Relaxed Hair Myths I Once Believed To Be True

Sprush for relaxer and bowlYou must get a touch up every 4-6 (6 is pushing it) weeks or it’s bad for your hair

I made sure to get a relaxer every four weeks religiously. It was set in my calendar and once I started seeing more than just a few beginning signs of new growth the pressure was on my mom to make it disappear.

Waiting six weeks was a cardinal sin that I was afraid would leave me without hair. In hindsight in my days of hair ignorance, my main irrational fear of just ending up bald for not following these mythical hair practices when in reality my hair was breaking anyway.

You have to cut your hair every time you get a touch-up.

In addition to monthly relaxers I also needed a monthly trim. Sometimes I had split ends and other times I probably didn’t, but I wouldn’t know because it hadn’t dawned on me that perhaps that was the reasoning behind trimming my hair.

It was just part of the relaxer ritual. Needless to say I wasn’t retaining that much length because I basically chopped off what I grew every month.


Braids and weaves make your hair grow.

This isn’t a full blown myth so much as it is a practice that many people do not understand the why behind it.

Before I understood the concept of protective styles I knew that I could gain a steady one to two inches of new growth by getting my hair braided for a couple of months.

All of my friends agreed that it “made your hair grow” and it was always exciting to see the new growth come as the braids got farther away from the scalp.

If I knew then what I know now I would have washed and moisturized my scalp as well but alas, those were the days that getting my hair braided also meant it would basically stay untouched for months until I removed the braids.

That thought now saddens me because I know how unhealthy it was for my hair.

In all actuality most of these hair myths were bad for my hair in one way or another. Looking back at them now is a fun way to get some laughs and gauge how far I’ve come though.

What are some hair myths you believed before your HHJ?

Originally posted 2013-11-25 15:00:23.

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About Ashleigh Nelson


I am Ashleigh Nelson a journalism student at Northwestern University and a part-time hair fanatic. My hair journey began at the beginning of my college career because I decided that it was time for me to finally learn how to gain and maintain healthy hair. The past two years have had ups and downs, but I have learned so much along the way. And now I am here to share my experiences and knowledge with everyone!

About Ashleigh Nelson


I am Ashleigh Nelson a journalism student at Northwestern University and a part-time hair fanatic. My hair journey began at the beginning of my college career because I decided that it was time for me to finally learn how to gain and maintain healthy hair. The past two years have had ups and downs, but I have learned so much along the way. And now I am here to share my experiences and knowledge with everyone!

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Kyerra Dexter

Straight hair meant a beauty that i was incapable of reaching unless i burned my scalp with products or heat.

Panje Nambao

Treated hair was the ultimate and most efficient way to attain waist length…

Valerie Hills

That black women couldnt grow our hair past our shoulders

Rosetta QueenLyrix Coleman-Howard

That black hair couldn’t grow long

Sandra Bah Sandra Bah

That before relaxing your hair, your scalp and hair need to be dirty lool..it’s prevent burning

Ebonié Azore

LOL I heard that too

E Sherrel Lewis

Water was bad, straight hair was prettier.

Alyssa Ali Philip-Rose

Yes E Sherrel Lewis, water was evil lol.

L Denise Patterson

I know someone who used to believe in ,”growing dirt.”

Shafer Lewis

I relax my hair every 3 months and it grows well but seems to be dry all the time.
What can I do to stop the dry hair?

Esther Konsolo Mwansa

scalp yo hair with the products u have aleast 2 to 3 tyms a week

Janika LaNelle James

Keep it moisturized. Works well for relaxed and natural hair.

Shafer Lewis

What’s a good lotion for hair? I’m using motions now

Sunni Dae

i love design essentials nutriment rx but organic stimulants makes a good carrot moisturizer

Aisha Pearson

Water is bad.

Laquelle Higgs

Dirt grows yur hair……

Stacy-Ann Shreeves

Water is bad.. The more dirtier your hair, the more your hair grows.. You don’t wash your hair as often when you have braids or weave.. Perm your hair frequently

Sheryl Lowe

I try to give my hair a break from relaxer every 6 months or so I relax my re growth every 6-7 weeks … But every time I try to use a protective style the itching is really bad ..I feel like my scalps on fire .. It a circle I go in I’d love to grow the relaxer out completely but coz of that reason I always go back

Sheryl Lowe

Oh and yes hair needed to be dirty before relaxer

Prince Maxwell Ansong

btful pic

Heather Hubbard

That growing longer hair was impossible. Found out it was a myth once I took prenatal pills lol. That and my sisters all have mid to lower back length.

Connie Hale

You must get your hair trimmed each time you get a relaxer or your hair won’t grow long.

Shafer Lewis

Not with hair gress right

Shafer Lewis

Connie Hale so trim after I relax

Anaïs Seoyoung Bambara

With at water was a black woman’s enemy.

Belinda Gamu Mhike

I swore by grease.

Kathryn Wolfe

I believed that it would be too hard to go natural. It’s actually the same. Wrapping my stubborn hair is just as time consuming as putting it in a couple of braids to protect it through the night.

Raecene Malone

Can I relax my hair once per year and keep it healthy?

Diana Wilson

Yes! Look up YouTube videos about stretching relaxers and healthy relaxed hair journeys. Lots of info!

Raecene Malone

Thanks Diana

Lozette Clemons

Relaxed hair was cleaner titan

Lozette Clemons

Relaxed hair was cleaner than natural hair and dread locs were dirty. I learned that was a huge lie in middle school and the craziest thing believed. Plus if your hair wasn’t relaxed it would fall out. Even thoo had a bad relaxer that took my hair out to the scalp and still got relaxers after that because ofbad advice.

Manyalleng MrsKissogram Letsie

OMG the dirty itchy hair before a relaxer. How i used to toture my scalp, no wonder i had hail size dandruff flakes. I actually believed i was born with a scalp that was more dandruff prone when i wasn’t washing it or oiling properly.

Lisa Gill Hamilton

Don’t put water on your hair if its not “good hair” (3C to 1A hair type). From experience, ALL hair is good hair and water is the best moisturizer to prevent my 4B hair breakage!!!! Love my hair!

Rochelle Manuel

That water was the devil and if I wet are washed my hair to often I would need a relaxer sooner.

Ja'Torien Jones

@ Shafer Lewis me & my mother both used Olive Oil brand hair lotion on our relaxed hair. It makes hair very soft, shiny & manegable even when we “needed” a perm. Anyways I haven’t tried it on my newly natural hair yet.

Tia Wilder

Black women are supposed to wash their hair once a month.

Karleen Brownsuga

Hair should be shampoo as often as it is soil.

Gabrielle Roberts

Moisture comes from oil.

Gladiola Ricola

Love this. Common misconceptions I didn’t realize until way after the fact