We covet our favorite Natural hair superstars; we can’t help it. They have gorgeous tresses and they help guide us through our insecurities about our hair, styles and products and we love them for it.
It’s OK to do so and they may even help in your natural hair journey, but there are some naturals that take this ‘love’ a little too far. There is nothing wrong with liking someone’s hair but actually wanting their hair is never a good thing and even though we jokingly say #haircrush #hairidol it can get serious and actually harm your journey.
There will be pitfalls and failures and often just watching a video of a Youtuber perfecting what you could not do can be uplifting but not always. Not always because if you are investing too much into someone else’s hair, how can you possibly be investing enough time and energy into your own?
There is a fine line between admiring and coveting what others have. Jealousy is a bad reality we have in the natural hair community. Jealousy of hair type, texture and length are rampant although many would like to ignore it.
I am almost certain I will get commentators clowning me saying I speak no truth but it won’t change the reality what I notice among naturals. I STILL hear “I wish I had your curls” or “I wish I had your hair or texture” so instead of just TELLING you not to compare your tresses to others I am going to give you 5 reasons why it is not even necessary. Here goes:
This is first because it is probably the most compelling. Worrying about what is growing out of another head is not going to make your tresses look any more fierce than it already does.
Sometimes an infatuation with another natural’s tresses can become a negative place for you. The main goal for all naturals should be healthy hair that can also bring longer tresses that are strong and luscious.
That comes with patience, hard work and a better understanding of your hair. Often we get caught up in what it looks like right now instead of what it will look like after I get it back healthy.
This is why hiding your tresses under wigs* and weaves* is not healthy if done all the time. You need time and practice working on your own tresses and they need a break from the glue, wig caps* and tight applications.
Your hair will be just as gorgeous as your hair crush even if it does not look the same right now. The point is real work goes into getting there so wasteing time wishing it looked like someone else’s is not helping you.
Originally posted 2014-10-29 15:00:51.