Caring for my own natural hair for 4 years before my second daughter was born gave me a lot of insight into what to do.
Lord knows I didn’t know what the heck I was doing with my hair at the get-go, but after many trials and errors, I came up with a simple system that kept my hair and scalp nourished and free of damage.
I used to have chemically processed hair and decided to grow it out without the big chop. I vowed that my daughters would never go on the path of relaxers like I had done.
I teach my daughters to love their hair and to avoid toxic chemicals that not only harm their hair, but bodies as well. So hopefully these lessons go on with them for many years, and they teach their daughters the same.
My eldest daughter has 4c hair, so I dreadlocked hers. My second eldest daughter, who is now four has my 3b hair and it’s almost to her tailbone.
Her hair has grown substantially in such a short time and it’s very healthy. I didn’t use any commercial products in her hair, just all-natural ingredients and products made by companies that I trust.
Keeping her hair clean and conditioned with shikakai(affiliate link) and amla
I first started out using Kirk’s coconut(affiliate link) castile shampoo and conditioner on her hair, then switched over to a conditioning shampoo bar made with shikakai(affiliate link), amla, brahmi, bhringraj and areetha.
Both are great, but I prefer the conditioning shampoo bar(affiliate link) because it is more natural and offers a ton of benefits for the hair and scalp.
Detangling her hair using a paddle brush(affiliate link)
I find that the shampoo bar(affiliate link) helps to detangle her hair, which I do in the shower using a paddle brush. As I’m slowly rinsing her hair, I comb it with the paddle brush.
I’m able to detangle her hair without hurting her scalp because it combs right through with ease. I of course start from the tips and work my way up to the roots.
I never use a comb on her hair or my own, unless I’m parting it. The paddle brush(affiliate link) doesn’t pull out much hair at each wash, which is why I have stuck with this detangling method.