Go to the party
I used to be a social butterfly in certain circles but I never got into the curly girl party scene and so this is probably more of a suggestion based on what I have noticed rather than what I have experienced. But you know that feeling you get after a great night of grown up conversation, drinks and food, it can help to get you where you need to be.
The thing is you have to just get yourself there so that might be a challenge during depression because who really wants to go to the W-Hotel for fro fest in mini twists? The best thing about going to natural parties and meet ups is there is no judgement. So if you manage to pull it together you might come out feeling amazing on the other side.
Cut it off
Or not! We are just saying that getting a fresh start can be a good thing sometimes and a buzz cut probably doesn’t sound too bad if you just want to get away from it all and just try something a bit more edgy. This is definitly a personal decision but we have seen it before, look at Shameless Maya or Mahogonyknots from YouTube, They totally went barber shop short on us, and they seem to be enjoying it.
Color or weave
You can even add color to your hair to change things up, and color does help. The only thing we would say is if you are not in the mood to maintain it after it has been processed then give it a miss. We wouldn’t suggest trying color unless you are totally ready to get away from funk mode.
Now if you want to try a weave or clip ins* to get your exotic look on, then certainly try that, it is all about getting a new look that will change your perspective.
What did I do to get out of the funk? I wrote my way out of it, I kept blogging and connecting with the other natural women until one day my son said he would much rather play with Barney than me, and I said that’s ok because I can at least play with my hair!
Have you ever been through hair depression?
Yes i have been through hair depression. My fix is to cut it off and start over.
Everytime a natural hair vs the world vendetta occurs. Which is every other day! Funk city. I rant and rave to my husband, who probably isn’t listen, but, it makes me feel better.
LMFAO!! !! I FEEL YOU SO MUCH GIRL
Regina McNally says
Yes, I am going through it now so I am sporting a twist style with weave -color 350. I just love it. Great article.
Yes I have been in a hair depression. It seems to happen when the weather gets warmer and I agree with your post as well other personal issues outside of hair can really take a toll that you are unaware of. I truly do want to cut it off like big chop short, but my significant other prefers long hair. And since he is important to me and his opinion has value in my choices I decide to wear my hair in twists. He also loves my hair in twists, pinned up, and he has suggested locs, but I am not interested in locing my hair any time soon.
I also agree with staying social in the Natural Hair community. I always get inspiration from the different women. Thank you for this post. I also wrote something similar to this post on my blog http://www.tastyberri.blogspot.com
LaToya Taylor says
Oh yeah plenty of time I have!
I went through it fortunately my mom was there for me to talk to about different things. also after my oldest girl was born I dyed my hair bright red which made me smile every time i saw it in the mirror. My in-laws were very shocked but it helped me feel like I was still the same person before I gave birth.
I am currently in a hair funk. I’m getting through by keeping my hair in Senegalese Twists for the summer, and learning how to style my twists is very fun for me. However, I do miss my hair and at the same time I’m not looking forward to having to do it every day or every other day. I continue to search for styles I want to try when I finally take my twists out. Pray for me…fingers crossed
Sadly, I’m going through it now. I’d finally achieved shoulder length hair after doing my big chop in Dec.09. After all that care & work, in early May of this year, it took just one shampoo disaster to mess it all up. I took off my wig at the time and was preparing to wash, deep condition and re-twist. It’s as if my hair just tangled and seized up after shampooing.There was not getting out of it. I had no choice but to bc again. For some this is no big deal but when you have 4C hair that grows extremely slowly (come on 4 yrs to barely get to my shoulders?!!!), it’s not that easy to let things slide. Now I’m back to a TWA. I’m someone who was just getting used to the idea of letting go of my addiction to weaves, wigs, & extensions. Now I can’t even wear a wig since my edges are damaged and need to regrow. This is frustrating and extremely depressing for me. It’s even worse when it feels like every blog site only features naturals with long, thick, healthy looking manes. Having no one with compassion or sensitivity to talk to about this adds severe insult to injury. There aren’t any natural hair communities where I live north of Toronto here in Canada. It’s just really hard to take. I wish this wasn’t so painful. Good luck on your hair journey and be careful with your hair ladies.
vanx 2801 says
Great article…and yes, I have too! It was both my hair and my personal life. So, i went to the huetiful l hair salon. I made the appt. a week in advance and every time I thought about it, I would get so excited. I got a treatment and a much needed trim. I also got great tips and later received complements on my hair.
As far as my life.. well, i’ll get it together, but I ain’t hating my hair anymore.
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