What I Wish I Knew Before Going Natural

big, free hairI’ve been natural for a total of three years and I love it! However, if I could do it all over again there are so many things that I change or do differently.

For some reason, a lot of women with relaxed hair tried to educate me on natural hair when they discovered that I was transitioning. People kept telling me that by ditching relaxers, I’d get absolutely no growth whatsoever. I could take the plunge, definitely, but there was no way my hair would ever grow past my shoulders. Well, I’ve only been natural for three years and my hair hangs halfway down my back despite the fact I’m scissor happy and cut it quite often. Note to people going natural, enjoy the BC faze because walking around with huge hair is quite hot in the summer time! Psst, and ignore the nay-sayers!

I did what I was told when I first went natural, which meant getting a super wide tooth comb and picking and pulling until I was in tears. But hey, I got the comb through! “Just brace you teeth and pull!” They told me. Ouch! It hurt and it destroyed my hair. Remember this ladies, if it hurts, you’re doing it wrong! Being natural may be painful emotionally at times, but it should never hurt you physically. Detangle with care and love your curls.

No one told me that good hair/bad hair is still so popular. Yes, we have to talk about that again. I had a woman come up to me and say, “You can’t be natural, you don’t have good hair.” It did sting a little and was a bit embarrassing as well. Come on, good hair. Really? I’ve never met any hair that steals, robs, or cheats. How bad could it be? Who cares if it’s big hair, twists, or one of my many cornrow hairstyles? It’s my hair and I can do with it as I please.

I sure wish someone had thought to clue me in on the fact that not all hair tools are created equal and that what the package says, may or may not always be what the product does. I don’t know how many times I’ve bought a product, gotten all excited, then discovered that this new brush or comb does nothing but causes single strand knots. Note to naturals, do your research before you spend your money!

I know I’m not the only one who’s been through this. Comment below and let me know what you wish you knew before you went natural!


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About Dominique-Alexis


I got my last relaxer in May of ’08 and transitioned for almost a year and a half (a long time I know) before chopping the rest of my relaxed ends off and am now natural for life! I have been natural for three years and braiding hair for two! I hope to own my own natural hair salon in the near future :)

About Dominique-Alexis


I got my last relaxer in May of ’08 and transitioned for almost a year and a half (a long time I know) before chopping the rest of my relaxed ends off and am now natural for life! I have been natural for three years and braiding hair for two! I hope to own my own natural hair salon in the near future :)

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iammastar21

She doesn’t have good hair ?!! Her hair is gorgeous so big thick healthy and soft looking ! You don’t need a definite curl or wave pattern to go natural ! I have a curl pattern but I would give it all up if I could have big long kinky soft hair ! Curls are not everything they are a pain in the butt and hard to detangle ! I have tight coarse curls the hardest hair to deal with ! They never corporate ! Anyway forget those haters I only have been natural 4 months in the twa stage . My hair keeps growing it has definitely grown since I had big chopped . Keep doing you and ignore the haters !

coqjon

I wish people had told me family and close friends would be my worst crirics.

Terri Rios

Nothing new under the sun that hasn’t. Already been done.

Q.U.E. QUIT Using Excuses

My daughter father put a perm in her hair against my wishes. Now i’m trying to wait for it to grow out WITHOUT cutting it. I clip her ends about every 2 months. I’m asking products would work for her hair. She’s 12. Shampoos, to conditioners, etc, etc. The perm was done back in August but it still hasn’t grown out completely. I keep her hair braided. Any advice will be appreciated.

Tsebo Kobbina

What about the weather my hair is not growing I don’t know the truth versus lies. Black people here in South Africa hair only grows if it’s dreads or relaxed. I tried it all nothing is working. Which is which since 2012 it’s 2015 same size

kim
kim

I wish someone of of told me my hair would be better off only using natural products I make myself then trying to buy the best thing my bloggers are using it ain’t for everybody

iammastar21
iammastar21

I wish I didn’t listen to others when I first went natural . I mean my family and friends told me my hair would never go now I’m a year natural and my hair went from twa to collarbone length ( when stretched . If I didn’t listen to them I would have big chopped earlier and not make as much mistakes . I was told I had good hair though I don’t fall for that bull crap . I wear cornrows as a protective style too .

Quennie Dixon

The Shrinkage!!! A love-hate relationship!