Last week I stayed late at work to catch up on a few things. As I was leaving, I ran into the security guard, who typically waits until the last employee leaves, before she leaves.
So, as I was heading out she stopped me for a little girl chat. The chat then turned to her asking questions about the crochet havanna twist style that I was wearing.
She asked the typical questions, like “are they heavy”, and then complimented them and said how she really liked them, but doesn’t think she could ever wear them herself.
Then, she asked me why don’t I just wear my natural hair, because she’s seen it, and said that it’s so beautiful. By now, I was used to that question, because my family asks me that basically every time I see them. But, when she asked me, it made me a little annoyed.
It was as if she was asking me why do I hate my natural hair. As if choosing to wear a protective style means you don’t like your natural hair, which is the furthest thing from the truth!
I love my natural hair! For me, wearing protective styles is what got me over the hump of not giving up being natural after I got the big chop, and once my hair finally got to a length I liked, protective styles then became the way I… protected my hair.
Protective styling keeps my ends tucked away and also require little minimal daily upkeep while helping my strands stay moisturized. It also, promotes hair growth! So, by definition of protective styling alone, I love my hair. I want to protect it from daily pulling and yanking, that could cause shedding and breakage.
I think each person should do what they think is best for their hair, and during the frigid fall and winter months in NYC, protective styling is the best option for my hair. I do not hate my natural hair, I just want to protect it and I will continue to use protective styling to do so!