How To Overcome Hair Envy

hair envyI absolutely love scrolling through instagram, finding the latest “hairspiration.” I get so intrigued by all of the tips, products, styles and whatever else women have to share about their experiences with their curly hair. At this point, I feel like I follow more natural hair accounts than people I actually know! (I’m only half kidding.)

As much as I enjoy the pictures and videos, sometimes I have to catch myself and make sure that I don’t fall back into some of the bad habits that trapped me a while ago. You see, it’s really easy to fall into hair envy.

Whether a woman’s curl pattern looks prettier than yours or you’re wondering why her hair seems to be growing so fast while yours isn’t–it’s very tempting to become envious of another person’s hair.

Not even the person herself, but the actual HAIR. How crazy is that?! We put ourselves down while praising our sisters and salivating over their luscious locks.

Whenever I start to wish my hair was longer again or if it isn’t as dense, I have to gather my senses and remind myself how appreciative I am for the hair that God gave me.

I am a huge advocate for loving the hair that grows out of your head. This was a process for me. After I big-chopped, I couldn’t stand my curl pattern.

It didn’t even curl up! (I read months later that you’re supposed to give your hair several weeks to show its curl pattern after you big chop.) My hair wasn’t long enough to rod or do any other curly styles like I used to, so I truly had to face it for what it was.


I had to come to terms with my real hair. I had to learn how to look into the mirror and like what I saw. I had to train my hair appetite.

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About Jessica


Hey everyone! I'm so excited to be a part of this team. I am 23 years old and hold a Bachelor of Arts in Communication and Philosophy, Magna Cum Laude, from George Mason University. Writing is my passion and taking care of my natural hair is one of my favorite hobbies. I'm an advocate for embracing your God-given hair and loving your whole self in the process. You can find me anywhere encouraging and empowering women to live up to their fullest potential.

About Jessica


Hey everyone! I'm so excited to be a part of this team. I am 23 years old and hold a Bachelor of Arts in Communication and Philosophy, Magna Cum Laude, from George Mason University. Writing is my passion and taking care of my natural hair is one of my favorite hobbies. I'm an advocate for embracing your God-given hair and loving your whole self in the process. You can find me anywhere encouraging and empowering women to live up to their fullest potential.

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Summer Rayne Bennett

Be thankful for what you have and work with what you got! #ThatsMy2Cents

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Great article! I follow lots of natural hair accounts and blogs too and I always see “why isn’t my hair like that?” or “I wish I had your hair…” or “I’d die for that hair…” really? die tho? It urks me to see those comments and the one showing us her hair is just proud of her efforts and just sharing her tips. I hope we can all love and praise each other without falling into hair envy. So important