon

Marilyn Powell-Jones

ELEVEN years natural and wouldn’t change a thing. My hair is healthy and long. Maintaince is no problem.

Andrea Angie Tater

FRIZZ!!!! Looks like a halo got to gel or grease down. Love it though.

Kimitrea Yates

The struggle is real.. I’m willing to sacrifice.

Gunilla Ross

I’ve been natural for 4 1/2 yrs, BCd 2x & my only complaint is how the cost of everything went up. It’s amazing how at first I didn’t know what to do or what products my hair likes & could go get something w/o breaking the bank. Now it’s like what’s on sale, are there any coupons & you have to be first to get it. Spending all that money only for my hair to like inexpensive stuff but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Sweetas Deena

I’m debating if I should go Natural or go back to the creamy crack.

Bree Hive Bowie

I thought going natural would end my regular, yearly, shedding cycle… Nope…that was sort of a deal breaker for me…In the beginning of my transition, it grew in so thick without the relaxer…little did I know, it was just an illusion…

Aaliyah Jones

I love it no more relaxed hair and it been almost 5 mos

Shawnnita Larkins

I thought it would be simpler… however i was wrong 🙂

M Lyons Smith

I miss being able to unwrap and go, but I know my hair is healthier and I’m being an example to my girls. Love yourself.

LeKendria Tucker

I thought my hair would get thicker but, it’s still fine. However, I see that as a blessing.

Tashara Lee

The day when you finally accept your natural hair is when you stop caring about who define your curls are in just embrace it being in a Afro

Sharon Williams-Lester

Love my perms, I just stretch them out through the year. I have been following a HHR FOR 4 months and it has been amazing. I use essential oils, I moisturize and seal
My hair, as well as co- wash. I have seen much new growth less split ends.

I only perm my new growth and when doing so I leave in for only 10 to 15 min. I don’t bone straight. Also I have not used heat in my hair in 4 months.

The perm helps to manage my hair, and I get to show case what I work diligently in maintaining.

Heather Roebuck

I’ve been doing this as well. I like the manageability I get from the relaxer, but I only leave it on for about 10 minutes and try to stretch them out. I don’t have a specific time frame though. I just do it when I feel it’s time.

Sharon Williams-Lester

Profile pic, I’m on the right! This day I used a hooded hair dryer and roller set, my roots are not straight they have a puffiness to it. This style was done For my mom, home going service, mom on the left.

If I must use heat which hardly ever, it’s a hooded dryer.

Beth Renee

I can admit, I miss the silky wraps 🙁

Sharon Williams-Lester

As you can see towel on my pillow in the back ground. This is a fresh was air dried

Sharon Williams-Lester

So natural or with perm, I think they both need TLC. I think we have been using perms for so long and just relied on the perm to do every thing. I know I was one of those ppl who did not do half of what I do now. I foo the pre poos I do it all. I do give much credit to the natural HHR

Doris Ruffin

No regrets I love my natural perms and relaxers do to much damage to your hair. Natural is the only way to go.

Melissa Streeter

Thought my hair would be longer than it is…but it’s growing went from neck length to collarbone length since August….. want Mid Back Length by the fall…..

Shariese Dennard

Yes I need help, my hair won’t thicken up n I wash it every 2 weeks! If someone can Help me PLEASE INBOX ME I DNT MINE!

Ja'Torien Jones

How thin my hair is.

Jazzy Jae Lewis

I’m not afraid of the rain.

Chanelle-Lize Antoinette Marshall

My hair un-shrinks in humid air, and when the air is dry, my hair shrinks like there’s no tomorrow! What?!

Ebony Wooden

Its definitely a lot more work than I expected. But you get used to it after awhile

TorrieLisa Jacobs

My hair getting lighter. I thought it was the relaxer.

Starlan Hoke

My kinks went all the way back to the mother land

Yoshoa Fabrice

cool

Renee Strob

Dry scalp