Relationships are filled with huge compromises some of them great for both parties some that might mean one person has to sacrifice for the other, but just what you sacrifice is what is the center of this conversation.
Hair is sexy to some men and some men find silky, straight hair way sexier than textured coily hair just like we used to feel way back in the day. You see we were not the only ones admiring a relaxer when we were 13 and making it a way of life.
Even though guys did not get perms, it was there normal too. They saw their sisters, aunts, best friends, past girlfriends, grandmothers and of course their moms.
They even saw their dad’s tell their mom how beautiful she looks with straight hair. Just like we had to unravel so do they, so lets discuss some of the steps we need to take to get them there.
Acknowledge that you used to feel just like him
Don’t act like this was easy for you, because we all know how many of us got ‘here’ was not easy. We read, we studied, we had conversations that he probably was not apart of, we did alot to get comfortable so the first step is to acknowledge that.
Explain how you felt about your hair before going natural, what your mindset was whether it was positive or negative so that he has a complete understanding about where you are coming from.
Communicate the reasons for your decision
Tell him in non-emotional terms why you want to do this. Men are emotional but show there emotion in different ways, they do not think the way we think so we need to explain it in a language they can relate to that is less emotional and more logical.
Explain or show evidence of the harmful chemicals in relaxers and explain or show if you are having hair or scalp issues because of the chemicals. Show them the variations of styles natural hair can achieve and explain that even though you do not know what your will look like you are willing to experiment with styles he may find more attractive.
Originally posted 2014-07-10 15:00:50.