But as time went on I realized that products do not grow your hair, products maintain your strands from breaking off and leaving you for greener pastures.
Do I endorse certain lines? Of course I’ve got my favorites just like everybody else but it isn’t because of the brand or what that pretty girl said on the commercial, its because I like the stuff that’s in it, I know how to use it to my advantage and the stuff has my strands singing Amazing Grace even when nobody died! Your hair needs water to maintain itself , and oil to maintain the water, its that simple!
2. You never deep condition with heat
Yes you will see posts that say, deep conditioning* with heat isn’t necessary, in theory that might be true in some cases or for some people, but if your hair is constantly dry, constantly brittle why in the world would you think that particular titbit applies to you? Go to the library or grab your kindle and get yourself a 20 minute read while you sit under the dryer with a plastic cap on and hydrate those curls.
We have a ton of hydrating tools on the market these days, steamers, over head and hand held and you also have your good old rickety dryer that still works. If you do not have a fancy plastic caps, get the Walmart bag you have thrown down on the floor in the pantry that your mom told you 50-100 times to throw away. No excuses, you need to deep condition your hair with heat, weekly!
3. You are doing too much
Cherry Lola treatment, bentonite clay, rhassoul clay, not to mention Sassy just put some sweet potatoes in her hair last week. Girl you better eat them potatoes!! Don’t get fancy before you get basic. I am not saying these things aren’t great for your hair, but when you are having progress trouble, you have to strip it all away and get down to basics. Moisture, protein, cleanse repeat.
Your hair is a fiber so if its breaking, you lack moisture or you are stripping your moisture away somehow. If your hair is weak and mushy, you lack protein, if you need protein, get an egg which is the most basic protein you can find in your kitchen, crack it open and give your hair some strength.
4. You are styling way too many times
You sometimes have an obsession with expectations, you want your hair to stretch but not too much, you want it to be curly but not to revert to it’s natural kinks, you want it look thick and long even though its short, you want your edges laid with every so called baby hair in place though you are 30 years old with not a baby hair in sight, that’s none of my business tho. So you find yourself having to restyle it daily to achieve all of this. Seriously!?
Your curls are rebellious, so stretching is definitely necessary to prevent tangles but one detangling and stretching session a week is more than enough.
If you want healing and progress you have to give your hair a break and stop trying to make it submit to your “i’m so fancy” demands. Let that thing breath and if you can’t bear the sight of it doing its thing, wear a protective style while you nurse it back to health.