When I started transitioning, I had a few close friends from work who couldn’t understand why I would want to go without relaxers.
They just couldn’t understand why I would ‘prefer to be nappy.” First of all, my hair isn’t even nappy! That was the first thought that crossed my mind. And, even if my hair was nappy, so what! It would be my hair, and apparently I was cool with it. Going natural for me was much more than just simply being tired of relaxers.
Granted, I was tired of paying the exuberant prices over 6 weeks for a touch up, but that wasn’t the sole reason. I simply wanted to see my natural curl pattern, and I wanted to embrace it.
Nappy or not, it was mine. However, my work friends were not trying to hear any of my reasons, they were simply trying to shove their opinions onto me.
I think you need to anticipate this as a natural and be careful around people like that. It happens all to often. I am in no way against relaxers. If that’s what you want to do to your hair, then go for it!
However, some people don’t feel the same way about naturals choosing to be natural. I will admit that in the past I have jokingly made comments to people trying to entice them to come to the natural side, but it was all in fun.
I know that some people truly don’t want to spend the extended time on wash day detangling and that’s perfectly fine! I think the most important thing, whether you’re a natural or non-natural, is that your hair is healthy.
So, if any of you are reading this and you’ve made comments to a natural, or a non-natural about their choices, just keep in mind that it isn’t a good feeling when others criticize what you do to your hair.