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Went natural for 11-12 years, then relaxed my hair last year biggest mistake I ever made when it came to my hair, all of my hair fell out over the course of 6 months, now on the regrowth process, never again
Exactly! At the end if the day that’s what it boils down to. The key is moisturizing. With a relaxer or natural if you can’t retain moisture your hair will not thrive. I’ve had relaxed hair and is now natural. I’ve never experienced damage with either one. I chose to go natural thinking I was saving money by not going to the salon every two weeks…..well man was I wrong lol????
Jasmine Threatt exactly! And I bet she’s doing something to hers other than wearing it however it grows out of her scalp! So that’s not how she was born either!
Nichole Davis It can definitley be hard for some people. You have to have patience and time with natural hair. All those braidout, twistouts and detangling geez.
Raven Hill I been natural for 15+ years those braid outs and twists outs are really not necessary. That’s something new that’s come out. Our parents never had to do all that to maintain natural hair.
Six months into my natural journey I was crying I was so over it.Went to the beauty supply store to get a relaxer..and they were out of my brand! Took it as a sign to stick it out.
I get it! Natural hair is not for everyone! It’s work!
I happen to just grow healthy hair! Relaxed or not relaxed!
I hate that I can’t do all styles with my natural hair! But I stick with it because I’ve decided that’s one chemical I can do without! I get enough from other places! My choice! I don’t knock anyone else’s!
Sounds like self hate to me I have never had a relaxer and don’t ever plan on getting one… haven’t even straighten my hair for three years, and my hair now goes past my bra strap I love my natural hair it’s not made for us to have STRAIGHT HAIR we was born with curls! ????????????????????
It’s not justified as self hate to wanna wear a relaxer. It’s all about preference. Weave and wigs, makeup and body work could be considered more as self hate. They’re all choices
You should look up the meaning of self hate. You may find that it doesn’t apply here. Instead, to me It seems like she did not have the proper products or help or maybe even knowledge on how to maintain her natural hair to get it to be a smoother texture that was more manageable for her.
Okay, the main issue is that no hairdresser here knows how to handle our hair, besides sew ins, braids or Relaxer :/ they would not know how to do a silk pressing, if you asked them for it.
We need people who can handle natural hair like they seem to in the US.
Get over yourself. It’s just hair. You having natural hair doesn’t make you any better. Plus you have a lot of nerve talking about self hate when you have Blue and grey eyes in your profile picture. Talking about pot calling Kettle Black.
But it has been proven that relaxers cause major damage to Black Womens Reproductive System. I suffered for years with Fibroids because of it. I hate seeing little Black Girls 5 – 12 Years Old with relaxed hair because you know it’s killing their Reproductive Organs just like smoking kills your lungs.????
It’s just hair, we all need to respect one another’s choices, keeping hair healthy is all that matters, this is 2018 for carrying out loud one should be able to do whatever they see fit with their hair.
I hate mine too… well not hate but I don’t know how to do the different styles to change it up and keeping it moisturized is a whole other issue in it’s self…I don’t like my fro but braids don’t last long in my head. I stopped getting relaxers about 5 years ago because I kept sweating them out within a month…I’m just stuck in limbo when it comes to my hair ????
Kesha Mitchell yes ma’am…I’ve spent millions of hours watching these hair tutorials and following step by step only for my hair to turn out a hot mess….and it’s always so dry looking…it doesn’t feel dry but it looks dry…and it never hangs down curly like alot of naturals ive seen it’s always in a dry fro….I absolutely hate it but can’t do anything else with it besides sew-ins
Add to the fact that I live in hot ass Texas these so called protective styles are hotttt lol….head just be sweaty under that weave and I don’t like that
Raisa Kumaga i wear wigs alot i love them only time my hair good is when i get a flat iron which isnt good if you get them alot then breakage starts its like ugh im over it
If i want a relaxer ima use it if i wanna go natural when lord knows I shouldn’t because I’m extremely dramatic and tender headed then I’ll think about it but for now bring in the weaves!!
Some of y’all need to stop , just bc someone relaxed their hair does not mean they hate themselves… Sometimes it’s too much…. As long as your hair is healthy …do you…
I’m getting close to a relaxer. I get soooo many single strand knots. I’ve done all the things people say to do and it’s not working. I think I’m actually losing more hair natural than when I was relaxed!????
Some have less curl than others so it’s easier to maintain…I would basically be stuck with an Afro without a relaxer because I don’t like braids or weaves or add-in hair…my hair is uncombable without a relaxer…
I guess people don’t know about the dominicans… they can slay that natural and have it straight for weeks. And they heat protect it so it don’t damage it. Well….. the right dominican salon will
We are born with natural hair. Because we are accustomed to what society says is manageable and acceptable, relaxers have become the way out. At this point it is what it is. No one is superior to another person depending on their hair. Let’s accept and uplift each other relaxed, natural, weave or braids.
These ads are set up to try to convince us to go back to relaxing our hair why because the makers are losing dollars plain and simple. And also if you want beautiful straight hair we can purchase beautiful wigs
Shay Jones my comment didn’t say “everyone “claiming” to have natural hair is lazy”
I’m a license hair stylist.. I know for a fact there are lazy ass women who use the so called natural look as an excuse to walk around looking a mess!
It’s often an excuse used by women that are lazy/ cheap regarding their hair care. Don’t act like they dont exist there are way to many pics on FB showing chicks with wigs’ weaves or braids that have left that crap in their hair for 6 months or more. Witbout shampooing their hair & the damaged it caused.
I see too many so called natural hair Women with matted, nasty dirty, smelly hair with nasty/dirty head rags on it’s acceptable now because folks are claiming to be on a natural hair kick.
Some people are just nasty & lazy when it comes to their hair.
Karen Bryant most definitely ppl ask what products or my regime when I tell them they say that’s too expensive but they got new iPhone other name brands or got 200 300 dollar bundles ppl want to protect the style but neglect their natural hair or don’t care about their natural hair and wonder why it won’t grow they won’t take biotin no vitamin won’t change diet no conditioning or hot oil treatments or drink water they want it fast like a microwave results
Ive been natural… and ive relaxed and gone back to natural… people should be allowed to have a choice on how they wear their hair. It has nothing to do with self hate… respect peoples choice… even if its not the.one you would.make..
Everyone has the right to do as they wish with their hair. Shout out to versatility! ????????♀️That being said, no matter how “over it” an individual might be with their natural hair it will come back.That’s what they’ve been genetically given regardless of self made alterations.
Went natural for 11-12 years, then relaxed my hair last year biggest mistake I ever made when it came to my hair, all of my hair fell out over the course of 6 months, now on the regrowth process, never again
Your hair do what you wanna do with it!! I can’t tell you what to do with it…
I’m trying to stay away from the relaxer
As long as she takes care of her hair, it’s cute
nautral 4 life
Keep that stringy stuff over there I love my curls ????????
Oh boy. This again. Are we still on natural vs relaxed? Can we simply appreciate healthy hair? Sigh!!!
Right!? or appreciate what people like!
Exactly! At the end if the day that’s what it boils down to. The key is moisturizing. With a relaxer or natural if you can’t retain moisture your hair will not thrive. I’ve had relaxed hair and is now natural. I’ve never experienced damage with either one. I chose to go natural thinking I was saving money by not going to the salon every two weeks…..well man was I wrong lol????
OMG so many days I want to be over it! My hair still won’t grow past my shoulders..
Natural hair isn’t for everyone just saying
We✊????✊????✊???????????????????????????? were born with natural hair
Angel Mitchell it’s a lot of things we are born with that we change! Especially when it comes to want/like/convenience!
Exactly. Some people just don’t have the time and some people don’t want to deal with it.
Jasmine Threatt exactly! And I bet she’s doing something to hers other than wearing it however it grows out of her scalp! So that’s not how she was born either!
It’s not that hard just keep your hair moistured
Nichole Davis It can definitley be hard for some people. You have to have patience and time with natural hair. All those braidout, twistouts and detangling geez.
Raven Hill I been natural for 15+ years those braid outs and twists outs are really not necessary. That’s something new that’s come out. Our parents never had to do all that to maintain natural hair.
Six months into my natural journey I was crying I was so over it.Went to the beauty supply store to get a relaxer..and they were out of my brand! Took it as a sign to stick it out.
It’s not meant for us siSTAR
You got this!! As soon as you figure what your hair likes, you will begin to enjoy it.
It’s her hair, she can do whatever she wants with it.
I get it! Natural hair is not for everyone! It’s work!
I happen to just grow healthy hair! Relaxed or not relaxed!
I hate that I can’t do all styles with my natural hair! But I stick with it because I’ve decided that’s one chemical I can do without! I get enough from other places! My choice! I don’t knock anyone else’s!
I’m wearing my natural hair most of the time until I get tired then I put on a wig. Not doing the relaxer anymore.
Sounds like self hate to me I have never had a relaxer and don’t ever plan on getting one… haven’t even straighten my hair for three years, and my hair now goes past my bra strap I love my natural hair it’s not made for us to have STRAIGHT HAIR we was born with curls! ????????????????????
You sound angry..it’s not that serious girl
My hair is past my bra strap and I’m relaxed. Go figure…????
Doesn’t matter what y’all say it’s nothing good about having straight hair PERIOD! Now carry on ????????????
And hunny it’s nothing to be angry about… if she wanna have short thin hair that’s her to each it’s own.. lol
I don’t think she hate herself. It is her preference to have straight hair….. Either way as long as its taken care of.. her hair will be fine.
But you wear a weave n colored contacts ok Sarah
What a frighteningly simple mindset.
It’s not justified as self hate to wanna wear a relaxer. It’s all about preference. Weave and wigs, makeup and body work could be considered more as self hate. They’re all choices
You should look up the meaning of self hate. You may find that it doesn’t apply here. Instead, to me It seems like she did not have the proper products or help or maybe even knowledge on how to maintain her natural hair to get it to be a smoother texture that was more manageable for her.
Y’all mixed xD
it’s no surprise that your hair grows like shit xD
Okay, the main issue is that no hairdresser here knows how to handle our hair, besides sew ins, braids or Relaxer :/ they would not know how to do a silk pressing, if you asked them for it.
We need people who can handle natural hair like they seem to in the US.
I agree
She said it’s her natural hair
Get over yourself. It’s just hair. You having natural hair doesn’t make you any better. Plus you have a lot of nerve talking about self hate when you have Blue and grey eyes in your profile picture. Talking about pot calling Kettle Black.
I won’t give in ????
I also dig relaxed hair. My natural hair is stubborn and bloody expensive to maintain
But it has been proven that relaxers cause major damage to Black Womens Reproductive System. I suffered for years with Fibroids because of it. I hate seeing little Black Girls 5 – 12 Years Old with relaxed hair because you know it’s killing their Reproductive Organs just like smoking kills your lungs.????
It’s just hair, we all need to respect one another’s choices, keeping hair healthy is all that matters, this is 2018 for carrying out loud one should be able to do whatever they see fit with their hair.
You can lead a horse to water….
I miss relaxing my hair but love my yarn locs so much that I’ve been redoing them for almost 3 years straight. I don’t wear my hair out anymore
And?
Been natural for 5 years and have hated my hair ever since
I hate mine too… well not hate but I don’t know how to do the different styles to change it up and keeping it moisturized is a whole other issue in it’s self…I don’t like my fro but braids don’t last long in my head. I stopped getting relaxers about 5 years ago because I kept sweating them out within a month…I’m just stuck in limbo when it comes to my hair ????
Kenyata Harris sounds like we have the same problems
Kesha Mitchell yes ma’am…I’ve spent millions of hours watching these hair tutorials and following step by step only for my hair to turn out a hot mess….and it’s always so dry looking…it doesn’t feel dry but it looks dry…and it never hangs down curly like alot of naturals ive seen it’s always in a dry fro….I absolutely hate it but can’t do anything else with it besides sew-ins
Add to the fact that I live in hot ass Texas these so called protective styles are hotttt lol….head just be sweaty under that weave and I don’t like that
Same i have just resulted in using wigs or sew ins while being naturel underneath
Raisa Kumaga i wear wigs alot i love them only time my hair good is when i get a flat iron which isnt good if you get them alot then breakage starts its like ugh im over it
Soon relax mine too
Just use a texturizer ladies just loosing the curl pattern up a bit to retain a nice blow out
If i want a relaxer ima use it if i wanna go natural when lord knows I shouldn’t because I’m extremely dramatic and tender headed then I’ll think about it but for now bring in the weaves!!
To each their own I guess ????????♀️
Anything is better than walking around in public wearing a bonnet!
Some of y’all need to stop , just bc someone relaxed their hair does not mean they hate themselves… Sometimes it’s too much…. As long as your hair is healthy …do you…
I relaxed mine also… so over it!
I had a dream that I relaxed my hair…I woke up in a panic. I have 4c hair and I love my beady beads!
I’m getting close to a relaxer. I get soooo many single strand knots. I’ve done all the things people say to do and it’s not working. I think I’m actually losing more hair natural than when I was relaxed!????
You have to keep it hydrated carrot oil use good products
Girl I feel ya
Some have less curl than others so it’s easier to maintain…I would basically be stuck with an Afro without a relaxer because I don’t like braids or weaves or add-in hair…my hair is uncombable without a relaxer…
Sorry but if you are natural with hard to manage, but healthy hair…all that healthy thick hair will fall out after you perm it
Curly hair rules!
I guess people don’t know about the dominicans… they can slay that natural and have it straight for weeks. And they heat protect it so it don’t damage it. Well….. the right dominican salon will
The relaxed was all wrong n who cares how you wear your hair
We are born with natural hair. Because we are accustomed to what society says is manageable and acceptable, relaxers have become the way out. At this point it is what it is. No one is superior to another person depending on their hair. Let’s accept and uplift each other relaxed, natural, weave or braids.
You look nice either way. All black women are beautifully and wonderfully made Love ❤️ yourselves ????????????????
These ads are set up to try to convince us to go back to relaxing our hair why because the makers are losing dollars plain and simple. And also if you want beautiful straight hair we can purchase beautiful wigs
I’m about to to
Natural or just an excuse to be lazy?
I’m natural and I’m far from lazy lady. Tragic comment
Shay Jones my comment didn’t say “everyone “claiming” to have natural hair is lazy”
I’m a license hair stylist.. I know for a fact there are lazy ass women who use the so called natural look as an excuse to walk around looking a mess!
It’s often an excuse used by women that are lazy/ cheap regarding their hair care. Don’t act like they dont exist there are way to many pics on FB showing chicks with wigs’ weaves or braids that have left that crap in their hair for 6 months or more. Witbout shampooing their hair & the damaged it caused.
I see too many so called natural hair Women with matted, nasty dirty, smelly hair with nasty/dirty head rags on it’s acceptable now because folks are claiming to be on a natural hair kick.
Some people are just nasty & lazy when it comes to their hair.
That’s a facy!
Karen Bryant aww okay I get what ur saying the way it was wrote i thought u was equating natural=lazy I misunderstood u
Karen Bryant most definitely ppl ask what products or my regime when I tell them they say that’s too expensive but they got new iPhone other name brands or got 200 300 dollar bundles ppl want to protect the style but neglect their natural hair or don’t care about their natural hair and wonder why it won’t grow they won’t take biotin no vitamin won’t change diet no conditioning or hot oil treatments or drink water they want it fast like a microwave results
Ive been natural… and ive relaxed and gone back to natural… people should be allowed to have a choice on how they wear their hair. It has nothing to do with self hate… respect peoples choice… even if its not the.one you would.make..
Trying so hard not to relax mine????
why announce it so what
Get a razor shave it off problem solved
Love it????????
You can do whatever you want but I will continue to be nappily ever after
Any beauticians in here??
Everyone has the right to do as they wish with their hair. Shout out to versatility! ????????♀️That being said, no matter how “over it” an individual might be with their natural hair it will come back.That’s what they’ve been genetically given regardless of self made alterations.
It’s her hair what she eat doesn’t make me s**t but I LOVE MY CURLY HAIR
Natural doesn’t mean nothing or relaxed doesn’t mean anything. It’s just what’s best for you too manager & maintain your hair.
14 years natural and I would not change it for anything in the world????
it looks good to me.