Do You Take Your Bonnet Off For Your Man? – 4 Ways To Deal With Bonnet Issues

satin-bonnet-MEMEYou’ve been wrapping your hair up for years. Your momma wrapped you and your sister’s hair, your grandmama wrapped up your momma’s hair, and many, many women before that in your family have been wrapping their hair.

Wrapping your hair up at night is literally “tradition”. Whether you use a bonnet, scarf, or satin pillow case, you have been wrapping your hair up every night to keep your hair intact and healthy.

I would even see a few memes of women with their scarves and bonnets on, saying that they don’t play about their hair when it comes to sleeping. There is this one meme with a woman in her bonnet saying, “If you haven’t seen her in one of these [bonnet] y’all ain’t real yet!” I wonder, is that true?

Your man may not understand why you continue to wear your scarf to bed or wear your bonnet around the house as soon as you get home.

He definitely wants you to succeed at your goals with your hair as he is your cheerleader in your corner. But! What about at night when your man is feeling some lovemaking is about to happen or that he just wants to spend time with you by playing board games and cards, would you take your scarf off for him?

You may think it is silly for me to ask this question or for you to keep your scarf on if your man says “please take it off for me,” but some women do not give in to that notion.

Instead of thinking, “It’s my hair and I do what I please,” or “he’s just gonna have to love me in my scarf or leave me, deuces!” Try these tips to do a little “give and take” when it comes to the love for your bonnet and the love for your man:


Just take it off when it’s just you two at home

You don’t have to go straight for the bonnet after work. If you have an out style, do a cute bun or a pineapple to keep your hair up, but sexy. Your man may love that style and your hair is out of the way and no manipulation is involved.

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About Christina J


Hey there! My name is Christina J. I am a healthy hair advocate and have been natural since October 2012. In June 2014, I decided to start my blog, Desire My Natural! to document my hair journey and other fun topics (family, health, inspiration, more). As I share, help, encourage, and support others in their healthy hair journey, I am continuing my own.

About Christina J


Hey there! My name is Christina J. I am a healthy hair advocate and have been natural since October 2012. In June 2014, I decided to start my blog, Desire My Natural! to document my hair journey and other fun topics (family, health, inspiration, more). As I share, help, encourage, and support others in their healthy hair journey, I am continuing my own.

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Phoenix McGee

I won’t go to Walmart in it but I sleep in my head scarf. He likes seeing my hair pretty so he has to deal. I don’t think the average dude cares though lol

Kim Jones

Yes

Rosy Moore

No

Jamila Kelly

No lol but I only wear it to bed anyway

Brittney M. Williams

Nope and he’s okay with that

Chanèl Johnson

yes

Yaya
Yaya

Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him

Yaya
Yaya

Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him

Tolindra Marie Collins

If he know how you look without it. Why does it matter?

Renee Akperov

Nope

Tomesha Champlin

No

Tomesha Champlin

When my now husband came to my home the 2nd time i wore my head wrap and robe, 11 years later with 3 years married he still doesn’t mind

Stacie Hart

My husband hates its but its my Hair!!!

Latoya Aaliyah Small

Heck no my husband and I been married 4 years and together almost 8. He always thought it was cute actually so no biggie in my house.

Kristen Nicole Thompson

Nope he don’t care and I caught him wearing it one nite when I decided to put my scarf on instead!!!! Lol

MrsAshley Dunn

Lol too funny mines wear one too

Endenezjia Graham

No

Shantel Tweet Ivey

Nope. If he wants it off, he needs to buy satin pillowcases

Lee Anna Easter-BerklinGaynor

No x! !

Erra Johnson

I don’t like em… But I’m pretty sure I look like Samuel L Jackson on Unbreakable when I wake up and don’t wear it. It would be the lesser of two evils.

Tajmah Jessika

It’s never that serious & if it is then we not serious!

Greene Kenya

If I had a man he will accept me with or without the bonnet and I love man? 🙂

Denise Mills

NO I DONT, AND HE DOESN’T MIND,,,,BEING HE THE ONE PAYING FOR MY HAIRDO’S

Jessica Marie

My boo looks at me crazy if I go to bed without it. Lol

Sheila Thornton

That is the truth, he’s the wrong person. #liveyourlife

Sandra Haynie

Not all the time I do on those special occasions hint hint

Shuray Merriweather

Nope. That’s not what he’s there for.

Michelle Smith-valentine

Nope take me as i am

MrsAshley Dunn

Real tho

Jennifer Elena Johnson

Ok. I’m just going to lay this out;

You want some ass? You better get used to the scarf.

Stop being so self conscious and just give up some pussy! That’s all they want in the end. Trying to make it too complicated! Like “Oh what will he think of my Bonnet? Let me wrap myself in cellophane! I know what he want! 24 Inch Long hair like the chick from Coming to America!” Yeah! That’s what I’ll do!” Ladies, we gotta get past this! Stop doing the most and love yourself. If he don’t love you, I promise you boo, there’s one out there who does!

Stephanie Walker

How is this even an issue? Back in the day, women would go to bed with rollers in their hair and the husband wouldn’t say anything. But then again that was also back when men took women on actual dates….

Olivia C. Jenkins

I just asked my BF he’s like “Olivia I don’t care about that s**t, you know I like your hair” and went back to watching his movie. Lol. I only wear it when I sleep or have rollers in my hair. So in other words. He don’t care

Latasha Cannon

I don’t like the way I look in it so I take it off for relations. He couldn’t care less. My bonnet just doesn’t go with my lingerie. It kills my sexy.

Nl ManouBens Be

Why would a man ask his wife to take it off ?

Saprila Mclean

I need a satin pellow Case ASAP

Melissa Juanita

Nope! He still wants some while i am wearing it. Lol I’m the one that doesn’t like to wear it around him.

Evie Antoine

If he don’t like it, BYE!

Tiara Diaconescu

Wrong question. Does the Husband need the bonnet off?! Hahaha smh

Hattie Berger

I don’t wear one

Latoshia Gipson

No!!!!! Mine don’t care

Nessa Rene'e

No

Nicha Aragão

Nope and he doesn’t mind it

Cheryl Harris

Yes

Amilia Smith

I dont

Amilia Smith

I dont my hair aint donw

Alvinia Grant

Hell no

Kelley Stewart

Nah

Sherice Hodges

No

Prudence Martin

Lol

Lilian Rezi

No no no and no! a girl got to do what a girl got to do….. if he dont know, he better get to know. The bonnet stays 🙂 lol

Laure Leondas

Nope! Since day 1!!

Rebecca Belle

They need to get a life , you got to deal with their missing teeth and hair lines but they can’t deal with a bonnet or scarf they can miss me with that my ex let me wear my scarf and bonnet , if I didn’t have it on he’d tell me to put it on so whoever has this problem reevaluate who you’re dating