Would You Date A Guy Whose Hair Is Longer Or Thicker Than Yours?

 

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2. Is it ok for a guy to obsess over his hair?

This is tricky because the truth is, we women do not think we obsess over hair, even though we value the information we get on how to take care of it. We see hair as a very important part of our overall appearance.

When a man does the same thing, is it a turn off? Men who share hair journeys and have Instagrams dedicated to hair do think hair is pretty important.

Could you date a guy who is on the same journey that you are, or is that natural hair overkill? In this case, it’s not just about length or thickness; it’s everything overall –  some women prefer to have something to themselves, and prefer not to share the ‘hobby’. It’s weird, because they might want their man to show interest (but not so much), where we plan curly hair parties together.

3. Some people think that when a man grows his hair and styles it, that it can be seen as feminine.

This might just be the reason that a woman might say, “No way, I wouldn’t date a guy with longer thicker hair than me.” Women have gone as far as to say, “I want to be the only girl in the relationship.”


Frankly this is kind of silly; hair doesn’t determine sexuality, just like if you cut all your hair off, it doesn’t mean that you are all of a sudden batting for the other team.

Guys who choose to grow their hair might get a lot of heat from male counterparts too; some who can be down right rude and discriminatory. Like with a lot of perceptions in this world, it is something we all have to work through, as more men make the decision to have longer hair.

4. Men can wear their hair more freely, and in its natural texture, than women can.

Again, a matter of opinion, but I think a guy can rock his natural texture untamed, free of gel and product, and we say, ‘dang he looks good”. However, when a woman does the same, we say, “Did you just get out of bed and come to work?” Clearly, there is a double standard in some circles.

Women are more likely to do a style with their hair, so that they can be presentable and they should. I also think that a guy should too; if you are going to grow your hair out, you should groom it!

Hair is a form of expression for both men and women, and as more women use their own hair to express creativity, or just to make their lives easier, men might feel that can do the same thing.

The questions about how we feel about a man with long hair generally, or with the idea that they might have longer or thicker hair than us is only relevant, because the acknowledgement of the beauty of natural hair is so much more relevant now.

Truth be told, men might have been growing out and accepting their hair way before women did in some cases, so even though there is no clear answer, the questions are interesting – to say the least.

So let’s have the discussion: would you date a man with longer, thicker hair than yours?

 

Originally posted 2014-09-28 15:00:44.

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About Petra


Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

About Petra


Hi I'm Petra Lomax , a staff writer and editor for BlackHairInformation.com . I am Jamaican born and raised and moved to the United States in my early 20's. I have a BA in Political Science and International relations as well as an MBA and a Masters In Project Management. I love travel, culture and anything that has to do with creative media and business.

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Comments

  1. S. Latrice Berry

    Once upon a time, my now-hubby had mid-back beautiful hair and i adored it. I always had a weakness for men with hair and when he walked into my life with his hair in a blowout and Yankees headband, I was like “Hey…”. I was relaxed then, but now that we are older and he has since cut his hair for professional reasons and i am now on my natural hair journey, I often fantasize about how powerful and inspiring we’d look walking through downtown, hand-in-hand, Froed out!!! I think we should embrace the natural, no matter the gender.

  2. Tammie Faulkner Taylor
    Tammie Faulkner Taylor

    Unless it’s dreads, I wouldn’t date a man with long hair. Regardless of texture, long hair on men, unless in dreads, is so corny and lame looking to me. Unless it’s dreads, if it’s long enough to pull/grasp, it’s a no no.

  3. MsCDwel

    Nice, short cut on a guy, please.

  4. Brenda

    Interesting article but the duplicate and triple posts of the same comment are too annoying to finish reading.

    1. Alma Ruddock

      It appears that a plugin went crazy Brenda, we have dealt with the duplications but hoping to have the main issue fixed soon 🙂

  5. Ms Moneyca
    Ms Moneyca

    My hair is BSL so no his hair can’t be longer than mine. I don’t even like guys with any length of hair to braid or loc. I like the low cut with the deep waaaaves! Lol

  6. Ashley Watson
    Ashley Watson

    I don’t have a problem with men having hair my dad, babe, and son have hair and its long I take good care of their hair all of them have more hair than me… my babe hair is like 4 times as long as mines and I have no problem with it he loves my short cut

  7. Basha Marshall
    Basha Marshall

    What does hair have to do with who he is… Its all about who the person is within … Hair can cut off and grow back but u can’t change a person for who they are …

  8. Donna Dunkel
    Donna Dunkel

    Yup I’ll have him lookin sharp all the time ooh soo sharp he’ll miss me when he leave n I stop

  9. Ms Marcy

    If he is getting paid for his long thick beautiful hair, then yes. However, I like the Obama look.

  10. Mickalynn

    No. All that hair is maladaptive on a man. If he was in the jungle with all that hair trying to catch dinner and something/someone yanked him up by the hair….what he gonna do? I have dated both long/short haired men… I love a fresh clean cut…just not my preference. Oh and I am definitely not trying to do his hair, my hair, the offispring’s hair and men definitely expect their women to take care of all that.

  11. Nisha

    Actually, I have been with a guy who had better quality hair than mine. I didn’t feel any type of way. I was actually able to comb the guy’s hair which is cool. In my country it’s the norm for guys to have long hair.

  12. LadyNina

    I love long hair and facial hair on a man. My man has long beautiful hair and I love it. I enjoy the quality time doing his hair and it fits his personality perfectly. I get more aggravated when his hair is a mess than he does. I would be so upset if he decided to cut his hair off.

  13. Tabatha

    Sure. I don’t want someone making their decision to date me due to my hair, so I wouldn’t do it to the person I’m dating. Would I be envious yes, but that’s life. My hubby has gorgeous eyelashes, and I have barely there. lol, I didn’t date him for them and I won’t dump him for them either. People need to get to know the person and not worry so much about what’s on their head or not on their head.

  14. dawnwo

    Heck yeah..we can share hair products…

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