I’m pretty sure it’s clear to you by now that I LOVE hair. I’m that crazy excited person you encounter in the mall or hair salon that makes her way over to you simply to compliment you on your flawless hairstyle. Whether your hair has a poppin’ color, is loc’d up, wigged out, bone straight, coily, whatever. I love talking hair, discussing hair journeys, and hearing women’s goals.
One thing I hear a lot is “I can’t do the natural ‘thing’. It’s just not me.” Now, I’m not the type to throw shade on any woman’s hair choice but this particular comment rubs me the wrong way. I don’t understand how your natural texture can’t be “you.” Who, exactly, would it be? Here are 6 excuses you’ve probably used to talk yourself out of going natural:
1. “I’ve always had long hair.”
This is something I can completely understand since my hair has been at least shoulder length all my life. The idea of doing the BC or even dealing with shrinkage makes me nervous. Then I remind myself that my hair journey ought to be about trying new things and working styles I’ve never before considered. If the idea of short hair just doesn’t rub you the right way, you can do a long-term transition and gradually trim off your relaxed ends. To avoid shrinkage, you can stretch your hair by banding or drying in twists. The possibilities are really endless.
2. “It’s more challenging than relaxed hair.”
I think this is the excuse that I hear the most. I frequently stretch my relaxers for 5-6 months at a time so I know managing two textures can be difficult. What I also know is that relaxed hair can be just as challenging as being natural. Dealing with over- or under-processing, curbing breakage, dryness, overlapping relaxers, straight ends while styling, scalp burns and scabs; the list goes on and on! This isn’t to suggest that being natural doesn’t come with its own difficulties but relaxed hair isn’t a walk in the park for everyone either.
Originally posted 2012-07-12 20:49:09.