You’ve been wrapping your hair up for years. Your momma wrapped you and your sister’s hair, your grandmama wrapped up your momma’s hair, and many, many women before that in your family have been wrapping their hair.
Wrapping your hair up at night is literally “tradition”. Whether you use a bonnet, scarf, or satin pillow case, you have been wrapping your hair up every night to keep your hair intact and healthy.
I would even see a few memes of women with their scarves and bonnets on, saying that they don’t play about their hair when it comes to sleeping. There is this one meme with a woman in her bonnet saying, “If you haven’t seen her in one of these [bonnet] y’all ain’t real yet!” I wonder, is that true?
Your man may not understand why you continue to wear your scarf to bed or wear your bonnet around the house as soon as you get home.
He definitely wants you to succeed at your goals with your hair as he is your cheerleader in your corner. But! What about at night when your man is feeling some lovemaking is about to happen or that he just wants to spend time with you by playing board games and cards, would you take your scarf off for him?
You may think it is silly for me to ask this question or for you to keep your scarf on if your man says “please take it off for me,” but some women do not give in to that notion.
Instead of thinking, “It’s my hair and I do what I please,” or “he’s just gonna have to love me in my scarf or leave me, deuces!” Try these tips to do a little “give and take” when it comes to the love for your bonnet and the love for your man:
Just take it off when it’s just you two at home
You don’t have to go straight for the bonnet after work. If you have an out style, do a cute bun or a pineapple to keep your hair up, but sexy. Your man may love that style and your hair is out of the way and no manipulation is involved.
I won’t go to Walmart in it but I sleep in my head scarf. He likes seeing my hair pretty so he has to deal. I don’t think the average dude cares though lol
Yes
No
No lol but I only wear it to bed anyway
Nope and he’s okay with that
yes
Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him
Of course! But he doesn’t care either way. I still do it for him
If he know how you look without it. Why does it matter?
Nope
No
When my now husband came to my home the 2nd time i wore my head wrap and robe, 11 years later with 3 years married he still doesn’t mind
My husband hates its but its my Hair!!!
Heck no my husband and I been married 4 years and together almost 8. He always thought it was cute actually so no biggie in my house.
Nope he don’t care and I caught him wearing it one nite when I decided to put my scarf on instead!!!! Lol
Lol too funny mines wear one too
No
Nope. If he wants it off, he needs to buy satin pillowcases
No x! !
I don’t like em… But I’m pretty sure I look like Samuel L Jackson on Unbreakable when I wake up and don’t wear it. It would be the lesser of two evils.
It’s never that serious & if it is then we not serious!
If I had a man he will accept me with or without the bonnet and I love man? 🙂
NO I DONT, AND HE DOESN’T MIND,,,,BEING HE THE ONE PAYING FOR MY HAIRDO’S
My boo looks at me crazy if I go to bed without it. Lol
That is the truth, he’s the wrong person. #liveyourlife
Not all the time I do on those special occasions hint hint
Nope. That’s not what he’s there for.
Nope take me as i am
Real tho
Ok. I’m just going to lay this out;
You want some ass? You better get used to the scarf.
Stop being so self conscious and just give up some pussy! That’s all they want in the end. Trying to make it too complicated! Like “Oh what will he think of my Bonnet? Let me wrap myself in cellophane! I know what he want! 24 Inch Long hair like the chick from Coming to America!” Yeah! That’s what I’ll do!” Ladies, we gotta get past this! Stop doing the most and love yourself. If he don’t love you, I promise you boo, there’s one out there who does!
How is this even an issue? Back in the day, women would go to bed with rollers in their hair and the husband wouldn’t say anything. But then again that was also back when men took women on actual dates….
I just asked my BF he’s like “Olivia I don’t care about that s**t, you know I like your hair” and went back to watching his movie. Lol. I only wear it when I sleep or have rollers in my hair. So in other words. He don’t care
I don’t like the way I look in it so I take it off for relations. He couldn’t care less. My bonnet just doesn’t go with my lingerie. It kills my sexy.
Why would a man ask his wife to take it off ?
I need a satin pellow Case ASAP
Nope! He still wants some while i am wearing it. Lol I’m the one that doesn’t like to wear it around him.
If he don’t like it, BYE!
Wrong question. Does the Husband need the bonnet off?! Hahaha smh
I don’t wear one
No!!!!! Mine don’t care
No
Nope and he doesn’t mind it
Yes
I dont
I dont my hair aint donw
Hell no
Nah
No
Lol
No no no and no! a girl got to do what a girl got to do….. if he dont know, he better get to know. The bonnet stays 🙂 lol
Nope! Since day 1!!
They need to get a life , you got to deal with their missing teeth and hair lines but they can’t deal with a bonnet or scarf they can miss me with that my ex let me wear my scarf and bonnet , if I didn’t have it on he’d tell me to put it on so whoever has this problem reevaluate who you’re dating
my husband and I have been together for 8 years. Back in college when we were first dating I did but not anymore lol. He doesn’t mind it
Sometimes. .lol
No and if he don’t like it he can go
These are fake people problems. A black man from a black home understands that I need my bonnet at night. Who are u women changing this for some dude?? Get a grip back people
Nope my man doesn’t mind, he celebrates every part of me. He even wears one.
He’ll naw
Nope! Because he doesn’t care…
It doesn’t matter I leave mine own have for years no complaints
Smh
No
My man is not that petty
No way!
What is the problem wearing it at home. I do not wear it outside.
This article is comedy. I am NOT going to be in a relationship with a man who makes a big deal about me wearing my scarf/bonnet inside the house
I am sure the wifey will say no they don’t bec their husband is comfortable with seeing them in it yet the mistress will say yes the man should always see you looking great in and out of bed. The problem is mistress can sweat out their hair and the man will hand them mobet to get it done but wifey have to split a bill or do without just to get the money and time to do the hair. I am no a wife or a mistress and I require prior notice before anyone visit me. That’s me the woman that thinks people should wear heels to work and then change to flats at work.
If a man you are dating have a problem with you wearing a bonnet. He’s with the wrong gender.
Rules for men for a happy woman:
#1 Thou shalt not remove bonnet.
#2 If bonnet removes itself during rest, quietly put it back as if it was never off.
#3 Ignore the bonnet as if it’s not there, or pretend it’s a fashionable hat.
#4 Respect the bonnet at all times.
#5 Bonnet=slayed hair in the morning=happy woman
Love it!
Me too! My son have more respect for the bonnets and scarfs than I do. He gets on his older sister who is 10 about not having her scarf on, and he’s 8.
Interesting but I’m gonna wear my bonnet lol
No..lol
I don’t have that problem