You’ve been wrapping your hair up for years. Your momma wrapped you and your sister’s hair, your grandmama wrapped up your momma’s hair, and many, many women before that in your family have been wrapping their hair.
Wrapping your hair up at night is literally “tradition”. Whether you use a bonnet, scarf, or satin pillow case, you have been wrapping your hair up every night to keep your hair intact and healthy.
I would even see a few memes of women with their scarves and bonnets on, saying that they don’t play about their hair when it comes to sleeping. There is this one meme with a woman in her bonnet saying, “If you haven’t seen her in one of these [bonnet] y’all ain’t real yet!” I wonder, is that true?
Your man may not understand why you continue to wear your scarf to bed or wear your bonnet around the house as soon as you get home.
He definitely wants you to succeed at your goals with your hair as he is your cheerleader in your corner. But! What about at night when your man is feeling some lovemaking is about to happen or that he just wants to spend time with you by playing board games and cards, would you take your scarf off for him?
You may think it is silly for me to ask this question or for you to keep your scarf on if your man says “please take it off for me,” but some women do not give in to that notion.
Instead of thinking, “It’s my hair and I do what I please,” or “he’s just gonna have to love me in my scarf or leave me, deuces!” Try these tips to do a little “give and take” when it comes to the love for your bonnet and the love for your man:
Just take it off when it’s just you two at home
You don’t have to go straight for the bonnet after work. If you have an out style, do a cute bun or a pineapple to keep your hair up, but sexy. Your man may love that style and your hair is out of the way and no manipulation is involved.