Women Like what they hear and men like what they see, so women wear makeup and men lie
I think its pretty interesting how the guys are starting to make their opinions known about how they feel about natural hair. More and more we are starting to include our partners on our journey teaching them our ‘language’ and getting them to understand our position. Some of us are even calling them out on national TV, which isn’t meant to be mean but it is also meant to say “hey, we really think this is important!”.
I found Sava while cruising YouTube, and I thought his perspective was pretty cool but something we kind of know but never really thought about. In a previous post we discussed how we can include guys in our natural journey but what about what men are going through internally.
Do you think that men even though they are very visual creatures have some sort of self hate and so they cannot appreciate our hair? I think if the guys weighed in they would say, it isn’t that deep. But when you do have a guy that absolutely detests natural hair, what else can you infer if he has the same sort of hair growing from his own head?
Sava brings a male perspective to the discussion but also a African perspective because in that country they are still working on acceptance of natural hair if at all. I think I get his point, but I also think women are very visual too, and so we had to get there just like a man does. Yea we like to listen, but don’t get it twisted we like our man looking a certain way too.
Men are visual but human nature dictates that beauty is not just skin deep regardless of sex, after he sees you and likes what he sees, you will need to have a bit more to keep his attraction.
I liked his quote but when you get to a certain age, and lived a little life, makeup and lies are just not gonna cut it. Perception is a problem across the human race, how we all perceive standards of beauty what we have been taught as a man or a woman has to be re done.
Check out Sava’s video below:
Bella Orsacchiotta says
No , they love it
Jazmine Davis says
My man loves it!!
Idella Grays Pollard says
Too Bad!!!..I guess they hate their own hair then!!!
Porsche Humphery says
Most black men do but white ,Porter Rican ,Mexican ,German ,Hawaiian all love our natural hair i didn’t find that out till this summer when i went back natural its sad hun
Cashgame MakesIt Reign says
only if it looks uncombed the same way yall were complaining about Blue Ivy hair
Akudo Anyanwu says
” Sava brings a male perspective to the discussion but also a African perspective because in that country they are still working on acceptance of natural hair if at all. ” With all due respect, Africa is a continent, not a country.
In this case it might be better to say country since Sava was not specific on what country he is from, it is hard to make such an opinion apply to the entire continent of Africa. I am sure he is speaking from the perspective of his country… Akudo Anyanwu ~ Thanks for reading love
Starr Jay says
He said it “hate what I see cuz I don’t accept what I have”.
Tafara Tapfumanei says
I dnt get how a black man can hate natural hair, its the hair that grows from a persons scalp how can you hate what God gave us. On the other hand if a man is only used to seeing you with weaves wigs braids etc he will get used to looking at you from that point of view so I think women should at least let there man know they are going back to wearing natural hair that way the dude gets used your new more natural look bit by bit.
Joanne Johnson says
My opinion. I really don’t care who like my natural hair it’s my head. It’s all natural hair growing on their head.
Pamela Smith says
How can they hate the same thing that grows out their own heads?? For every weak man that hates it, there’s a strong man that will stand side by side a natural woman.
Suzie Brooks-Calvaire says
Mine too. He doesn’t like when it cuts real short ( I LovE It!) but he learned to enjoy his wife Au Naturel
Ni-Ni Henderson says
Of course not all black men are like that, but I know a lot who don’t care for it.
Darryl Ballinger says
Black men who hate natural hair on their beautiful black women are sick in the head and a traitor to their own race. They need to read my self-help book “UNBEWEAVABLE”, go to http://www.unbeweavableda.weebly.com
Joeneyce Cunningham says
Who is he and why do I give a flying FART what he thinks? I have been approached by many BLACK MEN that prefer my naturally hair over the weave I wear. #BoyBye #HarpoWhoHimIs
Deanna Merritt Ross says
BS!!! I get compliments from black men all the time. The few times I straightened my hair my hubby had a fit. Any man who could look at his own people’s natural features and hate them is not worth it!
Ariel Tarawally says
If a man fell in love with you, it had nothing to do with your hair. People accept you as you are, with the level of confidence you make them embrace. I don’t care who doesn’t like it or not, going natural tends to weed out the flakes anyway.
Shalonda Lee Hood says
My husband loves mine…who cares about the rest.
Kelly Jamila says
Never dated a black man, Never will. My bf is Mexican/white and while I don’t have natural hair he likes the way my hair looks disheveled in the morning. He calls it troll hair and likes to give me Mohawks XD
ah, but to not like a race because of their hair. …I guess to each their own XD
BadGyal Sunshine says
I think that Yeah! Of course… Them gotta Love his Beautiful natural hair. Just an opinion 🙂
Portia Motsage says
I love my hair! That sums it up. Every1 else can say what they want. The more i fall in love with my hair the more other people are curious about it and want to touch it
Akudo Anyanwu says
” Sava brings a male perspective to the discussion but also a African perspective because in that country they are still working on acceptance of natural hair if at all. ” Dear BlackHairInformation.com, I listened to and watched Sava’s video, and I certainly agree that his opinion should not apply to the whole continent. However, the preceding quote did not come from Sava, but from BlackHairInformation.com’s piece on his video. I believe I understand what you are trying to say, however that does not justify your reference to Africa as a country. There may be uninformed people who read your posts, and it would do such people an injustice to give the impression that Africa is a country rather than a continent. I am of the opinion that it would be best to provide accurate information as much as possible. I think that stating for instance, ” Sava brings a male perspective to the discussion but also a African perspective because in his part of that continent they are still working on acceptance of natural hair if at all,” would have better conveyed your stated intent in the quoted sentence. I stand by my earlier comment that Africa is a continent, not a country. Having said that, although I do not agree with all the points in your piece and Sava’s video, both of you made some valid points.
I agree with everything you said. Especially the fact that Sava is from the continent Africa. Sava can not speak for all men in the USA. Of course Sava can appreciate natural hair due to his background. USA “black men” have preferences and many of them cannot tell straight from weaves, natural, curly, etc. They like what they see due to being visual. They like hair styles and most men like hair length or long hair because men cut their hair. Its more acceptable to them as a straight man to like long hair because they do not want females to resemble men. To most of them its a feature that set men apart from women and that’s what they find attractive. The texture do not really matter as the article states its not that deep. Like you said the article and the video have some valid points.
Quila Jecole Miller says
The lies you tell, my husband loves the natural look!!
Pb Kanes says
BULL SHYT… I LOVE BLACK WOMEN WITH REAL HAIR… THEY DON’T NEED WHITE HAIR…
Beverly Colvin says
get over it,
Rhianna Serenity Crawford says
I love that HATE is in capitals lol so much passion. Anyway, I’ve found that black boys are more likely to have an issue with it (maybe because that’s all they saw growing up), black MEN however seem to really love it. Who cares though, a lot of guys don’t like relaxed hair either. Live for yourself ladies not for men, you can’t please everyone.
Debbie Hodge says
I love this video. Very encouraging to me. Thank u.
Ramayada Devine says
Speak for yourself Sava please don’t include the black kings that prefer a natural women btw we can still wear makeup and rock a mean fro lbvs I don’t wear nun of it but whatever
I met men of different hair preferences. My exhub like my hair rather it was straight or kinky he believe women should always wear their real hair he just don’t believe in hair cuts. He did not approve of weave or short hair. My current man just plain don’t like short hair. he do not care of the texture meaning rather its kinky or straight. She he approve of weave or natural or straight but not short hair. I guess what I’m trying to say is men are visual and they just want to see a woman’s hair well managed. But Sava said some truthful things. I love my locs I just do not like how short they are at this time and wear weaves.
Achak Tacari says
Black men don’t hate natural hair. Its the unnatural that is disliked.
I find when MEN, in general have a problem, it is within themselves. How can you not like any one who chooses to embrace ANY thing, or however they choose. People embracing themselves should allow others to do the same, not to create uneccessary debates…
I think that the best phrase would be “some men do not like kinky hair”. When you generalize it like you did, it sparks off an argument. Also true about implying that Africa is a country. Ive seen this around and mostly always among african americans which goes from being wrong to just plain sad. Ive met a few caucasian men who are not too fond of kinky hair either so my opinion is that it shouldnt be a hot topic as there always has to be a balance.
Shalawn Dudley says
I haven’t watched the video yet so not sure what he said. But I think the reason some black men don’t like natural hair is because they have been accustomed to seeing us with relaxer. Maybe its a little weird for them. But they have the same hair as we do! Like a previous poster said, at least it weeds out the nuts. Thankfully, my boyfriend loves my natural hair and I find him staring at it lovingly.
Maybe because it doesn’t look like what is shown on TV/Media , same reason why many ladies use weaves to fit in their socially acceptable styles… Our Natural hair are super strong if its healthy so just be sure to keep it moisture even with your weaves and rock it out loud in am afro sometimes and find out who love you and you dont!!! I have perm and use extensions, but my daughter is natural and I love her hair and love seeing other natural ladies when we are out:)
Cal Lypso says
I grew up in Nigeria and my experience wasn’t dissimilar. I do agree with you that such upbringing does foster, usually subconscious self hate. I think the major difference between the sexes is that a guy just has to keep it short to be neat and “acceptable”. As woman, years of relaxer burns and tight edges ripping weaves/extension that mean you you cannot get a good night sleep for a week after installation, I think causes women to confront the demon sooner. Thanks for sharing