Is this an isolated incident? Hardly. This is happening more than one would think. Often times what is being labeled unkempt is a fro, locs, or striking natural hairstyles that are visually different from more traditionally accepted straightened styles.
The sad part is I have even seen in comments of posts about the subject where other naturals are condemning them as well for wearing less conforming natural styles.
It’s nothing to see a commenter say she saw a natural whose hair was dry, or all over her head or unkempt, and how it embarrassed her or made her mad. I’m sorry, but when did we decide what looks good on everybody, and what does not?
Also, who is the master of all hair beauty decisions? They need mind their own business! I’m tired of having to conform to someone else’s perception of beauty, and I’m REALLY tired of feeling my coils must look the way a stranger deems they should. We really need to stop hating on one another , and instead embrace each others’ differences.
My anger is valid, so if you don’t agree, just realize you are not seeing the whole picture. If we ourselves deem our hair must look more professional, or more appropriate, aren’t we saying that our hair must look more mainstream or less like our own hair?
Whatever happened to being an individual and embracing diversity? We cannot buy into the false notion of one universal look. Surely this world would be boring, and frankly I am not here for that. When you try to label certain styles as unkempt, you are stepping into the infringement of a person’s right of freedom of expression, and it is not your right to put limits on anyone – even with your own words.
I express the love of my natural coils by wearing it BIG, slightly fro’d out and free. So what if you don’t like it? Just realize that it does not have be compact to be beautiful to me and to the other naturals that smile and tell me they love my hair.
What you deem to be ugly or unkempt is probably a creative style the wearer feels proud of, so back off and reassess what you are really saying when you say it’s unkempt; your words have louder meaning than you realize. So label me unkempt if you choose, but as I rock my wild, big curly fro and you frown up, I’m expressing my beauty; all you are expressing is negativity.
Originally posted 2014-08-15 15:00:51.