Natural hair is convenient, unique, great, easy to style, and versatile yada yada yada, not all the time! There are times when having your hair in its natural state can be downright annoying and frustrating.
Here are some picks for the top most frustrating things that us naturalista’s have to deal with sometimes on a daily basis with our hair.
1. Single Strand knots – You have done everything, moisturize seal, moisturize seal, trim moisturize seal all in that order, and still as you examine your hair there are millions of these little knots that will just not go away.
There is nothing more frustrating than thinking you are doing everything right and noticing something that may indicate that you are doing something wrong.
There are many ‘solutions’ for single strand knots all over the blogs and forums, one thing holds true if you wear your hair in its kinky* curly state the more likely these knots will occur. The only solution that may successfully work is keeping your hair stretched, moisturized and prayer!
2. You can never accomplish a great hair style twice – You wake up in the morning hit the bathroom and allow your creative juices to flow. Suddenly you have created the coolest flyest style ever and your only hope is that you can replicate it at some future date.
Two weeks go by and you try it again, but it doesn’t look quite the same as it did the last time. You don’t know if it’s the products, your creative juices have suddenly diminished, Venus is no longer aligned with Mars or your fingers aren’t working; who knows!
But no matter what you do there is no replicating that same style that you were able to accomplish just a few days ago. What gives? If this ever happens to you the best bet is to embrace the differences that may come about and rock the style anyway!
So beautiful nice pic!!!
The texture
A lot:
How painful it can be when combing sometime, my arms hurt detangling, can’t achieve the right style for my face.
But I love my hair regardless still
Um it has a mind of it’s own
Chantal try Wen Hair Care by Chaz Dean. It’s great for softness & manageability!
That’s what I use & I love it!
Too many products needed to make it look smooth and shiny the way I like.
Sooooo dry..haven’t found anything to help that yet 🙁
You should try The greenhouse effect also known as the baggy method.
The greenhouse effect is awesome. I do it while I sleep.
what’s the green house effect??
Cream of nature shampoo and conditioner with Argan oil helped me with the dryness and I use essential oils I mix them in my hair grease and I have them in a spray bottle …
Shrinkage…
Trying 2 find the right texture specialist for my haircare. #DMV
I use wen generic Chantal Brown and @s dot S Dot White and the beautiful textures line has a good detangler I love it.
#4 is the story of my life! I’ve broken out so BAD! But my hair looks great. I can’t win.
Don’t get me wrong i love black coarse hair my hair is fine and snappy it breaks fast and you can’t do anything to it without damaging it
Frizz…. lost of shine…. wet detangling…. finding the best products for my hair…. single strand knots…. in that order… those are my 5 🙂
The tangles and knots
Nappy
Dryness,tangling,no shine oh and did i say the dryness,smh
The fact that I have to devote an entire day to my hair routine…or most of the day depending on the style I choose. Lol
The dryness. The products are too expensive to keep trying stuff
Try cream of nature shampoo and conditioner with Argan oil….
ITS GOOD, I LIKE THE ARGAN MOISTURIZER AS WELL
Amen
I use to have problems with dry hair and I tried Kimmaytubes (shes a youtuber) homemade condition and it works wonders. She no longer have the ingredients on her site since she came out with her own product, but I’ll post it on here for those who want to try it. Everyone says it works wonders.
2 tablespoons of YOUR preferred conditioner (silicone free) pref. Kinky Curly
2 tablespoons of (Whole leaf version) Aloe Vera Juice with a pH 4.0 or 4.5
2 teaspoons of Castor Oil (optional)
2 teaspoons of Jojoba Oil
So soft you can’t dread it the way u like. When I twist it looks too curled up.
Dryness and no shine
That pretty much everything that works for others, does NOT work for me.
That, and how fragile my hair is
How fast its growing. I love my natural hair; but even with all the years of relaxing my hair has always grown long and thick. Now its growing 2xs as fast. I transitioned for a year 2yrs ago; but I’m seriously considering doing a big chop just to give me a break from it for a bit.
Shrinkage and 4C lack of curl pattern.
Just when it looks the way you want it to look your scalp lets you know it’s time to wash it
I would say Frizz in humid weather and dryness definitely.
Ive tried greenhouse :(…maybe its just me i want a shine…
Tangles
Plus shrinkage
I don’t need twists or braids to get ringlets, just the right product. When wet, they’re these beautiful spirals, but when dry, my hair is wispy, poofy, and undefined 🙁
I love my hair…if I just HAAAD to say something negative it wud be I want to change my texture from 3c to 4b.
Lack of curl definition w/4c hair
There is a remedy (I feel) to all the problems. 1) Dry hair? Deep condition more often! Truth be told your hair was probably just as dry, if not dryer in its relaxed state. 2) Natural, Pure Oils. This helps with the dryness and seals in the moisture. Hot oil treatments are great and help with sealing in moisture and keeping hair soft. 3) Products!!?? I know trying different things can be expensive. I mean back in the relaxed days, a good $7 relaxer, some setting lotion, and wrap papers were all we needed. To go through product trial and error, I would suggest Curl Kit or Curl Box. For $20-$25 a month they send samples of products and 2-4 full size bottles of product. You can cancel at anytime with no fees (i believe)…
Hope my ramblings helped someone!!
Shrinkageeee lmaoo nd you gotta prep everything there’s no lettin it go for a day or 2 gotta put some twist in or deal with a beast
Henna helps with shrinkage and loss of shine. It hasn’t loosened my curl pattern but it gets tangled less and actually shines now. Try cassia if you don’t want the red tones that henna leaves behind.
Shrinkage. Tangles. Breakage (on the ends.) Tired of 2-day styles.
Nothing. I go with the flow and learn through it.
Hard to keep moisture.
People is going to think I am crazy, but after I stopped relaxing my hair, I discovered that my hair texture is curly silk wavy, and I hate it!!!!! I love my hair when it was kinky I miss it.dang it was much stronger, kinkier,. Now it tooo soft.
Finding the right products
Crystal Mari Gaines me too lol!! olive oil or Shea moisturizer
Hair is growing too slow and very thin
Donna Chesser I understand, I love playing in my daughter’s 4c hair versus my wavy, curly hair
Shrinkage, moisture, and fairy knots!
The 3 different textures!
People trying to touch my hair ugh!!!!!!!
Too frizzy
Dryness
Shrinkage
And how it cant take that much heat without a protectant :/ Im starting to wanna perm it after a year and of being natural
Big poof!!!! Always in a bun need a style for a narrow/straight face 😛
I don’t have shrinkage strangly BUT that Not achieving the same hairstyle twice is satan!!! I HATE that!!! My husband will love a style and say “do that more babe” and then its an epic fail!!! But I still ADORE my natural hair!!
I have two differe textures of hair right now because Of heat damage so my ends from te front of my head to the middle are completely straight. While the back is fully natural!! Cant wait for it all to grow out:-/
Tangles and knots
Shrinkage, shrinkage, shrinkage!!! It’s already short then has the nerve to shrink some more! Ugh!!
Shrinkage and the dryness. Just transitioning for 6mos. Can’t figure out what to do to it. Jealous of any one with the puffy hair.
Why post something to focus on the negative? As if black women don’t fight enough to accept the beauty of their hair. All of what we are listing as a negative is what was programmed into us by society. There is nothing wrong with shrinkage or any other characteristics of natural hair. It’s NATURALLY the way it is, therefore is BEAUTIFUL.
Finding the right products for my super thick, 4C hair and figuring out how to style it in something other than keeping it in braids and sew-ins for convenience.
LaTanya, the post did not say, “what’s wrong with your natural hair” they just asked us to mention something that frustrates natural haired individuals. It’s just a small release to share with others and someone might post a solution for that individual. However I do agree that there’s nothing wrong with shrinkage, I love it!
I only know about three styles for my hair to hide the two textures (wavy in the front and curly in the back) -_- thank God for the winter because my hats and scarves hide it well lol
My dry scalp and different textures throughout my head
I’ve been natural for 6 months and if I post the length of my hair compared to the big chop you guys wouldn’t believe it! However, I do not like the natural curls in the back and wavy in the front. I went through so many products and I realized that something cheap helps with shrinkage and dry hair. When I don’t go and get my hair fixed by my Natural Hairstylist I use coconut hair grease. Use lots of it folks! The shine is unbelievable and your hair is eating away! Also deep conditioners mixed with hot oil treatments! Finally, if you don’t want to use the coconut hair grease use Natural Shea Butter with coconut oil, vitamin E, olive oil, & jojoba oil. There’s videos in YouTube to help you mix them. I go to an African store and buy the Natural Shea Butter! Good luck folks and treat your hair as if it was your stomach! Feed it!!!
Tangles and frizz. I have several different types of hair. The crown is very kinky, the front and back is wavy and straight, and the sides are coily. The all respond differently to products so its hard to find one thing to use.
The dryness is what drives me crazy and because if it being dry, the crazy itching. And like Maria Antoinette said, you keep buying different stuff and you still end up where you started, dry and itchy
Not growing…can’t stay moisturized…help me!!!
The longer it gets the more maintenance! Im thinking about wearing a short natural. I have three babies, I don’t have time to baby my hair too! Lol!
Fairy knots
Dryness and trying to get the right moisture balancd. And the stress that is wash day- tangles, knots and dealing with my 4c hair. 🙁
Detangling!!
so dry and since I did the big chop 2 weeks ago I cant style it yet
Ilike
Curly at the root, straight on the ends…ugh…
Thickness…..to twist it, means to have tired arms and a half-finished head….ugh! But I love my natural!
The shrinkage, and not findings the right product yet to keep it looking moisturized
Good Information!!!
Itchyness
I can’t really think of anything other than long wash days and having to wash in sections. Other then that I good 🙂
Trying to retain moisture!
Shrinkage mostly, itchy scalp and dry hair that caused breakage at one time until I was introduced to natural Shea butter mixed with castor oil,olive oil,carrot oil, and avocado oil
My 4b/c hair is super dry no matter what i do! Ugh! Never have this problem in the summer!
Shrinkage I know it’s a sign of healthy hair but dang I look like I have chin length hair when it’s actually colar bone length.
I love my natural curls,its the detangling that I hate.
shrinkage, dryness, thicness
The tangling, its to wavy, and ultra puffy.
Cut
Dryness. Its fine when I put my moister products in but by the end of the day its so dry. Shrinkage. When braided its past my shoulders but when in my afro it barley passes my ears ! Still love being natural though
I use Hawaiian Silk moisturizer which works for me. But the shrinkage when I sweat or wet hair- I don’t like
CUTIEEEEE
Umm the problem I have is the tangles so I two strand twist often to combat breakage.
If I had one question for God it would be why did He give me hair that is so difficult to deal with……I can’t do anything with my hair and it won’t lay down no matter what product I use. It’s frusturating and I hate it.
So cute
Detangling and the millions of products you have to use to keep your hair moisturized!
its rebellious nature
My hair is fragile so it breaks easily…
I love my hair, but its more work than I thought it would be.
Thin ends. No matter how many times I cut them off or try to prevenr them. >:^[
Maintaining moisture.
The Greenhouse Effect Method helps me maintain moisture. I also spritz once or twice a day with rose water whenever it begins to feel dry.
Girl its like watering a plant lol.
YEP HAHAHA!
Too damned time consuming.
How hard it is to detangle.
This is a great post! It allows us to see an unspoken commonality. It also allows others to offer remedies to our frustrations.
Shrivles up with water/humidity…drinks grease, manigability, cock hairs look alikes all on the floor, gotta braid or twist it down before bed everynight
the driness,my srinkage.
Combing and styling.
Split ends! How to be rid of them!
The thickness, the constant shrinkage, along with getting matted way to quick. On top of that i have no clue on how to do hair. I can only go as far as a ponytail. But with practice makes…uhmmm almost perfect. Lol
The shrinkage in knots
I’ve been natural for 6 years, and I’ve tried every product made for ethnic hair. After yeaes of frustration, I’ve found that Garnier Fructis has provided my extremely thick hair w/ moisture and great manageability. It seemed highly unlikely but I definitely recommend that line.
One side of my head the hair is like really curly and shrunken. Then the other side is more loose and the curls are less defined #FRUSTRATED #LOPSIDED
Mine isn’t growing I use she butter and Jamaican castor oil every other day No growth and some breakage.
Been natural for 10 months
Sabrina go to the grocery store.. Bye some of these oils.. Take some vitiman e supplements and watch your hair grow .. Don’t buy anything for your hair that u cannot digest.. Get out the beauty store and n the grocery store for oils
http://hair.allwomenstalk.com/best-natural-oils-to-use-for-your-hair
Trying to find products for my hair and cute easy styles I can do at home
My hair so soft when I wash and condition it but when it’s completely dry, my kinky curls are less manageable when I braid it down.
Sabrina Scott I have the same issue. Its not growing.
i lose my top when stylists treat it like a floor rag…….and traction alopecia. Gaaawwwd!!
I have very long hair and i have to comb them all the time they get dry easy … flat ironing my hair can last more than one hour …
Yes this is my weekly migrane
Natural hair should not be frustrating because it grows in such a unique texture and it is a shield to manipulation. I love natural hair and it is so better than relaxed hair and is more healthier. More Black women need to go natural and leave the perms alone because want to tell Black men to cut their hair off but a lot of them are walking around with dead permed hair looking like sluts. GO NATURAL
Nothing
People’s attitude
Negative thinking yields negative results. Be grateful!
Knots
Terrible everything terrible just have to get used to it I guess no choice
keeping it moisturized
My awkward length.
It has its own personality, will pop off an attitude, does what it wants to do! Acts like its own lil person! She thru Shade one day beotch got cut completely OFF! NOW WHAT?! Grow back! EXACTLY!