When I Say Afro what Comes to Mind?
You want to figure out if he is the type of man who thinks that there is something wrong with the afro as a style. If you feel like taking a pick to your kinks or coils, will he be turned off?
Give Me Five Words to Describe Natural Hair
If he is gushing with nothing but favorable adjectives to describe natural hair, that is great. It could mean he is conscious enough to realize that the euro-centric standard of beauty is biased. If he starts spitting venom then you know it’s a red flag.
What’s Your Relationship with Natural Hair?
The relevance of this is to gauge his experience with natural hair. Does he have afro-textured hair? Was his mama or any other female in his family natural? Has he dated naturals?
What did any such reaction teach him about natural hair or black hair care? Now be careful to get to the nitty-gritty of things and find out what naturals – if any – he has had contact with for in the eyes of many men, not all naturals are created equal as some types get a pass and others don’t.
Do You Prefer Natural, a Relaxer or Weave?
If he says relaxer and you are natural, it could be he may expect you to change your hair in future if you both make a go at a relationship or it could mean nothing other than a preference. If it is the latter, and he’s seen your natural hair, find out why he would date you since he prefers a girl with a relaxer.
If you are a natural who uses weaves/wigs as a protective style while you transition to your desired length it will give you some insight as well, for some men have no issues with weaves/wigs, it’s just the kinks and coils that they can’t handle. Then, there are those who would rather their woman wear her own hair instead of something imported or store bought.