3. Trying everything that’s trending
Have you heard of peer pressure? Peer pressure by definition is:
The social influence a peer group exerts on its individual members, as each member attempts to conform to the expectations of the group (Dictionary.com).
Social media is the biggest peer pressuring “bully” and we are all guilty to giving in sometimes. Specifically focusing on the natural hair community what you see trending mostly are hairstyles and methods that are usually labeled as pretty, fierce, chic, simple, easy and whatever marketing phrase used to get you to try it.
Not everything that glitters will glitter on you. Yea I know that’s not the saying but work with me here. Just because that bantu knot out looked so great on that girl does not mean you have to do it too. You don’t have to subject your hair to fit into the most popular hairstyle that everyone is doing.
Nor subject your pocket book to buy the products that everyone swears is their holy grail. Let me tell you something, a lot of those people who are holy grail-ing that product are being paid to shout it from the mountain tops. If you already have a regimen involving products and styles your hair likes and thrives on then stick to them.
Ok try something new every blue moon but always keep your foundation. Do you know why our children and even some men’s hair grows so well and strong? Their regimens are simple and minimal.
You are not doing a new style on your child’s hair every week because that’s what is trending. You are keeping it simple and minimal. If you are constantly changing with the natural hair masses then you don’t know “who is your natural?”
4. Moisturizing daily with water. Maybe you shouldn’t?
In my video “Daily Moisturizing Might Not Be For You” I discuss how moisturizing daily might be a method you should not try. When I say daily moisturizing I am referring to methods such as “wash and go” using water or water based products.
The constant saturation of water, raking of product and tedious defining might be too much wear and tear on hair that has high shrinkage. When high shrinkage hair is left open and free our strands interlock usually resulting is pesky knots and tangles.
Even if you don’t leave it free and open, our wet hair still shrinks within that braid or twist so it meshes together. That’s why when you take the braid down you experience some tangling. Speaking of tangling in my video “They Say 4c Should Not Wash and Go” tells it all.
For my nappyfu friends I went through the “wash and go” experience and I think I can confidently say it’s not for high shrinkage club members. No matter how you do it. This type of daily moisturizing is not ideal for hair that shrinks up more than 2-4 inches its true length.
You can moisturize every hour if you want but if you are a high shrinkage natural this might not be the route you want to go if healthy hair and growth is your goal. If your regimen is on point you can manage to skip a few days in between moisturizing.