We wrote a piece on Urban Gyal that said she should not feel offended, because she was not casted to be classically beautiful. Like her, many of us are not classically beautiful, and that is perfectly OK.
Viola’s response was :
“Being a dark-skinned Black woman, you heard it from the womb,” said Davis. “And “classically not beautiful” is a fancy term for saying ugly. And denouncing you. And erasing you.” “I’m glad that Shonda Rhimes saw me and said, ‘Why not?’ That’s what makes her a visionary. That’s what makes her iconic. I think that beauty is subjective,”
Now feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but there are many of us that still have a ton of insecurities based on the color of our skin, and the appearance of our hair. Viola is not much different; alopecia made things even more complicated for her, so she felt that she needed a wig* to feel beautiful. Her insecurities might also make her feel insulted when described as anything less than beautiful as she should.
Everyone is beautiful in their own right, but the features that you have to have to be described as classically beautiful are not evident for every woman on the planet, and that’s just the truth.
Viola has been casted as a strong, sexy, smart, slightly flawed black woman by Shonda, and that represents a huge sector of women who may never be considered classically beautiful, but still lead bountiful lives.
As a woman who is overcoming traction alopecia, and who used wigs* as a crutch, I would say that she came a long way. Viola is definitely more comfortable wearing her natural hair, and though she wears wigs on the show, I think she looks amazing with her own hair.
I hope Viola keeps talking about how she feels about herself, as she is probably at one of the highest points in her career – so a lot of us are listening. It is good to know that there are people out there with some of the same insecurities we have, who have alopecia, and are struggling with trying to be beautiful, while fighting the disease.
My humble advice: do what you have to do, because no-one can tell you how to handle Alopecia comfortably – so if wigs* are the answer while you are undergoing treatment, then wigs are the answer. However, if there is something deeper than just Alopecia, then you will have to tackle that at some point. For Viola, her time is now!
You are beautiful Viola!
The sad part of it is…she was desperate for HERSELF to think that she was beautiful. I’m pretty sure that everyone else though that she was. Sometimes we’re our worse enemy 🙂
I do agree what you are saying.
you are.
You are and very talented
The sad part is she wasn’t made to feel beautiful. Even as a child, we need to make our children feel and know that they are beautiful.
I think more so than their looks, focus on their accomplishments. Like good grades = intelligent. Volunteering in a church group or for the homeless = kind, caring, giving. Sharing with your peers=generosity. It takes more than looks to be a truley beautiful person. If you don’t let them know they are/ can be good people, they may never try.
Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. Who’s beautiful to me, others may think is ugly and vice versa, though I don’t focus on appearance.
I tell my babys shes beautiful since the day I had her. And i still tell them they beautiful. I want them to know they are and they will always be beautiful and not to let no one tell them any thing different.
We have to let out children know how beautiful and handsome they are at all times. Viola you are beautiful and a very talented actress.
I have a lot of admiration and respect for Viola.
She’s beautiful
Wow I love her honesty. Many women hide behind wigs a extensions
You are BEAUTIFUL.
Beauty comes from within
She’s beautiful
Awe
We as parents must uplift our children at every opportunity. To this day I tell my daughter how pretty she is and my son how handsome he is. It should always come from home first. I remember when they were babies and I was always saying how cute they were and my mom would tell me that I shouldn’t say that. I guess she thought it would offend people. But I would say “but they are cute!” I didn’t care who I offended! Lol
I absolutely love her!
As a society we place too much emphasis on the exterior. We should always let our children and our young people know how talented and gifted they are. Help them see characteristics in themselves that are positive. Then and only then they can radiate from the inside out.
She is not only beautiful, but an extremely talented woman. I admire her.
Much respect
You are beautiful mama
You are!
I am dark skinned with kinky hair and it is a struggle. I think the major difference is that my family ALWAYS told me I wasbeautiful, even when I doubted it. My mom would give reasons like: you are intelligent and have big heart, so it was never about how I looked. Now that I am older, I have figuired out that is what they tell the ugly kids (lol). Anyway I was able to let my beautiful inner qualities shine through and now that I am older I know I am good looking (I mean I am no 10 but I am no less than an 8.5 :D) but that comes from knowing my insides are beautiful too. I think it is truley important that we foster positive self images with our children that are not based on what they see, but more based on their defininition of beauty.
My son is very handsome, yet I don’t focus on his looks. Inner qualities make you beautiful.
Beautiful without a wig, wear it or not, the choice is yours !!!
Society society society not jus our selfs but society
She is a beautiful lady from all I’ve read inside and out.
—Stay Blessed, people need to sweep around there own front doors.
I ONLY HERE FROM WOMAN.
IT WOULD BE MORE COVINCING IF MEN WERE TELLING HER SHE’S BEAUTIFUL TOO!
AS A CHILD SHE REMINDS ME OF BERNIE MACK
You look beautiful with out a wig! Please tell Shonda to take that darn thing off of you! I think your character would be even more powerful! I’m just sayin. …….
She looked like a boy lol
I watched Taboo and an episode called ugly came on and changed my view on aesthetics. Get to know people before judging them.
U r beautiful
I had to “grow into” my features/looks as well. I can relate.
Beautiful! I love your natural hair. Wish you would wear it on the show.
We have got to stop looking for validation from others. Find beauty within yourself!
Viola IS BEAUTIFUL!!!!
You are beautiful I love that hair style on you and color.
I honestly thinks she looks best in the picture shown. In her natural state…..
Amazing story/blog. Very heartfelt and well written! 🙂
I agree with article… and like all of you I think viola is amazing. The one question. I have is to the author. Are you suggesting that when someone tells you that you aren’t classically beautiful you shouldn’t take offense, when in essence that person is saying to you ” you are not pretty because you aren’t white looking enough” I think that is offensive and every woman of color, should not be “OK” with being considered less than because of our race
I was thinking the same thing. I think she should be offended! We all know that “classically beautiful” = white features. If people would realize that “white” is NOT the standard for beauty, despite what the media has SHOWN us, we wouldn’t hear things like “not classically beautiful” or “your pretty for a dark skinned girl.” It’s sad that we have still yet to realize this.
U r wonderfully beautiful…
She was beautiful then and even more beautiful now. Viola Davis is an amazing woman.
This makes me sad
I want to hug her as a little girl and take her out for a spa day
I like her hair natural… I’m pro “do your do like you [email protected], but she looks sooooo much better with her hair.
That’s what I said ^^^^
But I hope this is the last week for this story… Every other day there is an hair story… Only with black American females. ENOUGH! I wish they made captions about her stress issues and how she dealt with them. This hair mess is getting old!
She is more beautiful without the wigs! She is a good looking woman.
U r beautiful Viola- my fav actress!!!!bet ur heart is as beautiful2….don’t see u on tabloids at all- classy/talented/gorgeous/loveable lady– luv this lady!!!!!luv the show!!!! Watch every movie Viola is in!!!! Huge fan!!! Luv u Viola!!!
If you had to make it big you are still beautiful you are still beautiful beauty is within you and you are beautiful person what I can see from TV
You are totally beautiful….
You are beautiful!
You are beautiful naturally girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
We love you Viola!