That was just one of the questions Wofgang Lisborg pictured below posed on his Instagram, in an effort to start a discussion on the subject. To be honest, I never really thought about it, partly because I am not dating, but even when I used to date, long hair was never a deal breaker for me. The question is though, if a dude had longer or thicker hair than mine, how would that have made me feel?
To be honest, I would be a little jealous; hey, I am just being real, especially if what he has is something I desire. Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t hate on a brotha, but I would feel as if we would have to sit down for a second, and have a talk about why in the world his hair is so amazing, and what I could do to replicate his success and achieve my goals. I think it’s only human to want to know what I could do different, right?
In an interview when Wolfgang was asked what surprised him the most about being a natural male, he said that some women were very prejudice against him for having long hair, which might have sparked his question in the first place.
The thing is, there is more to this story, more angles that we can really use as great discussion points. We thought we would expand on Wolfgang’s discussion with 4 similar, or extension questions of our own, in the hopes of continuing the conversation here.
1. The perception is that we have more women in the Natural Hair Community than men, yet men have always been ‘natural’ (apart from the few that permed back in the day), they never cared about natural hair spaces before so should we share the same platforms now?
By space we mean blogs, platforms and places that we learn and share our own natural journeys. The answer to that question is simple – it is absolutely yes. I personally love hearing the hair story of a guy, because for one, I am fascinated at how they do absolutely nothing to their hair; have the simplest regimens, and have the best hair ever.
We are definitely not partial on this platform, and hope that more guys who decide to grow their hair share their own journey as much as possible. The problem that we hear from time to time, is that we women have carved out a space for ourselves now, and they (men) could have done it themselves but didn’t, so why share now?
Those ideas are so ignorant; we can’t even acknowledge them half the time. We say: share, share, share. We all need to hear about the struggles, and the positive vibes. I just makes acceptance easier and broader.
Originally posted 2014-09-28 15:00:44.