How I Grew Out My Daughter’s 3B Hair To Tail Bone Length Using Only Natural Ingredients

Mother and Daughter

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Caring for my own natural hair for 4 years before my second daughter was born gave me a lot of insight into what to do.

Lord knows I didn’t know what the heck I was doing with my hair at the get-go, but after many trials and errors, I came up with a simple system that kept my hair and scalp nourished and free of damage.

I used to have chemically processed hair and decided to grow it out without the big chop. I vowed that my daughters would never go on the path of relaxers like I had done.

I teach my daughters to love their hair and to avoid toxic chemicals that not only harm their hair, but bodies as well. So hopefully these lessons go on with them for many years, and they teach their daughters the same.

My eldest daughter has 4c hair, so I dreadlocked hers. My second eldest daughter, who is now four has my 3b hair and it’s almost to her tailbone.

Her hair has grown substantially in such a short time and it’s very healthy. I didn’t use any commercial products in her hair, just all-natural ingredients and products made by companies that I trust.

Keeping her hair clean and conditioned with shikakai and amla


I first started out using Kirk’s coconut castile shampoo and conditioner on her hair, then switched over to a conditioning shampoo bar made with shikakai, amla, brahmi, bhringraj and areetha.

Both are great, but I prefer the conditioning shampoo bar because it is more natural and offers a ton of benefits for the hair and scalp.

Detangling her hair using a paddle brush

I find that the shampoo bar helps to detangle her hair, which I do in the shower using a paddle brush. As I’m slowly rinsing her hair, I comb it with the paddle brush.

I’m able to detangle her hair without hurting her scalp because it combs right through with ease. I of course start from the tips and work my way up to the roots.

I never use a comb on her hair or my own, unless I’m parting it. The paddle brush doesn’t pull out much hair at each wash, which is why I have stuck with this detangling method.

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About Safiya Elle


Since 2008, I have been embarking on a journey to all things natural. I'm completely chemical-free (body and hair) and because of this, I was able to avoid the big chop, restore my natural curl patterns, grow my hair to tail bone length and clear my chronic acne. Today, I'm an organic vegan, natural health expert, DIY herbalist, DIY beauty, blogger and shop owner. I enjoy helping others with starting and continuing their journeys to natural hair and skin care, and hopefully an overall healthy lifestyle. On my blog, I share health and natural beauty tips, as well as delicious smoothie and meal recipes (I'm all about flava!) that help to promote healthy skin, hair and body from within. Why not maintain our beauty, as well as our youth? Health is the answer!

About Safiya Elle


Since 2008, I have been embarking on a journey to all things natural. I'm completely chemical-free (body and hair) and because of this, I was able to avoid the big chop, restore my natural curl patterns, grow my hair to tail bone length and clear my chronic acne. Today, I'm an organic vegan, natural health expert, DIY herbalist, DIY beauty, blogger and shop owner. I enjoy helping others with starting and continuing their journeys to natural hair and skin care, and hopefully an overall healthy lifestyle. On my blog, I share health and natural beauty tips, as well as delicious smoothie and meal recipes (I'm all about flava!) that help to promote healthy skin, hair and body from within. Why not maintain our beauty, as well as our youth? Health is the answer!

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Comments

  1. Yinka Ola

    She deadlocked her oldest 4 something hair and raves about how she grew her 3b daughter’s hair to tailbone length someone tell me why this is an article worthy? Why did she decide to dreadlock her other daughter’s hair?

    1. Tracie Bracey

      Yep when that was mentioned I was done with the article… she could have done the same to both

    2. Corrie Journet

      I can’t deal. I thought yall just had noticed through pictures or if she just mentioned the locs. But she seriously said she loc-ed it because it was type 4. I don’t need any tips from you if you can’t manage multiple textures.

    3. Flow Lis

      Why don’t she put all this damn effort into the other ones hair. People are obsessed with so called good hair. All hair that is healthy and strong is good.

    4. Beatrix

      Couldn’t help but think the same thing.

  2. Cali Réz

    Seems like with 3B hair you can just leave it alone and it will grow to tailbone length. Call me when you write about Type 4 hair at that length.

    1. Flow Lis

      Exactly my daughter’s have 3b hair and it sprouts. But my Type 4 hair needs a lot of care.

  3. Georgia Jackson

    It’s sounds like her two girls have the same hair as mine. I need some advice on type 4 hair. Because my youngest one hair grows no matter what I do to it. Now my oldest one hair I just keep it in a protective style but I want it to grow as well too. It’s seem like they only focus on people with type 3 hair. Type 4 hair need help too.

  4. Julie Uribe

    Not 100% sure but I believe my oldest daughter has type 4 hair. Can someone help me find what’s right for her. Her hair won’t grow past the middle of her back

  5. Aaron Michael

    im just excited i finally found out im a mix of 3C and 4A hair lol ive been following 4C rules which is probably why ive been getting different results lol yayyy

  6. Sandra Slayton-Phillips

    Why rave about only the daughter who has 3b tailbone length hair like hers? What’s about the daughter with the 4c hair she dreadlocked? ??

    1. Flow Lis

      This is exactly why it makes me angry when people tell my daughter’s they have good hair. My daughter saw this girl with dreads and told her i wish i had your hair. She looked at my baby like she was crazy. There is no way in hell they will grow up thinking there better than anyone. Because there mom has afro kinky hair and i love it!!!

  7. Jean Gross

    This is news to me…what is 3b, 4a etc. hair…never heard of the…please educate me. Thanks

    1. Khaliah Sherman

      It’s a hair typing system, that is supposed to tell you what type of curls you have. They say 3b hair is loose curls compared to type 4a which is tighter curls I think

  8. Jeanine Johnson

    This article is not impressive it would be if she were saying I grew both my daughters 4b and 3b hair texture to tailbone she just throws hers into dreads and doesn’t care for hers at all then when she wants to take them out one day will have to be cut off smh

  9. Paula Grant

    Can anyone post a link that explains the levels??? I’ve never heard of 3, 4 etc? Many thanks

  10. Quani Morales

    Thats what I was thinking. To much emhasis on her daughter with3b hair, nd the daughter w 4c hair was put to the side and dreadlocked? No offense but I think dreadlocks are a decision the child should make when shes older . She might not like it when shes 16 nd would be horrified knowing shed have to chop her hair off just to maintain length again. I would have been more impressed if she would have discussed how she maintains both children’s texture hair

  11. Sally Njoki

    How do i know my hair type?? I have very thick hair which i cannot manage when its natural soit is relaxed .

  12. Valerie Johnson

    Oh she is 4c and I just dreadlocked hers…now to talk about my other daughters 3b hair…it’s almost laughable how the oldest one was quickly dismissed. I can imagine how she is treated in that household.

  13. Ashley Fortenberry

    I personally didn’t like the fact that she just dreaded the oldest daughters hair (nothing wrong with dreads) just feels like she favors the younger daughter based on her hair type. Why didn’t she include how she keeps up the oldest child’s hair?

  14. Monica Washington

    Well my Daughters hair Certainly isn’t The same as A Mix Child! I wanna know What’s Best for My African American Daughter!! I’m soo Tired of Seeing These Articles with Lil Girls that Are Clearly Mixed and Already have good hair!

    1. Flow Lis

      My daughter’s are mixed. But i feel natural products are the best way to go mixed child or not.I used conditioner more than anything, and apple cider rinse.

  15. Alice M Higgins

    They show all the hair style and be talking about natural ingredients but what is the name of them and where do you get them .

    1. Winifred Thomas Robinson

      They will highlight specific products in articles but those don’t show on my timeline. Go to the page and scroll to the bottom. There is a list of articles and more than a few give you specific products and most times with a video.

  16. Tashani Reese

    I certainly didn’t like that comment as well in the article, but I’ll give the writer the benefit of the doubt. She herself said she’s been natural for four years. But her hair is a 3b? So she may ONLY know how to handles that type of hair, like her second daughter and thought dreading her 1st daughters hair more manageable. And I’m okay with that. She didn’t perm her oldest hair. She still tried to instill pride in both daughters with accepting their natural hair. And why can’t the oldest have long dreaded hair? I think the writer did a disservice by ONLY singling out her daughter with 3b hair.

  17. LaKecia Jabberwocky Smith

    This was a nice article about 3b hair, BUT, that one sentence alone about her eldest daughter’s hair and how it sounds like she just locked it because she had 4c hair and did not really feel like putting effort into doing her eldest daughter’s hair care which I am sure is not the case, killed it for me. I’m not sure what the reason was for that mention.

  18. Yanira Marrero Rodriguez

    My daughter is half Jamaican and she has I swear about 4 types of hair.
    She has curl coils in the back, she has alot of hair on the crown of her head and the front won’t take a curl. I’ve tried to perm it, then I left it natural (It been like that for about 4 years). I’ve tried maroccan oil, all types of oil. It’s dry and it’s driving me crazy… can someone please help..

  19. Leah

    Ok and … Who cares ?! Most girls with 3b hair can easily grow their hair super long. I think this is a slave mentality because funny how you rave out her then you mention your daughter with type 4 hair and say oh I dreadlocks her hair move on back to my ” loose curl good hair ” youngest child . Slave mentality. Why don’t you talk about them both ?! I want to see type 4 with super long hair . It’s nothing new for type 3 to grow super long hair . Oh and you and your daughter are no better just because you have loose curls . Get out of that slave mindset you mental slave ! Also I think it’s wrong to force a child to get dreadlocks . A child should only get dreadlocks if THEY WANT TOO ! Because when thy get sick of their dreadlocks THEY WOULD HAVE TO CUT THEM OFF AND START OVER AGAIN ! Mom’s like you who are so stuck on loose curls make me sick . I would never teach my child that if I had a kid . My child would know their history and love ALL BLACK HAIR NO MATTER WHAT TEXTURE ! I won’t force her to dreadlocks either ! Also I’m a 3c/4a by the way but I’m not CONSTANTLY STUCK ON HAIR TYPE BECAUSE IT’S JUST A HAIR NUMBER THAT’S IT! IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU ANY BETTER OR WORST !

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