Team natural has a community all its own and I couldn’t be happier that countless women are being re-trained to view beauty outside of the previously white-washed lenses that we were all cultured to view beauty through.
There is something empowering about having a place where you can just be free to be you in all your natural glory. The thing is that though the natural hair community has been quite beneficial in disseminating information about afro-textured hair, as with all things, there are bad apples in the mix as well. Here are four things about the natural hair community that need to die with 2015.
1. The Divisive Habit of Casting Judgment on People Who Don’t Wear Hair in its Natural State
It’s all good that many have seen the light and are now accepting of their own kinks and coils, but for the love of God, stop going around trying to tell people what to do with their hair.
There is no need for anyone to go around being all judgmental, bad mouthing weave and wig* wearers or those who choose to use a relaxer. Returning to natural should be a personal thing. You are not helping the natural hair community with that.
Sure you know the negative effects that accompany certain hairstyles and you want to go around and enlighten others but it’s not your place to go about pestering people especially if they didn’t ask for your input.
There is no need to put on warpaint and draw lines in the sand to get all combative over what someone chooses to do with the hair on their head.
The crusade to natural-ize everyone just needs to stop. Nobody likes a bully and that is essentially what many have been doing; bullying others with their “I’m natural and enlightened so I’m better” mentality. Whosoever will may come, but leave it to them so they can make the decisions themselves.
2. Crippling Envy
I’m just laying it bare; some people are too much with the hair envy. Maybe you joined the natural hair community as a way to learn about the care of natural hair or because you want inspiration to grow your hair to lengths you never thought attainable before but you don’t have to let your ugly show every time someone shares tremendous hair growth progress.
Too much hair, that’s too long, great weave, nice wig*? Your covetousness is so negative. Nobody likes ugly and your ugly is showing with all that mess.
What do you mean she needs to cut off some and donate it to charity? I would think we are way past the point of proving to people that black girls can grow long hair. If you don’t believe healthy natural hair can grow why are you following a forum dedicated to teaching people how to grow black hair long?
Newsflash: that person’s hair goal may not be yours so no need to comment that it’s too much. How about being happy that someone has reached their goal and is living proof that black girls can retain phenomenal length?
Michelle Palmer says
I agree with these statements because it is free will to do as one wants with their hair.I made a decision to cut my hair off over ten yrs ago and don’t regret it. Due to the chemical burn I received every time it was time to perm one day I got the courage to chop my permed mane which laid in the middle of my back and free myself from pain money and lighten myself.
Natasha Thomas says
I have natural hair and don’t worry about how others wear their hair at all like it affects me. I’m #TeamWearYourHairHoweverYouWant
Chanelle Coleman says
I think it’s sad u have to tell grown ppl these things. Don’t pick on ppl, don’t hate in others… So on & so forth. That’s crazy to me lol
Marsha Buchanan says
Exactly @Chanelle Coleman; crazy is putting it mildly too and even after a thousand lectures it’s a guarantee that there are those who won’t stop.
Funmilayo Magnira says
Amen. Sad but needed to be said.