How To Overcome Hair Envy

I absolutely love scrolling through instagram, finding the latest “hairspiration.” I get so intrigued by all of the tips, products, styles and whatever else women have to share about their experiences with their curly hair. At this point, I feel like I follow more natural hair accounts than people I actually know! (I’m only half kidding.)

As much as I enjoy the pictures and videos, sometimes I have to catch myself and make sure that I don’t fall back into some of the bad habits that trapped me a while ago. You see, it’s really easy to fall into hair envy.

Whether a woman’s curl pattern looks prettier than yours or you’re wondering why her hair seems to be growing so fast while yours isn’t–it’s very tempting to become envious of another person’s hair.

Not even the person herself, but the actual HAIR. How crazy is that?! We put ourselves down while praising our sisters and salivating over their luscious locks.

Whenever I start to wish my hair was longer again or if it isn’t as dense, I have to gather my senses and remind myself how appreciative I am for the hair that God gave me.

I am a huge advocate for loving the hair that grows out of your head. This was a process for me. After I big-chopped, I couldn’t stand my curl pattern.

It didn’t even curl up! (I read months later that you’re supposed to give your hair several weeks to show its curl pattern after you big chop.) My hair wasn’t long enough to rod or do any other curly styles like I used to, so I truly had to face it for what it was.

I had to come to terms with my real hair. I had to learn how to look into the mirror and like what I saw. I had to train my hair appetite.