I was sitting at my vanity mirror after applying the finishing touches of my makeup and I couldn’t help but wonder if it would be first date etiquette to let my date know that sometimes I like to wear a twist out, but then other days I like to throw on my lacefront wig*?
I mean, to me it seems very normal, but would that be something to just casually say on the first date? I really sat there and thought about it for a while, because I really like this guy, but he has only known me with straight long hair.
Either way, I finally stopped thinking and finished getting dressed because I was already late. The date went very well, and we spent hours talking about literally everything- except for my hair.
I mean I just couldn’t find a way to say it. I was afraid that if I did say that I was wearing a wig that he would look at me differently or judge me.
I love my natural hair, and it’s beautiful, but sometimes I simply don’t feel like doing my hair and want to just throw on a quick lace front wig* and keep it moving. I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks now, and it still hasn’t come up.
The only thing was when he would go in to kiss me, he would sometimes try to touch my hair and I would lean back and stop him. It almost is like I’m hiding something from him, because I don’t know if he thinks I’m wearing a sew in, or if it’s my natural hair, but I’m sure he isn’t thinking that it’s a wig.
I hate the fact that as a black woman I have to feel almost ashamed at the versatility of my hair. Or maybe I don’t “have to” but I do. I still don’t know if telling a guy that you’re wearing extensions*, a wig, or whatever is first date etiquette, but I think if me and my new guy continue to get serious I’m just going to come out and give him a crash course in my hair, and see if he takes it or leaves it. Though, I’m really hoping he takes it!
What are your thoughts on hair and dating? Should I make a thing of this and tell him about my wig or leave it alone?