Hi, my name is Mellissa and I am from Africa. I really need help take better care of my hair. I am 19 years of age. I moved to the States a couple of years ago and before coming here I had natural hair my whole life until I relaxed it when I started attending school here.
Since then I have been having trouble growing my hair out, I mean my hair grows and it becomes very, very thick but short. For some reason my hair cannot grow long.
Whenever I relax my hair the ends of my hair get extremely weak so my hair dresser has to cut most of my hair off and it becomes short and thick again. I cannot even make a ponytail out of it.
Sometimes all my hair becomes very weak and when I comb it out it sheds a lot. I really do not know what am doing wrong because I wash my hair every week and blow dry it.
I was wondering, is it the amount of heat I use on my hair because I heard that too much heat on the hair damages it. Frankly I do not know any other way to dry my hair because whenever I air dry it it looks and feels extremely dry.
Or is it because I am pure African, is that why i cannot grow my hair out? I really don’t know what am doing wrong that’s why I really need your help. I love my hair and I don’t want to destroy it any more than I already have. I really want healthy hair can you please, please, please help me.
I’m sorry to hear about your hair troubles Mellissa. It sounds a lot like your hair is over processed. Many ladies assume that just because their hair is thick, it is also strong so can take rough handling which is totally inaccurate. Don’t worry though, there is definitely hope but it’s not going to be easy or quick.