They do this for a LIVING
I do not think many readers understand just how much of a business this natural hair thing is.Many of your favorite bloggers and vloggers have been doing this for years and spend tons of hours working on natural hair.
Readers are learning and working with their own hair but vloggers and bloggers are learning everything about hair, techniques, content for posts and vidoes, and answering questions about hair.
We all spend on record about 40 hours a week doing our job and many bloggers and vloggers spend that much time and more on their craft as well.
With that much time spent on their hair, it is easy to see why they have such luscious tresses!!! From product reviews, to the perfect way to create hairstyles, much time is spent on all things natural hair.
It is a job although a loved one but a job nonetheless and one must remember that. Comparing your tresses or knowledge on natural hair to a vlogger or blogger can be detremental to your self-esteem.
The Grass isn’t always greener
On one hand, you see picture perfect videos, tutorials or posts full of knowledge. You do not see the haphazard, sleep-deprived person behind the post or video camera probably with a tangled mess of dirty hair on her head.
You see only see the good and that’s how it is supposed to be, assuming they are perfect 24/7. This is unrealistic and very often wrong. Speaking from experience, your next door neighbor may have her life and hair more put together than me and I do this for a living.
Do not fall for all the glitz and glamour of video editing and tons of research. No one is perfect so swapping your hair with someone else is not going to make your hair struggles any easier.
Just like anything else in life, the grass isn’t always greener somewhere else and all you have to do is water your own lawn and watch it bloom. All the time you spend wishing you had hair like this vlogger or that blogger is precious time taken away from nurturing your own tresses.
Love thyself unconditionally
Is there anyway better to be? It is hard to accept, appreciate and nurture what we may not automatically love. Some are not loving their natural hair and the why is not as important as the, “OK, when are you going to get over whatever hangup you got”.
It is a part of you that was a gift from your parents and a higher being if you believe in one. Look, we all have our bad hair days, looking too fat days, wishing we would look like a model days but they must not run our lives.
Once you see yourself, I mean the REAL you, then you can fully appreciate and nurture your whole body including your hair. Stop the coveting and embrace the tresses that make you a unique and beautiful human being. If you cannot see your beauty no one else will either. Enjoy, love and cherish your beauty from the top of your tresses to the soles of your feet. It is about loving yourself, girl!
Great hair
I have very thin , fine hair. Yes, I look at others and wish my hair was maybe fuller or even longer. My hair grows long but I make it look as full as MY hair can look. Yes, there is a thin line with the idolizing. I know MY hair can only do what MY hair is going to do and I make MY hair look & be the healthiest it can be. I also use products that work on my hair. Everybody is different. Guess I’m saying that o agree with you to a certain extent. DO YOU & BE YOU.
Henna treatment will make your hair appear thicker
Thank you Tracey because I was considering trying the L’oreal volume filler.
Thanks for sharing!
Follow naila1908. She has fine hair and vlogs on YouTube
I’m on it!! Thx Renata … It’s hard finding people with the same hair as mines to see if I can use some of their pointers.
Good reasons to focus on your own hair. I actually cut mine off in order to do a natural hair journey but then I liked it in this baber shop cut close look. Does this count as natural? Just curious.
Yes it does.
Absolutely!
Yes it does. ..
Ok thank you. Lol. Its not that I don’t like to grow my natural hair …its that I am a fitness instructor and even natural my hair (which is one great thing about black hair) is that it is soook thick and when I sweat and I wash it in it’s natural state..its can day 2 days to dry unless I use heat….thank you for the clarification. I like to keep it short …like this. It has always been my favorite style I feel freedom..and cos I feel free I feel my most attractive cos I’m happy lol.
And I still use olive oil shampoo with no lather and leave in conditioner with morocan oil to keep the tiny bit of hair that I do have and my scalp healthy…. 🙂
I wish someone told me this years ago, when i cut all mines off. The women on youtube hair was beautiful but mines made me look like a damn chicken head. Then i relize thats just not my journey, though i still admire natural hairr.
I dont do that. PEople need to learn what suits them cuz not because she has the same hair type doesn’t mean the regimen works for them.
True
The hair that is meant for you, shall be yours
It’s truly that simple
Different products also work differently for every head of hair.
Be kind to your hair and be patient, and your hair will grow as it chooses.
*pats fro*
Awesome!
You can take care and focus on your own hair and it can look just as good as any YouTube guru…..ijs
I do love these pics. Even though it may take a lot of work and patience…look at what our hair can do! And even short like mine it can look so sheen on all of us…I think it is great 🙂 I think we should look at it as our hair grows creatively…black hair is the only hair that has a million types of curls…isn’t that exciting?
Once I became confident in myself in my early 20s. Cuz let’s face it we all have and or still have insecurities and comparing ourselves to one another. But one thing my father taught me is to enjoy what is placed in my own bowl and that’s what I live by. These gurus give me ideas and tricks or even teach me something new, which I’m always up to learning. However under no circumstances do I compare myself to them or anyone. Whatever journey I’m on whether it’s hair, spiritual, or professional is mine and mine alone
It’s just not that serious. I’d like to have my daughter’s hair. I tell her all the time especially when it looks good. I don’t have her hair I have my own and I’m good. I really don’t think anyone goes to bed at night thinking about some vlogers hair.
I love my tight coily curls and as long as it’s healthy, I’m ok with that. Everyone hair is unique and beautiful no matter what the texture is.
I do have fav curlies, but I don’t build a shine to them lol no ma’am. I look at vlogs for styling options and make them mine (whether natural or extensions) and I go to blogs/websites to read beneficial hair info and find hair recipes and make them mine. Great article!
I follow natural85 to learn about natural diy treatments but that is it, not idolize her hair, we both have the same hair texture but oils works for her hair but not for mine.
Hi
Hands up, I used to have hair envy & hated my own hair, thats why I turned to relaxers and extensions and basically abused my hair for most of its life. Since doing the MHM regime, all that has changed – I have begun my ‘New Hair Affair’ – I love my hair.
Before I used to wish it was thicker, longer and had better curl definition, now I am just grateful to have hair. I had started to lose my hairline and had some balding in parts, now through MHM I have learnt how to better care for my hair and have started helping others too with their hair issues.
My hair is still thin and not long but I don’t mind as it means I don’t need to use a lot of product. My curls are now defined and my hairline is growing back, so I am very grateful for small mercies :).
Hair envy is rampant in the Black Community, wether we are Natural or Un-natural but I believe that through education we can learn to love what we were born with. 🙂