When it comes to taking care of natural hair, I’ve found that the standard rules for everyone else’s hair just don’t work for me. I don’t use shampoo on my hair, instead I engage in water-only washing. I use a clay mask (Bentonite Clay*) on my hair once a month, which removes dirt and product buildup to keep my hair clean.
I use my fingers instead of a comb to maintain and detangle my hair. Pretty much everything I was used to doing while taking care of relaxed hair just went out the door and my hair has never looked better because of it. One of the rules I broke has now become an integral part of my hair regimen.
Somewhere in the beginning of my hair journey, after I fully transitioned, I had found that certain deep conditioning* recipes that I had made were making my curls pop. This was the first time I had ever seen defined curls on my normally frizzy head and as long as the deep conditioner* was in my hair they popped, locked and dropped.
That’s slang for they separated, became defined, and had movement. But like Cinderella at the stroke of midnight, as soon as I washed out the deep conditioner* after the allotted time, they vanished back into thin, “frizzy” air. It was very depressing. I could see that I had the potential to have these beautiful curls, but I couldn’t figure out why they wouldn’t stay.
So, being the daring person I am, I decided to break the rule of washing out your deep conditioner. I know, I can hear the gasps from every corner. I’ll admit, I was scared at first, but I figured, what’s the worst that could happen? I was using an all-natural deep conditioner with ingredients that I had whipped up from scratch, and what did I really expect: That my hair was going to all fall out of my head?
The chances of that happening were slim to none since this particular deep conditioner when I applied and finger combed my hair produced almost zero shedding. It also practically disappeared once applied, leaving zero residue and often looked like I had not put anything on my hair at all. Instead, my hair looked revived, moisturized, my curls were swollen, and defined.
This was the best decision I ever made on my natural hair journey. My low porosity hair languished in the joy of taking in the moisturizing treatment for an extended period of time.
I left in in my hair for about two days (it dried after several hours and looked as if I had nothing on my hair). The result was that my hair became a little crunchy (similar to the results after using EcoStyler* Gel), but that when I washed my hair with just water—they curls stayed.
Yes, they stayed, and although they shrank a bit because they did not carry the same weight as they had with the product in my hair, they were there: separated and defined. That’s all I had ever wanted, to know that I had a curl pattern, and chances are you do too.