How Young is too Young when Using Extensions in a Child’s Hair?

zahara-435My opinion is, if you want to protect her hair, you can braid, cornrow or twist it just as you would with extensions hair, just using her own hair instead. With that said, if we were to determine what age is most appropriate for braids and weave hair based on physical attributes alone, I would say when her hair isn’t changing as much and is strong enough to handle it.

Typically this would be during puberty but even then you still want to have some sort of control with regards to how long extensions are in, and why you are putting them in her hair in the first place. Lets move on to maturity.

Should extensions depend on maturity?

Personally, this will only be an issue after my child is 13 point blank, because at this time we can probably safely determine if her hair is strong and healthy enough to ‘take’ braids.

When we refer to maturity we mean, are you and your child able to decipher the difference between using braids and extensions as a means of protecting her hair for growth and health rather than a crutch because your daughter is not particularly thrilled with her own hair?

Sometimes children can view certain things with more imagination than we might like, they are influenced by everything around them, like Disney princesses with long flowing hair that does not look like their own, or other kids in class that tease her about her ‘wooly’ hair making her feel a little insecure.

They might feel a sigh of relief when they finally get braids because it is the perfect compromise for what they view as a better alternative to what they have.


It is important that your child understands her hair, loves her hair, and knows that extensions are just a means to give her hair a break from time to time so that her own hair can stay healthy and retain length.

Is that easy to explain to a child? Not always, and that’s why we have to not only lead by example, but we also have start the conversation early, very early. At no point should a child feel that hair extensions are a replacement for her own hair, once she understands that, then she might be able to wear extensions from time to time once she hits puberty.

What about weaves?

We have primarily been focused on braid extensions, but what about full coverage weaves or crochet braids? This again is a matter of opinion, I am not a fan of weave extensions for little girls, and by little I am referring to girls under 16.

I have never raised a teenage girl before so that is just my own opinion minus the actual experience. What is your opinion, how young is too young for braid extension hair, and how old should a child be for her to have her first weave?

Originally posted 2015-01-15 15:00:54.

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Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

About Petra


Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

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Comments

  1. Raniquah Janisha Burroughs
    Raniquah Janisha Burroughs

    I don’t think it’s a age that’s too young unless their infants I think adding hair is ok depending on the style some kids need a little extra hair . I wouldn’t put a sew in my child hair but I’ll add hair to her cornrows or ponytails if it’s needed .

    1. Saphary

      Yeah same here, my daughter is 2.5, and i recently got her hair done in cornrows that lead into a ponytail, and I added some extra hair because her hair would be too short for a pony tail, it’s not heavy at all! And she loves it.

  2. Cindy harris

    I’m not very good at carrying for my daughter’s. I keep extensions in her hair a lot because of my work schedule. I’m in need of good products that promote her hair growth.

  3. Jamila Kelly
    Jamila Kelly

    That’s a matter of opinion. moms relax hair waaaaay before kids hit middle school and pretty sure that’s worse for a child’s hair. And what about flat ironing a kids hair. . isn’t that a little worse too?. i understand nut letting a baby have stuff like that done but that’s just common sense that that’s not what we are talking about.
    Regardless, I don’t think id relax my child’s hair or let then get extensions before middle school but if they want it then they can have it and possibly regret it…or not.

    1. Kendra Taylor
      Kendra Taylor

      I agree relaxers are horrible but flat ironing with the right protective Products and care not to often are ok in my opinion, especially if its to clip their ends and what not. I flat iron my girls hair for that purpose and the results are amazing!!

  4. Tianedra Bea Little
    Tianedra Bea Little

    Depends on the style I suppose maybe a little added to the ends is ok but I hate to see lil girls with full heads of extensions

  5. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  6. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  7. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  8. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  9. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  10. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  11. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  12. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  13. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  14. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  15. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  16. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  17. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  18. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  19. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  20. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  21. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  22. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  23. Tamaran James
    Tamaran James

    I say depends on the style. If its braids or a clip on pony tail I don’t see a problem with it. But I think sew in or quick weaves are kinda inappropriate for a child, plus its damaging to the hair. But then again everyone is entitled to their opinion.

  24. Kendra Taylor
    Kendra Taylor

    Focus on healthier hair growth not length. Short or medium length is beautiful also!! Teach them self love and loving their hair is just one way of doing that.

    1. Peggy Edmonson
      Peggy Edmonson

      Some parents is telling their kids that they have to have long hair to be pretty and some take it too far putting braids in their hair (extensions) too early breaking their hair off

    2. Kendra Taylor
      Kendra Taylor

      I agree and its sad to no end smh then comes make up. I am a childcare provider and you should see some of the styles little girls wear smh

    3. Kendra Taylor
      Kendra Taylor

      Ive seen 5year olds with full sewins and asian style bangs. Bob cuts and micros??? Why oh why who is she trying to impress

  25. Norvona MzVona Spencer
    Norvona MzVona Spencer

    As long as its a natural look and isn’t pulling her hair out and not all extra long then I feel like there isn’t an age requirement. My daughter is one and some times I add a little hair in with her twist to make them a little fuller and longer and no one even knows she has hair added. It helps her hair grow because now she is almost two and hair is down her back and its help the style stay fresh longer. It just depends on the style and the type of hair that the child has and the type of hair being used in the child’s hair.

        1. Epic Realist

          Yes, I agree that is way too much. Weave in a baby’s hair. Ridiculous beyond reason. I have two young daughters and I wouldn’t even dream of such a thing. Have your child love her own hair first before adding some!

  26. Tryaunda Logan
    Tryaunda Logan

    I think that you can do whatever you want to your child’s hair as long as you’re not chemically damaging it and the braids aren’t to too tight around the edges.

  27. Aaliyah Ingram-Jones
    Aaliyah Ingram-Jones

    I think we are silently telling our little girls that they are not good enough with the hair that they have if its too young. I did braids for my daughter at 11 because of cheerleading and because she asked so she could have less time worrying about sweating etc. it’s all in how much work you spend building their self esteem before hand I guess. Once you know they are comfortable in their own skin then it’s better.

  28. Denise Mills
    Denise Mills

    They should at least be in middle school , but if you put a age approperate hair do, they can get away with it..But all that extra long hair does look fake and unnessary. MOST OF ALL TEACH THEM TO BE COMFORTABLE IN THEIR OWN SKIN.

  29. Johnna Williams Nash
    Johnna Williams Nash

    As long as they understand that their hair is beautiful without it…and we’re just having fun… 12 and older will be my choice for extension braids at the shoulders..but my lil girl will love her hair first

    1. Honey Mattice
      Honey Mattice

      I wasn’t raised that way, and I was raised by my dad. He taught me to love me as I am. I’m teaching that to my girls.

    2. Mina

      Ditto! I might let her do it when she starts high school but not younger. She does have hair but even if she didn’t, I wouldn’t do fake hair. I tell her all the time that she has pretty hair and she does. It’s not 3c hair it’s 4c hair and all she knows is that her hair is pretty!

  30. Azaria Baht Israel Israel
    Azaria Baht Israel Israel

    It’s not ok. It makes the little girls think that their Chist like hair isn’t good enough. Unless they’re a cancer patient with no hair.

    1. Cindy Cadet-Murphy
      Cindy Cadet-Murphy

      It’s just hair it comes go goes. Hair is not even alive, you put a person’s entire personality & self esteem on something so interchangeable. I’m raising educated power woman n my house , hair like clothing, jewelry is an accessory.

    2. Azaria Baht Israel Israel
      Azaria Baht Israel Israel

      Yea! There’s so much controversy around hair. We as parents got to be careful about we say about our children’s looks. Tell them how beautiful and how special they are.
      Tell them that they’re beautiful just the way they are without the extra (weaves, perms)

  31. AntLina AjNikki TiceJacob
    AntLina AjNikki TiceJacob

    I’m a mother of 4, 2 of which are girls(7 & 8). I put weave in both their hair if the style I’m trying to achieve requires more hair. Not to mention, I have ptotected their hair to the point it’s almost to their butts thanks to weave. I also flat iron their hair every once in a while, let their hair out when not a fro/semi straight. Use ALOT of heat protectors, oils, etc on top of wrapping it up at night. It is truly up the the parent. Just saying since my girls 1st weave was when they were 4 & 6

  32. Misty B. Fox
    Misty B. Fox

    I dont see anything wrong with it its just be girly !
    I did extensions on my daughters braids when she was in preschool for fun she loves it!! I didnt leave them in long only a week ..I think its fine

  33. Michelle Marie
    Michelle Marie

    I like the natural looks on lil girls…no weave!!! Natural braids!!! My daughter doesn’t wear weave!!!

  34. Debbie Meeks
    Debbie Meeks

    I think they’re too young if their hair is not strong enough yet to support extensions. Otherwise, you risk serious breakage and damage. If using extensions, the style should be age-appropriate. I think that’s the biggest mistake some parents make is doing hairstyles that is too grown for their child’s age.

  35. Dellasie Cocoa Aning
    Dellasie Cocoa Aning

    Braids and weaves aren’t the same. Braids are a traditional African hairstyle that’s been passed thru centuries. Weave — not quite. I see ppl using the terms interchangeably and it isn’t.

    1. Aaliyah Ingram-Jones
      Aaliyah Ingram-Jones

      They actually just unearthed an Ethiopian mummy that had weaved hair, not braided. Weaves are very very old. Hundreds if not thousands of years old. Application methods have evolved but weave is not new.

    2. Dellasie Cocoa Aning
      Dellasie Cocoa Aning

      Not weaves with glue, or even sewn with synthetic or asian/south-american hair….. I believe that’s what these commenters are referring to.

    3. Lynette Robinson
      Lynette Robinson

      if its not your hair its weave !!! braids is a type of way to wear weave but if its not growing out your head than its weave

  36. Tee Waters Hill
    Tee Waters Hill

    I think people should just make the time to do their child’s hair without extentions the old school way. The child can choose if they want extensions once they turn 18. Too many little girls are losing their hairlines permanently before they even get to high school.

    1. Hannah Okorafor
      Hannah Okorafor

      Well it’s easier said than done “making time” every morning depends on the mother’s work life.
      As long as it’s age appropriate it’s up to individual choice…

  37. Wendy Stewart
    Wendy Stewart

    We put too much focus on physical appearance…stop we are creating superficial monsters. What happened to kind, intelligent, giving, well mannered, and respectful?

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