Yes, you read the blog, yes you do protective styles, yes you finger detangle but it’s 2014. You have been natural since 2008 and your hair is still neck length when at full shrinkage and just barely past your arm pits stretched. You watch YouTube, and sexysassy987 has waist length hair now, yet you both started your hair journeys at the same time.
Aw, come on – don’t act like you don’t do that, we know you count those months and tell yourself, well technically you did your big chop in November of 08 and she did hers in June of 08, so you really started in 09 and she had a head start.
Listen, comparison is normal, we are constantly in competition even when we do not want to be. We have to consciously tell ourselves that we arent in a race, not with Sassy, not even with ourselves quite frankly.
On BHI we get the same question over and over, it goes a little something like this, “Hey can you help me, I am doing everything I can to grow my hair and I just don’t see any progress, signed 16 and desperate!”
My first thought is, what does “everything” mean? The first thing you need to stop is the “everything”, but without hammering that too much the truth is we cant tell you what you are doing wrong specifically because as much as we would want to be there with you during wash day we just cant. But what we can do is create a list, a list of things that you just might be doing that may just be causing you not to the retain length that you should. Lets get started!
1. You still think products ‘grow’ your hair
It isnt about product guys, its about ingredients! You know what, I did that too once upon a time, I remember once taking three bottles of half used products and mixing them together to create a product that was to me, perfect. I knew the ingredients of all three, it was a light gel, first ingredient water, a light hold cream, first ingredient water and a bottle of pure unadulterated olive oil*.
I mixed all three in the bottle that had the least amount of product in it, slapped a label on it and called it “Petra”. Yes Petra, which means that this bottle is my stuff that I will be using as my moisturizer and nobody else in the house with hair better touch it.