RIP Natural Hair Movement 2018 – Coily Conversations [Video]

I needed to make this video, bc i had watched another youtuber relax her natural hair and it was shocking that so many women commenting on her video felt the same exact way about their natural hair. They want something easier to manage and less time consuming. This video is not meant to bash anyone in any way, just want to bring awareness to the issue, so we can collectively solve the problem.

Please watch the full video I mentioned the point of me wearing a straight hair wig in this video. The message is for you to simply give me ideas on what types of videos I can make to 4c lives easier. I respect all points of views, but when you came here simply to say “that I’m wearing a straight hair wig” is so ridiculous. Would the message be great if I has on a 4c wig, come on ladies. Go and view my other videos, where I admit to having unconventional ways of caring for my natural hair and I encourage others to adopt my same philosophy so that their 4c hair can thrive. My old subbies know that… it just hard for the new comers to get that. Its ok join the family and let me take the guess work out for caring for your hair.

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Sherry Dailey

Not me!

Najat Abubakar

Never going back

Huvie Joe

Nah sorry

Nicole Johnson

i think its more women goun natural now then ever

Dabney Ross Jones

Nope. I will shave it off before I get a relaxer.

Geneva Boone

I’ve had perms since I was 4. I’ve been natural for 3 years now. I never knew how beautiful my hair was until I cut all of my permed hair off. Not saying it’s easier at all but I will say going natural was the best thing I’ve ever done. Of course I’m still young and learning but I wouldn’t go back even with all the backlash from my older family members.

Tamika Jones

I just grew my perm out;I ain’t cutting my hair! But,like you said,to each their own.

Liana Burnett

Wow 4!! I thought I was young when I got my first perm at the age of 9. If I can go back in time to that day; I would dump that whole jar of cream crack on my Aunt’s head ????????????

Malika Long

Same here!❤

Tamika Jones

[email protected] ????????????????????

Tamika Jones

I was 11 getting my first perm,yeah 4 is too young though. You must have been a G to sit through that burning of the scalp as a baby basically lol You a G fo’life

Geneva Boone

Tamika Jones lol ms tamika it was either that or a whooping

Tamika Jones

I woulda took that L lol

Tanya Hurt

Natural Hair movement is in full force✊✊✊

Chrisonna Washington

Natural hair is more healthy. But natural hair is a lot of work. Trying to hold on

Karen Bryant

Chrisonna Washington sorry its not more healthy.. I see so much dried brittle and damaged so called natural hair looking like dry azz tumbleweed

It depends on if the individual is taking care of their hair natural or relaxed.

Chrisonna Washington

Karen Bryant mines is healthy. Some perm hair looks a hot mess. So I can only comment on mines.

LaTanya Carter

It is more work if you like change it up often.

Chrisonna Washington

LaTanya Carter I do

Melissa Raphael-Martin

In NYC I’m seeing more naturals now and I must say its motivating me more and more to cross over lol

Liana Burnett

Come on over to the other side.. or shall I say come back over.

Chaquoria A Roberson

Yes bc I can’t style my natural hair except a puff I’m tired of that hairstyle all I know is perm then hey bevern iron but I’ve been 5 years natural I used to be able to wash my hair and straighten it but now wash straighten then hello puffy again????

Danielle Gorman-Callaham

I would never go natural. If you choose to that’s your decision if not that their decision. It’s whatever good for you. I’m a hairstylist that choose not to deal with natural hair by my choice. To each their own

Talisia Ross

I hate this debate! Relaxers aren’t always bad and natural hair isn’t always healthy or easy! I’m neither as I perm mines once a year with absolutely no regrets! Relaxers are only bad when they are used excessively!

Karen Bryant

Talisia Ross not even excessively.. Its not the product it’s the untrained people putting on relaxers/ chemicals not willing to do the necessay (shampoo, condition & trim) steps to keep their hair maintained and in a healthy state.

So it’s easier to blame the product instead of admitting they’re too lazy to keep their hair in condition.

Tamika Jones

I agree with you.I’m not into having my hair “natural” because it’s thick&I also perm my hair once a year as well.

Liana Burnett

Natural is always a healthier choice. If you don’t have the proper knowledge to maintain natural then of course it won’t be easy, especially if you’re used to relaxed hair growing up. A lot of our mothers relaxed our hair so young before we can even embrace, love, learn and do our own. Read this book: “The science of black hair” by Audrey Davis-Sivasothy. She also talks about maintaining relaxed hair as well.

Cynthia Jones Goings

I did everything right. I went to a natural hair stylist and she taught me how to maintain and care for my hair but it kept breaking. My hair is fine and the single strand knots were ridiculous. No matter how much hydration and protective styles broke my edges no matter how it was styled. My hair is now growing back and healthier relaxed. I don’t agree that natural is always healthier.

Talisia Ross

The reality of it all is people have the right to choose what they want for whatever purposes they choose! It is ridiculous that society has chosen to pin us against each other yet again over something so trivial! Who gets to determine what’s right or wrong for someone else? Again, ridiculous! I have friends with long, healthy, beautiful hair and it’s relaxed! I also have several friends who have chosen to be natural with a couple who were natural and went back to relaxed hair.

Tanya Hurt

Cynthia Jones Goings, how is getting chemicals an healthier choice? That like saying going to Mcdonald’s to get a salad is better than going to the farms market and creating your own fresh, farm salad… Your hairdresser may have not been using the right products for your hair and may not really understand natural hair. Ijs

Kimmy Eddington

not true. aint nobody that’s been natural going back to perms. would y’all stop the lies lol

Tausha Allen

I went back to a perm….. Then a few months later I went back natural…. What was I thinking ????shaved my head completely off… natural was much more versatile and more healthier.

Kimmy Eddington

sometimes it happens

Malika Long

I wish this was true.

Mona IsRich

I’m really considering going back

Karen Bryant

Kimmy Eddington your opinion is not the law of the land. I’ve been natural but I prefer my hair relaxed.

Kimmy Eddington

ctfu calm tf down never said omg Jesus said its true.

Kimmy Eddington

u act like u wrote this article did u????

Kimmy Eddington

i did say yes sometimes it happens where women will go back and fourth reading is fundamental Karen Bryant

Kimmy Eddington

i wrote a statement n only u got butt hurt wtf calm down

Karen Howard

I’m not going back!! Those chemical will have you bald headed!!

Pamela Williams

I did ???? being natural for me was so much work.

Ruiseñor Rodriguez

Well it’s not for everyone ????????‍♀️

Michebelle Kambaji

It is so sad that the debate is on something that God gave us the hate runs so deep that you rather put a chemical that causes cancer on your head wow

Bianca Harris McNeal

Self hate is real

Eris Sia

I am sure that a relaxer has nothing to do with self hate. It is only hair …

Shalisa Rogers

I recently relaxed my hair after being natural for some time, not because I hate my hair or myself, but between my pregnancy and my job, it’s gotten to be too much to handle. Doesn’t mean I have to always relax my hair. Just doing what’s easiest for me right now. Shrugs…

Renèe Izzard

Michebelle Kambaji you are not lying. They cause fibroids also. If perms/relaxers can melt metal just imagine what happens to the scalp & organs.

Latarsha Stayingstrong Smith

Everything causes cancer nowadays…. I been natural again for almost a year if anyone natural decides to put a perm on their hair its not self hate nobody has to do what’s trending Im sure yall still doing other things to hurt yourselves

Michebelle Kambaji

Latarsha Stayingstrong Smith sure your logic makes perfect sense ???? I will always put the perm in the same basket of hate as bleaching creams.

Shay Jones

Some are going back to relaxers not this one one been natural for 9 years now next year will be a decade

Renèe Izzard

This a whole lie! I will never put that poison in my hair again

Tamika Jones

What Millenial made this a “debate” anyway? If folks are honest,choosing not to perm ones hair or going “natural” was NEVER a “debate” til our kids got older(Millenials). This was never a pointless “debate” til 2000. Smh Ladies,wear YOUR hair how YOU choose.

Karen Bryant

Some people are just lazy when it comes to their hair care!!!

Its easier to blame the product instead of admitting you don’t shampoo or condition your hair weekly and keep it trimmed ass needed.

Or admitt you’re hot curling dirty hair daily and using bad/cheap products.

Jennifer Scott

Sorry, but I have. I’ve been natural (from birth to 19), relaxed, natural, permed, natural, relaxed, weave, natural/braids, relaxed, natural/braids – now relaxed again. Why greys look better on straight hair (on me with natural hair it looks like I’ve been in a sandstorm) Don’t like the term movement neither. Don’t understand why. It’s hair we have choices on how to wear it. Why are we giving ‘mystical powers’. Hair Education – know it, how it behaves, how it reacts to the environment, products etc. This is why ‘others’ make judgements about our hair and become hostile to it. I’ve had 50+ years to understand my hair and it still surprises me. Wear your hair according to your lifestyle – make no judgements on those who chose a differ path or fashion trends. Enjoy your hair

Shanika Small

Best comment

Geneva Jenna

Best comment ever

Elis Isabel

Jennifer Scott ???????? ???????? ???????? ????????

Jennifer Scott

☺️???? ???? and for those of you sporting TWAs or big badass ones Happy Afro Day. We have beautiful hair – enjoy it (bald; straight, kinky, curly or coils; braided, threaded or Locs) What other race of people can sport such variety of hair styles and types?

Kellie King-Coleman

Thank you. I’m not natural because of any “movement”, I love change and after over 10 years of being natural, i may wake up tomorrow and decide to color, relax or cut it, its just hair, not self hate.

Jessica Jones

Nah I love my natural hair I stop perming it and start loving and taking care of it and it started growing in and being beautiful and it inspired my daughter to wear her afro puffs and be proud of the kink in her hair because it makes her unique as a black child I think natural hair movement will be around as long as perms and beyond

Chante Tyler

NEVER going back to perms! Been natural for 10 years and I’m very happy I made the choice.

Shanika Small

Why this headline??? We know that more black women are wearing their hair natural than ever. We also know that many of us choose to wear our hair relaxed. Stop instigating and baiting controversy.

Phindi Zulu

???? natural since 2009 getting a relaxer soon. Just so tired of the natural struggle

Alisha NubianQueen Morrison

Do whatever you want to your hair as long as you like it…

Webb Natasha

Natural hair is trending now likes it was like 7 years or 8 years ago I used to see a lot of black women going to get their hair done if it wasn’t a blow-dry or stacking curls set but nowadays some black women like to try to force you to be natural???? do what works for you we are American just saying not from Africa just saying some black women like to overdo it..

Miss-Rachelle Campbell

I use to perm my own hair with the olive oil brand and every two weeks I would re do the perm to let it stay thick and flowy, but I stopped and i committed into adding braids to my hair for 10 years and my hair has grown out healthy 🙂

Traci Reed

Who going back? I haven’t seen anyone .

Michelle Denice Hop

Personally. Do you. I love my natural hair. I think it’s about understanding it and realizing that it doesn’t have to be as complicated as people think. If your willing to put the time in then do you. Perms. Aren’t for me personally. I feel bald if I get one. But since Ive fallen into a routine of maintaining my hair. From twists to rocking the fro and doing better at braiding my hair and putting braids in. I’ve learned to love my hair and appreciate how well I’ve been taking care of it. I have a terminal illness so just taking care of my hair has it’s ups and downs. I think at the end of the day. Do you. I think what grows out your head you should maintain your God given crown. But if not then do you.

Natausha Taylor

I went natural before natural was popular I’m not going back now.

Karrie Valentine

I had thick 4c hair. Relaxed it almost a year ago. Sometimes I do regret it but it’s much more manageable being relaxed. Just my choice

SY Jones

No creamy crack for me!!!

Mona IsRich

This natural stuff is over rated it’s a lot of hard work ????

Karen McCallop

I went back to a relaxer. My hair is so darn thick and the longer it grew the more difficult it was to maintain; maybe I took the easy way out but so be it. I am learning to care for my relaxed tresses. No regret whatsoever.

JeQuoia Williams

Not true at all. Stop it

Elicia Singleton

Lies ????

Nåd Noelle Bani

curious to see what my hair would be like, if silk pressed

Kandyce Eileen Shadd

I went natural almost 3 years ago, and I’m never going back to perms. I just bleached my hair and I was scared to even do that. Did a hair mask right after lmao my hair has never been this long in my entire life. It takes a lot of work but so worth it.

Cellestine Oyudo

Naturalistas we are here????????‍♀️ . And we ain’t going any other way. We simply fell in love with the crown that grows out our head. And when I need a break, I put on some nice crochet

Renèe Izzard

I have locs so braids or a wig is all i will do.

Olympia Ortega

Not me ✋ #neveragain

Bianca Harris McNeal

Stop lying we are not turning bk to relaxers

Lashae Hill

My relaxed hair stayed the same length until I went natural. I will never go back to perms.

Gracita Gouv

ure hair= ure rules. So u wanna relax, jerrycurl and then bleach ure hair untill its see trough? And all on the same day? hey, do you.

Kayuani Stovall

I think they made this article bc a lot of the natural hair gurus are switching back to relaxers.

Jessie Anderson Freeman

That is a lie, who did they survey, naturals can wear their hair from coily to straight, in many styles. Probably are those who just wanted length or to get rid of damage hair.

Pamela K Bankston

It’s a personal preference, it’s a personal decision, to each her own and be happy

Evette Akins-Lewis

I’ll never go back…

Karen McCallop

Its whats best for the individual. What I don’t get if natural hair braided under weave that’s straight. ????????

Deonjenee Brown

#teamnatural!! I will not put anymore chemicals in my head, I’ve been natural for some years now, and it’s way better!!