1. Women only wear weave because they have no hair
The idea that women wear weaves and wigs(affiliate link) because they are “bald” or have undesirably short hair is something that I hear often, but contrary to popular belief- it is generally untrue. Sure, wigs and extensions(affiliate link) allow you to add ridiculous amounts of length that you don’t currently have but these styles are not exclusive to women with short or damaged hair.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard snide comments about a woman being edge-less or bald because she was wearing a weave; this has everything to do with lack of education and the belief that Black women can’t grow long hair naturally. Obviously this is completely untrue. Women wear wigs and weaves(affiliate link) for a plethora of reasons-one being hair protection.
Unless you have a leave out, your hair will be completely braided up or covered underneath your wig(affiliate link) or weave-and if installed correctly, these styles will allow growth and/or protecting it from damage. This also allows women to play with hair length, cut, and color without ever having to touch or damage their own hair.
2. Women who relax their hair are practicing self hatred
“Natural hair is ugly” has always been something I’ve heard over the years and although the comments were always few and far between, they still stung. Because of this, I’m not surprised that there are a lot of people who see relaxing your kinks and coils as a form of self-hatred.
Admittedly, I know there are young Black women who relax their hair in order to live up to western beauty ideals or to distance themselves from their heritage; I see it every day. However, linking every relaxed woman to self-hatred is not only absurd, but offensive as well.
The truth is, most women got their first relaxer when they were young and continue to get them as adults because it is what they know. Others maintain relaxers because it makes their hair more manageable or they just don’t have a desire to go natural.
Whatever the case may be, all women who relax their hair do not hate themselves and it is unfair to assume that they do.