The other day I was in Starbucks and I saw this woman with beautiful curly blond hair, and once I stopped starting and ogling her tresses, I finally spoke up and told her that I loved her hair.
Yet, to my surprise, she smiled, said thank you, and then told me that it was a wig*! I couldn’t believe it, because it looked so natural, and fit her perfectly.
So, then I started thinking, about how I usually get complimented on my crochet style by this woman at work, who believes that it is my hair, no extensions*, and I have yet to muster the courage to bust her bubble and tell her that it isn’t my hair.
This is something that I’ve always struggled with- when people ask me about my hair extensions*, do I honestly tell them it’s not mine, and if I don’t, am I lying?
This is a topic that has been tossed around among my group chat of girlfriends, and they all agreed that it’s up to you if you want to tell someone your hair is not yours.
However, what about in a dating situation? What if your guy asks you whether or not your sew in is your natural length- in that case, when he is asking you flat out, is saying it is all yours when it isn’t, a lie?
I have conflicting thoughts on the topic, but ultimately I think it comes down to personal preference. For example, the coworkers at work who frequently compliment my curly crochet hair, I don’t think it’s lying when I don’t divulge the fact that it’s not my real hair.
However, if someone asks me flat out whether or not it’s mine, then in that case I do believe honesty is best. On the flip side it just means that your hair stylist did a darn good job because people can’t distinguish whether it’s real or fake!
What do you guys think, is honesty always the best policy when receiving a compliment on your extensions*?
Francesca Matthews says
If they don’t ask..I don’t tell. Nor do I lie if they ask..That’s not dishonesty.
Sandra Victoire says
Honestly is the best way, I think
Watonya Beasley says
I always tell the truth when I get compliments on my wigs or weaves…no big deal
Dee-Lila Sharp says
I have always owned up to my store bought hair lol. I love wearing pieces, falls and extentions.
Marianela Arroyo says
I have always told people about my wigs because I feel like I should spread the joy of versatility. Js
Pamela Smith says
Technically yes, it’s yours because you bought it but it isn’t real. You can lie if you want to but why would you? The very person that is asking may be looking for something to do with their hair and by you telling them the truth, you might be helping them find a hair solution that they need. You know it isn’t real so why lie.
Beonka Hunni B says
I normally tell the truth unless it’s a co worker that ask a lot of questions. Because once I say it’s a weave the continue with a tone of questions I don’t fell like answering
Saprila Mclean says
No don’t tell them ur business
Chrishauna Nicole Crenshaw says
Fine Brown Frame says
I dont wear a weave, but if I did, I don’t think a compliment obligates me to tell her my business, or else be considered a liar. .I would merely say “thank you”..
Andrea Tre says
You do what you feel. If you live your life to please others, you’ll be a miserable soul. Today someone complimented me of my curls; I had no time to explain the fundamentals of a black woman’s weave, so I smiled and said thank you. That’s that.
Janeen Brown says
I like that, you do what you feel!
Angie Brian Simon says
Only if asked, then I will say. They usually think my natural hair is fake and my synthetic looks are real. Crazy
Shivonne Wellington says
You don’t have to; you can just smile and say thank you buy if people ask whether it’s a weave or not, most times they already know it is and just want to try and catch you out. In that situation just be honest. There’s no shame in wearing wigs/weaves/extensions etc. And thr more ppl act like its there own hair, the more it looks like shame.
Yvette Survivor Carter says
In this day and time, there is no shame in the hair game. Why lie.
Sylvia A. Whittington says
I just say Thank You!!! Nowadays anything on a persons body can be fake. Heck they may not even be the gender you think they are. That being said just take the compliment, it means you’re doing something Right!!! No need for a life story.
Donna La Borde Palmer says
When I first started wearing weaves and wigs I was scared to admit it but now I freely say it. The great thing is that when I wear my natural hair no one believes me. There’s still a notion that those who wear weaves and wigs have no hair but I tell them, for me, it’s just easier and keeps my natural hair healthy.
Maria Reyes says
At time my weaves have been shorter than my natural hair.
Donna La Borde Palmer says
Same here…over the past few months I have been wearing my weaves and wigs shorter than my natural hair too and it’s been so liberating?
Maria Reyes says
If its on YOUR head, then it is theoretically YOURS. IJS
Jamila Kelly says
Why not tell the truth? Are you so ashamed of looking fabulous that you can’t say it? How childish. If you don’t have any humility I feel bad for you. Don’t wear it if you aren’t proud of it
With me it depends who asks and how they ask. Mostly I will tell the truth but if someone is being patronizing I just might not, then too I just might.
Judy Tedstrom says
Smile say thank you and go on