Ask for help
It’s take a big aka mature aka grown man to admit that he needs guidance. This is not a task expected of you in past years so step up and ask for help with your daughter’s hair. Ask her mother, your mother, a friend, get the knowledge so that you can do what’s expected of you to care for her tresses and to ensure she cares for them too.
Learn the basics on nightly routines with her hair and what products to buy for cleansing, conditioning and protecting. We had to learn so you will need to as well.
Watch and learn
It’s not that hard to do the day in and day out especially when you want to learn. Even if you haven’t a clue how to work with your child’s hair you can do the deed and do it well! Watch her mother, your mother or any other family member do her hair and learn what to do.
Men are much more hands on with our kids than a few years ago with the simple things like hair, washing clothes, etc. It’s no longer expected for women to be domestic and as we grow as a society some of those stale norms are being challenged and withering away. It’s OK to do your daughter’s hair and it is actually encouraged so that you can properly care for you child in every way possible.
Take her to a natural hair shop
They are around and they are thriving. Whether it’s a curly or natural hair salon, run to Google and get your daughter an appointment to get her hair done. Learn from the stylist how to handle the upkeep or make it a point to keep regular appointments.
This doesn’t get you out of the everyday dealings but it may be what the two of you need to foster a healthy hair relationship and show her the importance of taking care of her tresses.
You are raising Daddy’s little girl and as she looks up to you with loving eyes remember you are the first man she falls in love with. Don’t drop the ball on that gift. Nurture her spirit and instill in her the worth she has for herself.
Show her how a man is supposed to treat her as a child and as a woman by not disrespecting her mother and try and keep the lines of communication open with her if possible. It’s not always easy, we know this but she’s the reason you are doing this and she needs to know you care, love and want the best for her.
Let her mother know you want her to keep her hair natural and that you are willing to work at it while she’s with you and willing to help in anyway possible. Make it about your daughter and not about the two of you. Raising kids is not an easy task and raising them alone is even harder so make it doable by taking the positive steps to ensure she grows up healthy, happy and loving her natural self.
Originally posted 2014-07-25 15:00:48.