9 Hair Questions to Ask A Prospective Beau

afroWhen I Say Afro what Comes to Mind?

You want to figure out if he is the type of man who thinks that there is something wrong with the afro as a style. If you feel like taking a pick to your kinks or coils, will he be turned off?

Give Me Five Words to Describe Natural Hair

If he is gushing with nothing but favorable adjectives to describe natural hair, that is great. It could mean he is conscious enough to realize that the euro-centric standard of beauty is biased. If he starts spitting venom then you know it’s a red flag.

What’s Your Relationship with Natural Hair?

The relevance of this is to gauge his experience with natural hair. Does he have afro-textured hair? Was his mama or any other female in his family natural? Has he dated naturals?

What did any such reaction teach him about natural hair or black hair care? Now be careful to get to the nitty-gritty of things and find out what naturals – if any – he has had contact with for in the eyes of many men, not all naturals are created equal as some types get a pass and others don’t.

Do You Prefer Natural, a Relaxer or Weave?

If he says relaxer and you are natural, it could be he may expect you to change your hair in future if you both make a go at a relationship or it could mean nothing other than a preference. If it is the latter, and he’s seen your natural hair, find out why he would date you since he prefers a girl with a relaxer.


If you are a natural who uses weaves/wigs as a protective style while you transition to your desired length it will give you some insight as well, for some men have no issues with weaves/wigs, it’s just the kinks and coils that they can’t handle. Then, there are those who would rather their woman wear her own hair instead of something imported or store bought.

About Marsha Buchanan


As a Jamaican girl raised in a devout church family headed by my mother, I have always had my natural hair, no chemical processing. After years of mistreating it , often ignorant of that fact, I began my healthy hair journey in January 2013 in fact, I have seen to it that my entire household falls in line where this is concerned. When I am not poring over some hair blog or forum I spend my time teaching English to rowdy high school students (ok maybe I have some little sweethearts in the mix), mothering the most adorable two year old on this globe, or rushing to meet the deadline for a writing project on Elance. In my spare time I enjoy a stroll along the beach with my doting husband.

About Marsha Buchanan


As a Jamaican girl raised in a devout church family headed by my mother, I have always had my natural hair, no chemical processing. After years of mistreating it , often ignorant of that fact, I began my healthy hair journey in January 2013 in fact, I have seen to it that my entire household falls in line where this is concerned. When I am not poring over some hair blog or forum I spend my time teaching English to rowdy high school students (ok maybe I have some little sweethearts in the mix), mothering the most adorable two year old on this globe, or rushing to meet the deadline for a writing project on Elance. In my spare time I enjoy a stroll along the beach with my doting husband.

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Good questions