3. There is still a risk of product overload.
Surprise, surprise. Guess what else contributed to my friends flaky scalp? You bet, all of those products that she just had to have. Anti Frizz serum. Heat protectant. Blue magic Hair grease. Styling mousse. Hair gel. Hair sheen spray. I could go on, but it seems to me that a lot of these products just masked some of her problems.
Then, because of buildup, she had to wash her hair way too much. Some people can wash their hair often. Some cannot. She is one of the latter. Man, I tell you, Baby girl had flakes as big as the end of my thumb! (just kidding, that’s so gross) She had to stop and think about what her hair needed from the inside out. Covering up the damage with products was like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound. Make sense?
4. Yes, you can still do twist outs, lol.
This seemed to shock my friend. I have noticed that women who put more time between their relaxers rely on twist or braid outs to get them through the period when the new growth starts coming in. If you ask me, a pretty braid is any girls best friend. So is a bun. Plus, it’s hot as heck now. You really want your hair on your neck? Twist it up and pin it back, girlfriend! Since my friend put a bit more time between here relaxers, she is noticing that her hair is growing.
5. Know that relaxed hair is just as beautiful as natural hair.
I have noticed that some of my relaxed friends feel the need to explain to me on a regular basis why they are relaxed. One of my friends actually said, ” I was on the web the other day looking for info on hair, and more natural sites popped up than ones for me. It’s like relaxing is a dying breed.”
I was shocked. If anything, I felt the opposite. Isn’t individual perception funny? It’s as if we all see what we are not, as opposed to what we are, which is unique!
One does not have to be natural or relaxed to be beautiful. Shoot, you could have either, but if it’s dull and dry and just, well, unhealthy, it’s not going to look good. Healthy hair equals beautiful hair, relaxed or natural.
I just wanted to mention a few of these things because I have noticed that there are, in this day and age, quite a few relaxed versus natural websites popping up. These are absolute rubbish, and cause an unnecessary divide. Neither is better than the other. I’m going to be perfectly honest: If you start a site or blog or visit forums just to get an air of superiority over someone because of their hair, then trust me, dear, you have bigger issues than hair!
My friend’s hair is thriving now. She uses a milder relaxer, a couple of oils, and shea butter. Her hair is growing, and it’s stronger and has a nice sheen to it. She also no longer compares our heads of hair, because she knows that, between friends, hair is just hair. It’s not a competition. I don’t want her to have natural hair. I want her to have healthy hair.
And besides, isn’t that what we all want?
Hey, Relaxed Beauties! What’s your regimen?
Originally posted 2012-06-17 19:00:51.