What Would You Do If You Had To Start Over Again With Your Hair?

What if you had to start over again

Recently, a friend of mine came to me for hair advice. She expressed her frustration after having tried everything recommended for her hair at the beauty supply store. However nothing seemed to work.

She had massive hair loss, and her hair line was barely there. She explained that her hair felt dry and brittle most of the time. She sent me a picture of her hair; and it was a sight to be seen (putting it lightly). She claimed to be doing ‘protective styling’ by braiding and weaving so that she could rest her hair while transitioning.

She failed to realize that these ‘protective styles’ might not be protecting anything at all. Instead, they caused her pain and agony. Her scalp and hair were so damaged from the pulling of braids and weaves and she was not properly caring for her hair while she was wearing these styles. She had no choice but to grab the scissors and do the ‘big chop’.


You need a paid membership to read the rest of this article. You can either login in below or sign up here:

OR


About Shelly Ann Cameron


Hi, I am Shelly Ann Cameron, freelance writer for BlackHairInformation.com. Jamaican born but call NYC home since 2005. When I'm not at my full time job as a Marketing Analyst, I am blogging about natural hair and lifestyle on my blog www.glamnaturallife.com. I created my blog to document my natural hair journey and share whatever I learned along the way. I am a promoter of healthy hair whether it's relaxed or natural. While I am no natural hair Nazi, since going natural in 2011, many of my articles are natural hair driven.

About Shelly Ann Cameron


Hi, I am Shelly Ann Cameron, freelance writer for BlackHairInformation.com. Jamaican born but call NYC home since 2005. When I'm not at my full time job as a Marketing Analyst, I am blogging about natural hair and lifestyle on my blog www.glamnaturallife.com. I created my blog to document my natural hair journey and share whatever I learned along the way. I am a promoter of healthy hair whether it's relaxed or natural. While I am no natural hair Nazi, since going natural in 2011, many of my articles are natural hair driven.

ENJOYED THIS POST? JOIN OUR NEWSLETTER!

Sign Up Now


MORE FROM BHI

121
Leave a Reply

avatar
114 Comment threads
7 Thread replies
0 Followers
 
Most reacted comment
Hottest comment thread
108 Comment authors
win dMakeba StephenAlthea PattersonShadette BrittinghamBlaque Chyna Recent comment authors
  Subscribe  
Notify of
Diana White

Chop-chop!!

April King

I pray that I don’t have to start over the in between stage is something, but if I have to I know what to do. I know the LOC Method, I know which products work on my hair short…..I would pray like I did the first time and keep it moving. I’m 10 1/2 months post big chop and It is what it is….my back to curls journey is fantastic

Sophia Ferrer

I wouldn’t mind starting all over again I would like to but do it a lil more different need to find good products to go with my hair instead of over drying my hair

Shena Smith

I started over. I was pregnant last year so I was natural for a year. I had my son in may perm in june. I totally regret it. I had shoulder length hair. I never permed it again. In January I chopped the perm off. I’m not going back my hair is so much softer and grows better without it.

Tasheen Lockridge

I should start over again now
This perm is breaking off my hair something fierce! I just needed a hit of my creamy crack! I need rehab!

Brina S. Parrish

I would’ve never fell into the con of relaxers for manageability.

Regina Stevenson

I would not let it grow as long.

Shaneil Sha-neel Zecil

Know what products to use and stick with it instead of turning in to a product junkie

Catheryn Ford

I cut it all off . But it’s growing back now healthy .

Rhonda Brown Neal

I would have never gotten a relaxer/perm- I wish I was all natural from the beginning-I luv my natural hair and hopefully I won’t have to start over

Celeste Jackman

Take care of it better

Jamillah Davis

I would’ve told my mom, back in the 80’s not to let me get a jheri curl! 🙂 #realtalk

Diana White

Me too! I used tht dr miracle perm kit abt a yr or so ago and my hair hated it! Was coming out in chunks and hasn’t recovered yet! My hair is so dry and brittle:( I’ve been trying all kinds of homemade this tht and the other as well as good shampoos and conditioners–spent a small fortune to keep from hvg to just chop it all off. And my daughter practically threatened me not to perm it anymore–but I did:( was hvg such a time tryn to find good hair styles to cover the holes in my head–but I’m going natural–no more perms–my hair has grown some since then and the patches are starting to be covered and I do use a fill in at times–but what a dreadful experience this has been.

Deborah Wilson

I want to shave my head so bad.

Jacqueline Dreamgirl

It’s 4month that i have go natural, if i had to start over i will wish that i never had perm my hear Never

Jennifer Price

I’d give my natural hair a try to see what it’s actually like – by the time my mom turned me loose to manage my own head, I was already relaxed. My relaxed hair is healthy and heading towards ap/bs length, but I’m sooooo curious as to what I might be able to do with my ultra kinky natural hair – I’ve never actually tried.

Veronica RonniePooh Radford

Start over. I mean it’s hair… It’ll grow back!! Lol

Makeba Stephen

I never wudof gotten it relaxed went all the way to my junior yr in high school witout one an made tht mistake and went there i wish i wudof just left it alone

Apryl Byrd

I wouldnt dye my hair if i were to start all over.

Apryl Byrd

Oan i wouldnt care if i had to start all over…i love my unique hair and the natural me!!

Kelly Hall

Maybe transition longer vs big chop. I would have definitely gone natural much sooner.

Tara Chase Stephens

BIG CHOP

Thelma Brown
Thelma Brown

Much to my dismay I have had to big chop again this week. I have cut my hair off 4 times. I recently found out that I have a vitamin D deficiency. One of the side effects is alopecia. Here I go agan!

Mary
Mary

Last month found out I have a Vitamin D deficiency too. Now I know what was wrong with my hair. I’ve been taking Biotin and my Dr. prescribed 2,000 units of Vitamin D and my hair is really looking a lot better already. Hope things work out for you.

Gloria Holmes

Cut it off and move on…

Jennifer Fixthe Fernback

I don’t know about my hair but that model’s eye makeup is AMAZING.

Angela
Angela

I was told to do the big chop almost 3 years ago by my then stylist. Mainly because of my stylist using the glue in quick weaves. I am still having trouble growing my temple areas in , but it is progressing now. Before my big chop, I had not had any chemicals in my hair for a year and a half. I have a wonderful stylist now who gives me great advice on my hair. I make sure I go to my appointments every 2 weeks , like I have done for years.She also told me that she thinks that I was advised wrong and that i really should have never had my hair chopped off. I was told later that my ex stylist was jealous of me. Crazy right?? I have learned to be careful when it comes to choosing a stylist.

Monalisa Temple-bess

I wouldn’t have permed nor cut my hair

Julie Faith
Julie Faith

I am so lucky to have hair that grows at a decent length and doesn’t require too much to keep it healthy and moisturized. However, I had to do the BC again last month because I have trichotillomania (I pull out my own hair). It was so broke off, all different lengths, damaged and bald spots that I had to cut it all off. Its so disappointing after going a whole year of growing it out. Anyone else have this problem.

Portia Motsage

It would be heartbreaking but if circumstamces force me, i will have to take it with a pinch of salt!!

Roneisha Monae

Explore my natural texture more. Well I have been natural all of my life, but I use heat to manage my hair. I often wonder how different my texture would be if I never used heat.

Lisa
Lisa

Do you prepoo on dry hair?

RACHEL
RACHEL

I HAVE STARTED OVER SO, SO MANY TIMES!!! OVER THE PAST 15 YEARS, I HAVE CUT MY HAIR OVER AND OVER. MY #1 STYLIST SUGGESTED THAT I COMB A PERM THROUGH MY HAIR, NOT LETTING IT STAY ON UNTIL MY HAIR WAS STRAIGHT, UST LONG ENOUGH TO RELAX MY NATURAL CURL. I LET HIM DO IT AND USED THE WAVE NOUVEAU LOTION AND MOISTTURIZING MIST. BUT, I WANTED TO BE NATURAL!!! I’VE DONE THIS SEVERAL TIMES. THE LAST MISTAKE I MADE WAS TO LET ANOTHER STYLIST PUT A CURL RELAXER ON MY HAIR. BIG MISTAKE…..SHE LET THE PERM STAY ON TOO LONG, AND BY THE THIRD WASH, I NOTICE THAT I HAD SEVERE BREAKAGE IN THE TOP OF MY HEAD!!!! AND, IN SPOTS, MY HAIR IS SOOOOOOOO THIN. MY HAIR HAS ALWAYS BEEN THICK, NOW WHEN I COMB, I CAN SEE HOLES. I ALSO NEED A GOOD REGIMEN TO MAKE MY HAIR GROW SOFT AND NOT TOO KINKY!!! I HAVE BECOME A PRODUCT JUNKIE, SO ANYTHING YOU SUGGEST, I PROBABLY ALREADY HAVE, JUST DON’T KNOW HOW TO ACHIEVE A STYLE I LIKE. EVERY PICTURE I SEE ON THESE SITES AND IN MAGAZINES APPEARS TO BE WOMEN WITH WHAT WE CALL “THAT GOOD GRADE OF HAIR”, AND THAT’S WHAT I WANT. I KNOW EVERYBODY DOES NOT HAVE THE SAME GRADE OF HAIR, SO HOW CAN WE “KINKY SISTERS” GET THAT LOOK WITHOUT HEAT AND CHEMICALS???? PLEASE HELP BEFORE I GO BACK TO THE “BOY CUT”!!! THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR ANY ADVICE YOU CAN GIVE!!!

Mary
Mary

If I had to start over, I would probably get a relaxer.

Ramona
Ramona

I had to start over just last week, after 2 years of growth because keeping my ends moisturized was really difficult due to having highlights; I was truly over it. I wanted to cry looking at how short my hair was again but I knew my hair would be healthier without it.. In one week my hair grew a half inch by using a good hair regimen that includes the LOC method, the inversion method w/Jamaican black castor oil and the GHE method. Patience, a good regimen and lots of TLC really works miracles.

Shenita Penn

Use less heat

Sherry
Sherry

If I had to start over, one thing I would not have done was to braid my fragile hair. I already had thin hair and the pulling from the braids did not help and really irritated my scalp. Notice I said had thin hair. My hair has thicken up a great deal. My scalp and hair did not take well to braids at all. I really did not consider the damage that had already weakened my hair. So after paying a very good sum of money on braids, and yet more hair loss and irritated scalp. I decided after seeing how poorly my scalp and hair condition was that I started pining my hair up or roller setting and keeping my hair moisturized, conditioned and oiled. Sleeping only with silk or satin pillows and scarfs. I even mist my hair with oils and water and wear a plastic cap and often apply steam to my hair. Not to forget I also use different assortment of herbs and natural oils for some of my home made products. But back to braids, regardless of the conditioning, protein treatments and oils I was using the damage was there and there was no getting around it. So I changed my thought process on my hair and really started paying attention to the condition of my scalp and then my hair. If I had to start over, I would continue to do what I am doing right now: by treating my scalp to promote a healthy environment for my hair to grow. Conditioning and using protein treatments for my hair and the use of different types of oils for different needs for my hair and scalp. I would name them, but there are too many I have tried. Since I decided to transition from relax to natural. I did not do the “Big Chop”. I instead started clipping my ends every 8 to 12 weeks and spend more time in getting to know my hair and scalp to see what really works for me. Again, working from the scalp to hair process. I became more concern with the condition of my scalp then my hair and this still holds true today. Its only been 6 months, but my scalp is healthier and my hair looks and feels so much better. The big plus is that I am not seeing so much breakage like I use to, my hair is not brittle and dry, and I enjoy getting to know my natural state of my hair. I actually can see that my hair has grown; whereas before, I thought my hair would never grow, but in actuality my hair was growing, but breaking off just has fast as it was growing.

Devera Smith Robinson

I’ve had to start over three times already; when I cut off my dreads in 1994, when I cut my hair off to support my sister going through breast cancer a few years back and the last time was a year ago when I was transitioning from a relaxer. I actually like the TWA stage because my hair loved wash-n-goes then.

Ranina Bolton

I cut mine & I feel free and even more beautiful!

Esther
Esther

Hi,
Can you give examples of products to use for LOC? Initially I had been using blue magic coconut oil, but it contains petroleum ;( So will no longer use it. I will look for the natural coconut oil. As for the moisturizing before shampooing, do I just use honey? Or can I mix it with avocado? I did my big chop about 7 months ago and my hair doesn’t seen to grow. I braided for the first time this Jan and when I took it off, my hair cuts seriously. So using a wig now. However, I think weaves/extensions are friendly to my hair. I need your urgent help and advice. Regards

Brenda
Brenda

I need some he[p have been natural for about 3 years now. And was told that I have alopica I need help on what is best thing for me to try. really need SOME HELP. MISSING MY HAIR

Sheki Williams

Wish i hadn’t flat iron my hair!

LaDonna
LaDonna

I absolutely loved this article and found it very interesting. I am currently working with my 6 year old cousin’s hair. Her hair was badly damaged by a perm. Her hair was so badly damaged/tangled it took me 11 hours to detangle it where I could even get a large tooth comb through it. I am so grateful for patience. Not to mention she is “tender headed”. We have come a long way in just 1 year and I have received so much useful information from the Black Hair Information site and reading the hair journeys of others. Thank you Black Hair Information and all of you who share your experiences. God bless and good luck to you all.

Jodhe Rose

I cut mines off in October into a low fade.. Right now I’m going it the right way.. I made a few mistakes my first time around

Ms. Q
Ms. Q

I would do all of my research first…hair type, products, protective styles…instead of just going for it. Lesson learned.

Lorna
Lorna

Because of alopecia and folliculitis, I’ve had to cut my hair off several times. I used to say “it’s just hair. It’ll grow back.” No longer true. Regardless, whether I’m bald or sporting the afro puff when it does grow…In God’s eyse…I’m perfect.

Zangaolia Miller

it was the best thing i ever did for myself . starting over is like a rebirth.

Priscilla Washington

I did a big chop about two weeks ago. I can’t tell you how liberated I feel. I had length but the knots, tangles and scab hairs were out of control! The maintenance was consuming my life! This time around I will DC more, trim, moisturize and twist my hair at night. I’ve also started doing henna and other treatments to smooth the cuticle of my hair.

Terry Norman

Bittersweet!!! I’ll know what to use instead of trying to use everything. Lol

Zandra Niafaria Annette Thomas

I shaved mines off recently so already get to enjoy this 🙂

1 2 3