Curly Girl Etiquette refers to way other people treat our hair on a daily basis. By treat I mean, comment, touch, not touch, opinions, and all other things that people think is there natural right to express about our hair.
It doesn’t matter what your hair type is, we all share some commonalities when it comes to natural curly hair. Our hair shrinks when we wet it and drys in a shrunken state, our hair grows upwards and outwards rather than straight down, our hair tangles easily and can get frizzy if we do not use the right products or tools and finally we spend a lot of time caring for and protecting it.
With that said, there is a certain level of pride we all have when it comes to our natural hair, and there is some expectation that when other people reference it or make inferences about it, they will remain within some imaginary boundaries that many of us consider reasonable.
In the below video the girls joke, but are kinda serious about how they feel their hair should be treated, and quite frankly we agree with some of the points and thought it would be fun to create our own list of curly girl etiquette do’s and don’ts, (mostly don’ts) with your help of course.
1. Do not just compliment me when my hair is straight – Don’t you feel ‘some type of way’ when you wear your hair curly all week straighten it for the weekend and on suddenly everyone starts talking about how great your hair looks and how hot you look! Curly hair is hot too you know!
2. Do not touch my hair if I do not specifically invite you to touch it – Claw hands are a definite no no. First off I don’t know where your hands have been and secondly there is no way those five fingers are running through these tight 4A curls, no ma’am!
3. Do not call me names – Power puff girl, Shaka Khan (in a bad way) you know that sort of thing. To be honest it really depends on the tone that goes along with the comment. If you have a weird look on your face and you are like “Eww you sure look like Shaka Khan today” then that’s not cool. But if you say “Wow you look amazing you remind me of Shaka Khan” then that is acceptable.
4. Yes, when I am walking out of the door with you, my hair is done – Do not ask me if I need to comb my hair when I am clearly dressed, and walking out of the door.
5. Do not tell me to comb my hair or suggest any other tools I can use – Who really puts a comb through some clumped up curls? Your hair does not have to be fully brushed out and every strand separated for your hair to be detangled. Clumped curls are what detangled curly hair looks like!
6. Do support me in the way I choose to handle my hair and do not force your own practices on me. – Nuff said.
That’s it! Lets come up with a few more, watch the video and comment below!