Are You Familiar with What it Takes To Maintain Natural Hair?
Many men who have a bad attitude to natural hair are ignorant of what it takes to care for it and would rather remain in oblivion. They don’t want to know or deal with any of the steps that go into maintaining a healthy mane and styling it to your or their satisfaction.
They may not be able to understand why wash day takes literally almost the entire day, and many don’t want to cope with satin bonnets*. If the candidate is like this, it’s a red flag.
If I were To Cut My Hair Now, What Would Your Reaction Be?
Ultimately, the decisions you make concerning your hair is yours, but in a relationship, there must be some level of mutual respect and some give and take. It is only fair to give a guy notice if you plan on doing a big chop for that is a drastic visual change for him, especially if he is used to you with long flowing hair.
How Open Are You When It Comes To Your Woman Experimenting With Hairstyles?
While some men will say they are O.K. with natural hair, many of them are only O.K. if they know that you will “make it presentable”. Of course, this usually means that they expect it to be tamed with slick n’ hold products, clips, buns or braids.
They may not be into an afro of any kind or puffs. some men even dislike twists and cornrows, as they think it is childish, since getting a relaxer has been a right of passage for many young black girls for ages. You wouldn’t want to have a beau who doesn’t want to be identified with you on account that you love your afro or brightly colored kinks.
Expectations are a hell of a thing especially when it comes to relationships, we all have them; pecks of steel, bronze Adonis, chocolatey with good teeth, a healthy credit score, a great personality and someone crazy about natural hair comes to mind.
The thing is expectations are not always met and sometimes we have to seek a suitable compromise or cut our losses and move on. Chances are if a guy likes you he is going to want to come to the table, even if it’s just to get his Mack on. Once he approaches, start your interrogation. At the end of it all, you’ll make the call as to whether or not he makes the cut.