My friend told me she was going on a blind date. She had everything picked out: shoes, clothes, and makeup. The only thing that she was super anxious about was her hair. “What if he hates it? You know how these guys are!” She frantically quizzed me. Darn near drove me half crazy with her nervousness!
She did the big chop about a year ago, and just started to really enjoy her hair. Since she had not been dating, her hair never was an issue for any of the guys she hung out with.
She has recently started to date again. Blind dates come with their own set of issues. Her question is always the same, ‘What if he doesn’t like my hair?”
We have discussions all the time about how guys feel about our hair. What would we do if our man hated our big chop, or if he played the woman power card by saying that we don’t give a rat’s behind what that he thinks? It’s our body, and nobody can tell us what to do with it.
But what if you want to make a great impression, and you want the guy to accept you – all of you – without having to compromise anything? This doesn’t even sound like a problem a woman should have, but the truth is some women still have slight anxiety when it comes to natural hair and dating, because we are still unsure if the majority of men out there are as accepting of natural hair, as we think they are.
The other truth is you might meet one or two guys who flat out prefer straight hair: whether permed, flat ironed to death, or a weave*, that’s life!
So we can understand some level of anxiety, but we want to make the point that not everyone is going to like everything, so the onus is on you to get rid of the anxiety, and date with confidence. Here are six ways you can get rid of hair anxiety while dating:
1. Do not make a big deal about it
We know natural hair is a big deal now, but the faster we get to the part where we are so comfortable with it that it is actually a part of you, then it is easier for us not to be anxious.
You aren’t anxious about other parts of you, so what’s the big deal about your hair? It is a part of your overall appearance. On date night, you might make sure you have the right shoes for your feet, but you don’t spend all night talking about your toes, do you?
Originally posted 2014-09-22 15:00:15.