For years my mother did my hair, she would sit me in front of her and have all my toys laid out in front of me as a distraction.
If I did not have toys she would give me all of my little bubble clips to play with. I never understood it then like I do now, all I remember are all the colors of the little marble looking things and that if I pulled them apart too much they would pop back and hit me on my hands or legs somewhere. Those things while a lot of fun, were very painful.
I had every color under the sun, my mom probably knew I liked playing with them because that was the only time I was allowed to just make a mess of them all over the bed.
As I got older, sitting between my mothers legs became less about the bubbles as we called them and more about her and about me. Mommy and me time was often spent with her asking me questions and me wanting the conversation to end when it got to the questions I did not feel like answering.
Over all I loved it though because we would talk, I had her attention and it was great. I saw the above picture online this week and even though Zoe Kravitze and Willow Smith are celebrities they shared a unique black girl moment. I call it a black girl moment because that is what I have traditionally experienced as a black girl.
When I would visit my cousins, just like my mom did, one of us would always be between somebody’s legs getting our hair done.
It could be braids, a roller set, press and curl… anything. It doesn’t have to be your mom or cousin either, it could be an aunt, sister or a College roommate, the point is, the practice is common and is so normal in our culture that we often do not stop to think about how special it is.
If we all were to think about every time we sat between the legs of someone we loved and allowed them to do something to our hair, what did it mean for you? Here are 6 reasons we think that this tradition is the coolest ever!
1. It is a moment to reconnect
I told you my story about my mother and I, well it was the same with a cousin, aunt or friend. At that moment you and her or him can have a conversation that is sometimes so special you never want it to end.
This is true of fathers and son’s as well. Fathers who typically cut their son’s hair use that moment in time as an opportunity to connect with their child and find out what they are up to.
Those moments are necessary, they keep relationships in tact and encourage the sort of intimacy that only happens when you take the time to just stop and talk.